I’m having the hardest time finding a man. Any suggestion on where you are meeting guys?
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Where are you finding your men?
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That’s part of my issue. Because of our jobs, we really have to be discreet about our personal life.
Depending where you live here are some options with our opinions.
Craigslist: decent but you have to navigate through the BS. Always meet in public but overall you can place an ad with all your needs and you will eventually find a gold nugget you seek.
Dating sites: POF has worked for us. We have a shared account and added details to our district ion. Again it’s a bit proactive you all might have to be the ones reaching out.
Swinger sites: good if you live in or close to a big city. Most good ones you must pay for.
Clubs: to us. It’s one of the best options. Get dolled up and go out flirting. Wear QoS gear and it’s a good conversation started.
We went through that stage. We have had nothing but great experiences and now venturing out a bit more. Personally we think Blackman are very respectful and understand the lifestyle. Even a Blackman that has never been in it before is able to listen learn and join in with out vilolating privacy agreements. Don’t let your fears stop you from having an amazing time. Relax and enjoy yourself. At the end of the day it’s for the couple
When we go out to the casinos, we do the same. My wife has a QoS necklace that she wears. It is small and not obvious but anyone who is interested in her sees it. She is also very good at finding ways to start a conversation and making sure the guy sees it.
I guess that’s another thought...maybe I don’t need to be so focused on finding someone with cuckolding experience. Maybe just finding someone and venturing into it together is the way to go?
The wife and I use SDC[dot]com for meeting a bull / BBC. We've had some misses but overall it is better for arranging a meet and lowers the chance of a fake.
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We had our best experiences with guys that didn’t even know it was a thing. We slowly explain things and as we all get comfortable we move in. It’s been great and has turned into on going true friendships. It’s importnat everyone is on the same page and everyone communicates. We even have group text messages.
Most of the Blackman that we’ve talked to don’t even know what a QoS is. It’s awesome giving them the details and link to this site.
A lot that we meet either don't know or are not interested. But when they do know and are interested, it makes things move quickly.
Yea. We’ve talked to some guys that are not interested but again very respectful. The interactions with Blackman that are and are not interested has gave us the confidence to be more free. Now she carries QOS cards with a little information and an email address that she gives out to blackman she likes. Great conversation starter as well
That is interesting what is a QOS card and what does she have on it we know what you have gone through we have been through the same issues she has met a couple guys from the casino then they have introduced her to friends .
I'm glad to see I'm not the only one having this difficulty despite living in a huge city!!
Being single and "mature" probably does not help!!
It is so true you would think it is easy to find a guy but most couples want a clean cut guy and to be honest most are happily married but when you find the one guy if you want others ask him to share and most black men are happy to do that we have found that has worked really good for Sharon
From my experience is a lot of people go out looking for a bull and not everyone is as open or in the lifestyle so it becomes intimidating. I always tell people the best way is to play the long game when it comes to finding boyfriends/bulls. Don't go out with your husband, wedding ring, asking black men to cuck your husband while fucking you. It sends a message of potential drama and complexity that a lot of people are going to want to avoid. My advice is go out alone as if you were single. Find a black man you are interested in and see if you connect. Feel out the situation and if the guy you are with is looking for a good night or looking for something long term. This might mean you see a few different guys. Offer information as things go on and it feels appropriate. Don't lie. If he ask if you are married tell him you are and offer something up like a hall pass or something. Not too many people like the idea of a angry husband coming into the club or something along those lines. You might have your husband's permission and encouragement but most people jump to the drama side of things. Play the long game and take some time and you might find a few people for different moods and feelings.
You hit the nail on the head husbands just stay out of it. If down the road the black friend is ok with a husband being involved then it is fine to be honest I have only watched my wife with 2 black men of the maybe 8 or 9 she has been with.
It isn't easy. It takes time and it takes patience. We have done the craigslist and advertised on other sites. We haven't found one yet. But we have found Black men who gladly fuck me and do it more than once. The best thing to do is to start out looking for a fwb, then lead up to a Bull. Sometimes it takes a guy who is willing to learn and explore with you. Again that can take time and patience. Like others have said take your time and be honest and upfront....don't hide who you are and always remember to meet in public first, no strings attached.
All of those are really good points it usually doesn't happen over night . for us we were on vacation in Las Vegas and it happened there totally out of the blue not planed but for maybe a year we had talked about her with another man not thinking black man but that is how it happened and like I said she just gained so much more confidence in herself and just a much more positive out look .
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