Why do I like/love the idea of my wife getting fucked by some primal black guy?
Well, start with years of reading Penthouse forum and magazines like Variations, where it seemed every other article started with, "I've always wanted to see my woman with another man." sort of thing. . Add years of whacking off as a 13 to 18 year old after reading and fantasizing about the same. . Add an adventurous wife, a stable marriage and life, and willingness to take sex to a higher level by visiting a swinging club, after trying to have sex with one of her friends husbands while I watched. (he could not unless I was not there and he had had too much alcohol.)
After him, we talked at length, and she confided that she had a fantasy of a black man. I had no problem watching. My real concern was for her safety first. . . It took us about a month and a half to find a black man to fill the bill and he was quite willing. We met over dinner, then off to the club. . As the evening progressed, I began to experience something called Cuckold Angst. As Jpeterson36 noted:
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We all feel guilty and like bitches for denying our husbands and yet strangely I find these men appear to be extremely into it all despite their protests. They want these ultimatums, they are afraid of loosing control and yet it makes them hotter than anything. I have seen Mark cum twice without even touching himself and that was when my lover told him that he owned me sexually and when I told Mark I was pregnant. I also notice Mark getting a hard on when I refuse sex to him and even though he is vocally whining about the situation his little tent is obvious to me.. . "(1)
Sound familiar?
Maybe this from newaussiecuck:
"However, part of me is scared that she will actually go for it, and part of me is scared that she won't.
If she does go for it, then will I really be able to handle it? Will it hurt our relationship, will I end up losing her? (Not likely as our relationship is very strong and she is satisfied with our sex life I believe.
"She wouldn't be cucking me out of dissatisfaction, more so as it would be something we would both enjoy and brings us even closer together. Her giving me something that I need, and me giving her the freedom to enjoy herself). . . I know that for it to ever happen I will need to take that leap, but right now and for such a long time I am stuck. This isn't something new to me, I have been aware of and fantasized about cuckolding for the best part of 20 years, before I even met me wife (we are in our 40's)."(2)
Yeah, I hear ya brother. . I felt the same way when my ex-wife first took another guys cock as I was there. That was 1980. I still vividly remember it. It took less than seven years of reading what seemed exciting as hell to become ingrained in my mind and assure me, I wanted to see "My wife with another man." Ok. . .It stuck. .
Back to cuckold angst. . .
For me it was a weird set of circumstances. Bobbi agreeing to make love to a black man. . She was going for it. It COULD hurt our relationship. And let me throw in aside here. . .You better be damned ready mentally when it happens. If you are in the "lifestyle" you know drama will get you on the outs in NO TIME. . People having recreational sex don't want fucking games. If your wife wants to fuck someone and you are not happy about it, keep it to yerself, you probably started this *******. Fantasizing about who knows what, but regressing to a baby when you don't get your way.
If you decide to do it, Do it. . let her enjoy her chance. If the guy fucks better than you do, he fucks better than you. If his cock is bigger, its bigger. . Do you want to risk this for sexual thrill? THAT BEING SAID. . .
She had agreed, and we had found someone. I had not met him before we went out, but had seen several pictures and he appeared good looking. Bobbi liked him and that was all that mattered. I wondered what it would be like. Our "bluefish" encounters of the past were all with men I knew and picked or controlled. Now it was her choice. .
What if his cock was bigger? He lasted longer. . The questioning of self is, in the right mindset, sexually alluring as hell. The risk alone is part of the thrill. . you erotasize the fear. When the night arrived, we had dinner, and it was clear she was my wife (matching rings and age) and Will (we seem to have an issue with that name. . . ) and Will was a special sort of guest. Bobbi was dressed in a one piece cotton dress with convertible top that would allow easy access to her breasts. I of course drove and acted as personal servant.
During the evening, watching Bobbi dance with him, exclusively, watching him kiss her on the dance floor and build intimacies that had been mine, took a toll. . .It got me hotter than hell to know this man would take possession of my wife and her sexuality that night. That he would share the night with her, getting his rocks off with her, and she fulfilling her long time fantasy of being taken by a black man. All night I wondered how it would evolve and we had not even gotten in the door yet. I want to add that I deliberatly took several pictures of them outside the club, in several poses, with his arms around her, with him kissing her. .with him playing with her boobs. . They later proved to be a strong stimulus for me.
Back to the original question. The night went well and provided fodder for several sexual nights to come. (if you will). We settled into a lifestyle with her dating black men for a several years, and for us it worked. She never got attached to the guys and there was no cheating. It was hot as hell. . .and still is. . .But it is not for everyone.
1. https://jpeterson36.livejournal.com/4346.html
2. http://ourhotwives.org/forum/viewtopic.php?t=41729