It doesn't matter what you're looking for going into it, all of them begin simply with "the first time" and touch you to "I want more!"Honestly, both! Sometimes I'm craving the objectification of just being a "human fleshlight" that the guy or multiple guys use to get off. Other times, I want the intimacy of an on going thing. Something where you can really learn about each other and explore and let loose with someone you trust and respect.