I was browsing and saw a similar thread, but my response didn't really fit. People often ask questions about this and other things. We rarely answer.
My husband and I have been in the lifestyle well over 15 years. It was not his choosing, but it was his choice. By that I mean I cheated on him, but he fought to stay in our marriage. I was caught after only 6 months of very happy matrimony. I just couldn't accept monogamy - especially after settling into married sex so to speak. I fully expected a divorce. We fought and went through counseling. Jeff repeatedly said he wanted to stay married no matter what. I finally told him that my sexual appetite was never, ever going to change and he agreed to a open marriage.
He loves me very much, and I love him. But, he has paid a terrible price to stay in this marriage. It has changed who he is dramatically over the years. We do not have intercourse. We haven't at all since early 2017. Honestly, I do not miss it and he doesn't seem to either. Jeff is impotent. He has been since before the birth of our twins in 2017. He is also quite submissive and effeminate. He is not feminine. In fact, he dislikes the whole notion entirely. But, he is not what one would call "butch" at all. He is medium height and weight and clean shaven - from the ears down - all the way down. Jeff's choice of attire for sex is either complete nude or in a t shirt most often. He appears very casual and non-threatening to lovers and potential lovers.
Jeff has also had a vasectomy and a penile subincision - a bisection. He did this for a host of reasons associated with his feelings about the cuckold lifestyle, but also because of the increased ability to masturbate and enjoy orgasm without erections.
Jeff's favorite sex, after all these years in the lifestyle, is cuckold sex basically. It involves one of three things: Either masturbating while I am with a lover including any interaction with us; oral sex with me while masturbating; or a special masturbation session by himself when especially inspired.
Jeff, of course, enjoys watching me with my lovers. This has not always been the case, and it has always been complicated. But, he has always gotten off on it somehow - even when at its most painful. This has included more and more interaction with my lovers and I over the years depending on who is has been. He has come to tolerate and eventually enjoy contact with these men and has also come to enjoy oral sex and cleaning. Sometimes this involves immediately post-coital, sometimes once they leave or we arrive home, and sometimes on the way home or even a brief passionate "kiss" in the elevator. I have always found this quite hot.
When he is horny or "anxious" for no particular reason, he will often eat me out and masturbate while sucking on my breasts. He will often do this without result, or until he manages whatever emissions he can on my leg or on the sheets. This is very tender and sweet all things considered.
Finally, if I am meeting a lover or otherwise engaged and Jeff is not present, I will often bring him something home that he enjoys very much. If it is a regular, I will let him eat me out and then retire by himself to look at porn or talk with his "friends" in the lifestyle. If it is not with a regular, I will most often have used rubbers with new gentlemen. Jeff enjoys it if I bring these home tied up in a loose knot for his enjoyment. As I have said, with more than 15 years in the lifestyle, he has evolved quite considerably. We will either put these in a small refrigerator in his little study - where he keeps a day bed for masturbation and porn, ore will take them in there right away for enjoyment. If I have time, I will sometimes go in there and watch him disrobe and warm his computer up that he uses for porn. He will put on a very comfortable long t shirt and I will have him getup on the day bed. He will slip on one of the used condoms, turn away from me and bend over with his ass up and towards me. I will rub the condom into his penis and subincision while he asks me about my day and the man I was with. After a while, I will most likely leave him to some friend that he chats with so they can enjoy this experience together.
As I said, sex looks very different after many years and many turns in the lifetsyle.
My husband and I have been in the lifestyle well over 15 years. It was not his choosing, but it was his choice. By that I mean I cheated on him, but he fought to stay in our marriage. I was caught after only 6 months of very happy matrimony. I just couldn't accept monogamy - especially after settling into married sex so to speak. I fully expected a divorce. We fought and went through counseling. Jeff repeatedly said he wanted to stay married no matter what. I finally told him that my sexual appetite was never, ever going to change and he agreed to a open marriage.
He loves me very much, and I love him. But, he has paid a terrible price to stay in this marriage. It has changed who he is dramatically over the years. We do not have intercourse. We haven't at all since early 2017. Honestly, I do not miss it and he doesn't seem to either. Jeff is impotent. He has been since before the birth of our twins in 2017. He is also quite submissive and effeminate. He is not feminine. In fact, he dislikes the whole notion entirely. But, he is not what one would call "butch" at all. He is medium height and weight and clean shaven - from the ears down - all the way down. Jeff's choice of attire for sex is either complete nude or in a t shirt most often. He appears very casual and non-threatening to lovers and potential lovers.
Jeff has also had a vasectomy and a penile subincision - a bisection. He did this for a host of reasons associated with his feelings about the cuckold lifestyle, but also because of the increased ability to masturbate and enjoy orgasm without erections.
Jeff's favorite sex, after all these years in the lifestyle, is cuckold sex basically. It involves one of three things: Either masturbating while I am with a lover including any interaction with us; oral sex with me while masturbating; or a special masturbation session by himself when especially inspired.
Jeff, of course, enjoys watching me with my lovers. This has not always been the case, and it has always been complicated. But, he has always gotten off on it somehow - even when at its most painful. This has included more and more interaction with my lovers and I over the years depending on who is has been. He has come to tolerate and eventually enjoy contact with these men and has also come to enjoy oral sex and cleaning. Sometimes this involves immediately post-coital, sometimes once they leave or we arrive home, and sometimes on the way home or even a brief passionate "kiss" in the elevator. I have always found this quite hot.
When he is horny or "anxious" for no particular reason, he will often eat me out and masturbate while sucking on my breasts. He will often do this without result, or until he manages whatever emissions he can on my leg or on the sheets. This is very tender and sweet all things considered.
Finally, if I am meeting a lover or otherwise engaged and Jeff is not present, I will often bring him something home that he enjoys very much. If it is a regular, I will let him eat me out and then retire by himself to look at porn or talk with his "friends" in the lifestyle. If it is not with a regular, I will most often have used rubbers with new gentlemen. Jeff enjoys it if I bring these home tied up in a loose knot for his enjoyment. As I have said, with more than 15 years in the lifestyle, he has evolved quite considerably. We will either put these in a small refrigerator in his little study - where he keeps a day bed for masturbation and porn, ore will take them in there right away for enjoyment. If I have time, I will sometimes go in there and watch him disrobe and warm his computer up that he uses for porn. He will put on a very comfortable long t shirt and I will have him getup on the day bed. He will slip on one of the used condoms, turn away from me and bend over with his ass up and towards me. I will rub the condom into his penis and subincision while he asks me about my day and the man I was with. After a while, I will most likely leave him to some friend that he chats with so they can enjoy this experience together.
As I said, sex looks very different after many years and many turns in the lifetsyle.
