Finding respectful, reliable BBC
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Manofsteele
Male
After all the talk. The messages of men saying they were available and down to fuck. NOT ONE of these men came through. We get ghosted, and ignored. All talk. Normal respectful people consider that to do something like this we need to be able to plan and prepare. They understand that if you say you want to come by and play with us on a certain night that we will get a definite answer so we can plan the evening. Normal people understand that if you say you plan on doing something that she will go through a lot of effort to get dolled up for you. To just ghost people or fail to communicate at all is absolutely disrespectful. We haven't found one man who hasn't done this. VERY frustrating.
Manofsteele
Male
This is our experience exactly... Im starting to think most of the men on here are just pieces of *******!
This is Def 100% true. We've had many many flakes, ghosts, and plain rude people. Its pretty incredible the amount of non respectful people in the lifestyle. You would think most folks and bulls would be gentleman and polite upfront but we've unfornately had the opposite experince. We mostly try to meet bulls face to face at clubs or swinger events or other face to face meetings these days bc so many flakes liars and ghosts online.
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the breeze 81
Male
Just my opinion but ones that seem perfect or super eager are usually a bust. If there’s not a bit of reluctance on their part I’d be weary.
We ran into that a time or two years ago when we were active. I don’t think it’s unique to a cuckold marriage as we have single friends who battle with people being different when they meet them and no showing as well.
No experts here but patience is probably the best ingredient. We were out of the LS for a long time and recently got back in. Wife went on a dating site and had close to a thousand messages prior to giving a couple guys a shot. Two of the three fizzled at varying points in the weeks prior. Ended up getting a good vibe from the one guy and we just had our first hook up with him. As mentioned above he was cautious. Partially because the unknown, and partially because it’s just not that common in the real world to have a couple in the LS.
Our therapist says it’s estimated about 1 in every 5,000 or so married white couples are in some variation of the LS. Thats actually engaging in, not fantasizing which is obviously much more common.
Anyone who acts like this is a societal standard or norm should be weary. Good luck.
Many people online are primarily fantasy. When you are looking for substance and quality on or offline, get to know the person first. People will usually show you who they are in a short period of time, so better to see it early before scheduling a date. Seek the connection first before the physical, be patient, seek out a good heart/mind, and get to know each other; this will save you a lot of time and weed out most. There are some quality dominants and nice guys out here (me, haha!), who seek substance, quality, and great times; always challenging to find each other offline. But, when it does happen, it is AMAZING!
the breeze 81
Male
It is dis respectful and I am sorry that you have had to go theough this and it puts a bad taste in peoples mouth! It really makes it hard for those guys who are truly genuine about meeting and following through!
ChubbyGermany
Male
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respectful and reliable and without "dominant-complex" = 100%
Exactly
ChubbyGermany
Male
Thank you sir!
No problem
ChubbyGermany
Male
Great to see that Whites and Blacks are EQUAL...rare find here sometimes I think
I wish you were in Michigan.
Well if you are a jerk it does not matter what color you are!
Not all of them are I am a good guy who goes by his word if I promise I will do what I say I will!
ChubbyGermany
Male
GREAT attitude! For example: I am white but my favourite Marvel action hero has always been: Luke Cage alias POWERMAN! WITHOUT ANY racial or "white-submissive" *******
.."just" because I liked / like himGreatGREAT atirude! For example: I am white but my favourite Marvel action Hero has always been: Luke Cage alias POWERMAN! WITHOUT ANY racial or "white-submissive" *******
DeeandShelly
Male
Perhaps try in person initial meetings, such as swingers clubs, especially during weekdays when singles are usually allowed. Sit at the bar and have some nice conversations with the single white guys, while looking for black guys.
