We have a guy we see pretty regularly. 5 years off and on, steady for a year now. Always at our home. We're comfy at home.
Wife suggested his place. He lives in an apartment about 20 min away, he's divorced and is free every other weekend.
I was against it, he was OK with it, wife really wanted trying his place. Small 2 bedroom apartment. Very clean. Unfamiliar, different everything, different bathroom, bedroom, bed, different smells. Wife really got off on the whole deal, she had a great time. But WE had to leave and drive home. I was used to HIM leaving then wife and I had quiet time sex after he was gone. Several more visits at our home. Wife wanted to try overnight at his place. That was very different but it was fun.
Host...at a home?
Host...pay for the room?