The deal isn't with her the deal is with you. She understands her place in the world and has fully accepted it. You, on the other hand, don't understand your place in the world so it's difficult for you to understand (which is why you ask questions.)
Look at yourself in the mirror and then look at the guy in the pic. You simply can't compete. He knows it, she knows, you should know it so what is meant to be is what will happen. He'll dick her down and you'll continue to watch or listen while he bangs her. Moreover, be thankful you're even allowed to watch or listen. If it were me you'd probably stay your ass outside, in the cold or in the car, but maybe allowed to listen via cellphone. Take it as a blessing.