It was all the same post. I know for a fact that my husband would never put up with a guy walking into our house anytime he pleases to have sex. There is not one chance in hell that he would allow a bull to drop by at 3AM and bring friends we have never even met. He gets awakened and kicked out of his bed so that the guys can fuck his wife.
If I understand what you are saying is that you are in a similar situation and that you and your wife communicate. The original poster if it's true has given away all control. I guess if you don't feel any discomfort from being kicked out of your bed in the middle of the night so that your wife can be gangbanged by strangers. OK just one guy you know one guy you don't know. If you are communicating and this is what you both want, then you are getting exactly what you desire.
However, the question was do I calm things down or let it go. I'm saying the original posters opinion does not matter. The bull is now completely in charge.
For clarity, I meant that both
@inkedangels and
@worshipu9 should communicate with their wives, though probably a moot point in the latter case, as it sounds like that situation ran its course and is in the past. But those were the two stories to which I was referring. You were right, 3am was the original post. The second one was 4am. Apologies if the way I tried to direct my responses was confusing.
And yes, I did bring up my situation for comparison's sake, though I'm not sure I'd call it similar. We're parents and there's no way it would work for my wife to have bulls drop by in the middle of the night, even if that's what she wanted. You make very valid points about how truthful the post is to begin with, and how it may just be what all involved actually desire. It's clear from reading this forum there are many out there who think this would be a hot scenario, to fantasize about at the very least. I can also say first hand that sometimes what seems very hot to fantasize about can sometimes become a lot to deal with when it actually starts to happen. The scenario in this thread isn't how my wife and I choose to play, but every situation is different. I know a cuck couple where the cuck is happiest when his wife travels to hook up with as many men as possible. That would never work for us either, but we have become great friends with them, and we respect that things work differently for different people.
But the main reason I was responding somewhat idealistically in this thread is that for me, it can be hard to read so many nervous advice-seeking posts, asking whether what's going on is normal or ok. If it's ok with everyone involved and nobody's getting genuinely hurt, generally I'd argue that it's ok. But if you signed up for a little bit of power play, ceding power to more dominant playmates, that might come with a bit of uncertainty and discomfort. Even that's ok, if it's the dynamic you all want to explore, and you can work through it with your partner. But if the discomfort is going beyond feelings you just need to process and relax into, and veer into harmful emotions that affect your daily life or your relationship with your spouse, it's probably time to reassess the situation together as a couple and make any necessary adjustments.
For what it's worth, I agree with
@KeikoandSarge:
My friend, as with all parts of this lifestyle, honesty is key. If you’re not cool with something, tell her.
If the story is true and this request for advice is genuine, it's something that needs to be discussed. If a couple can't talk about things in a healthy way, this can be a pretty intense and unforgiving lifestyle. But the wife in this story might not realize what she's putting her husband through if he doesn't tell her. Maybe he told her he thought being cucked would be hot, and this is her idea of giving it a try for him. Maybe she could use some feedback. Or, perhaps she knows it'll drive him crazy, and she believes that's what he wants and that this is within his capacity to handle. And maybe it really is something he can handle, and he's just here to work through these intense and often conflicting feelings. Or maybe he has to figure out what his own limits are (in which case I'd still argue he should include her in the discussion). And maybe all my speculation is incorrect and the reality is something else entirely. Regardless, I don't believe it's ever too late for a couple that actually loves each other to start communicating their needs to each other. The only way the OP is truly "fucked" is if he tries to work through his feelings with his wife and she just plain won't listen, and does whatever she feels like doing without a single care about how it affects her husband and their partnership. But if that's the case, it seems unlikely there's much there to try and preserve anyway.
I'm not going to say it never happens that a woman might lose interest in her partner after straying for a while. I'm sure it's happened, I just think it's far less common than people probably assume when they think about this lifestyle. In any relationship, but especially non-monogamous ones, honesty and open communication are crucial. But I don't believe there are many married women who would disagree with that, no matter how into extramarital sex they are. Even the self-proclaimed sluttiest hotwives I've ever met, who may have to sometimes remind their cucks of the power dynamics inherent to this lifestyle, still love their husbands and don't want their marriages to end. When things get tough for their hubbies to handle, they work it out together, give assurances, make time for reconnection, evaluate limits, adjust boundaries and expectations, etc. I generally make the assumption that if someone is bothering to seek advice about it, a relationship is probably worth at least trying to preserve. If that's the case here, I personally feel like "don't be afraid to put in some effort to make sure you're both ok and your marriage is healthy," is probably more effective advice than "you're fucked." But perhaps I'm making too many assumptions here.
