You call people 'assholes' on a fantasy site? No one comes here to be marriage counselors. I'm sure 100% of us come here to talk interracial sex. 'Universally condemn that pos'??
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You call people 'assholes' on a fantasy site? No one comes here to be marriage counselors. I'm sure 100% of us come here to talk interracial sex. 'Universally condemn that pos'??
sure, but her full honesty (and disclosure), contrition, and a determination and commitment to making herself and her actions understood to him can play a huge part in the way he deals with this. that's not an easy thing. when a person doesn't fully understand or accept their own urges, desires, and reasons for doing things, it makes it difficult to explain, and particularly painful to express to someone who has been hurt by those actions.
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Your name alone is the start of TROUBLE lol... men on here want a 'faithful whore'. You want your women to be YOUR ideal woman and your porn slut. smdh....
If you are a BBC slut and it makes you happy, be that and own it. If you are NOT? you probably should leave here and any other IR site you are on.
There is a big difference between reality and fantasy. You cross the line here when you listen to people who think getting pregnant by strange men, is such a grand idea! Or the men who call white women BBC whores and sluts... Also the white women who iidentify themselves as such, going on record bragging about sleeping with 8 different men in a weeks time. Just so much ignorance here.
dont get me wrong it ain't a problem for ME lol
I know u seen and heard it all on this site. all kinds of crazy lol
I think it would be better hearing from Vanessa on how things turn out for her, instead of all the hypotheticals. But one thing is for sure (according to her), her husband has now been cuckolded, and its up to him as to how he handles it. Who knows, he may strangely find that his wife's little fling turns him on. That's how a lot of cuckolds find out they like it. I believe the bigger chance is, however, that she has damaged her marriage, and its going to take a lot of time to heal the betrayal.
At any rate, maybe she will decided to update the forum later. Mac
At any rate, maybe she will decided to update the forum later. Mac
[QUOTEadvise cNfries, post: 723591, member: 1129"]I think it would be better hearing from Vanessa on how things turn out for her, instead of all the hypotheticals. But one thing is for sure (according to her), her husband has now been cuckolded, and its up to him as to how he handles it. Who knows, he may strangely find that his wife's little fling turns him on. That's how a lot of cuckolds find out they like it. I believe the bigger chance is, however, that she has damaged her marriage, and its going to take a lot of time to heal the betrayal.
At any rate, maybe she will decided to update the forum later. Mac[/QUOTE]
Sound advise..
At any rate, maybe she will decided to update the forum later. Mac[/QUOTE]
Sound advise..
But what if their relationship was built on trust? What if the ability to be totally honest, vulnerable, and emotionally naked with each other was one of the biggest reasons why they made their relationship serious once the initial attraction and infatuation wore off. That's a lot to have with someone. But all of that could be gone now. It doesn't mean that the relationship was never great to begin with.
TBH I'd probably stay with her for the sake of the *******. But I'd constantly keep a watch on her, including the cell phone family locator service and the requirement to answer her phone immediately when I call. I'd also not let her spend time alone with her friends, and tell her family about what she did. I'd also require biannual STD/HIV testing. And occasionally I'd lose my temper with her and she'd just have to deal with it. Either way the ******* will be told the truth when they're old enough. She knows what she did and if she truly loved me and loved the family we created together, she'd tolerate it and be grateful that I'm taking her back at all.
It should never be done behind a loving spouse's back. Swinging is different from cheating. I'm sorry to hear about this because you're young, impressionable, got caught up in a fantasy, and are accepting responsibility and seem genuinely remorseful. But I can't say that I'd be kind if I were in his shoes.
I'd have to disagree with you Mac. As you know, I'd love to marry a girl who swings IR and even gets pregnant by her lovers. I actively seek out girls with black babies now. I could easily be turned on by the IR swinging.
But I could never be turned on by the cheating and betrayal by the person I loved and thought loved me back. That should pour cold water on any turn on that he might have developed in the future.
It's good that he found out from her. If she told me right away and showed serious remorse, then I could possibly trust her again. That way, I'd at least know that I could take her at her word if I ask her if she's keeping herself clean.
shocked, I'm a bit puzzled here ... exactly what are you disagreeing with me about on this post? There's probably no one on this site that discourages married individuals to cheat more so than I. That's why some posters, here, hate my posts ... they feel I simply pop too many fantasy bubbles. So I challenge anyone on this forum to produce even ONE LINE where I have encouraged a married female to be unfaithful to her marriage commitment.
Also, I could patch my conversations with Vanessa into this discussion to prove to you that I was most vocal with her about not cheating, but I won't do that due to the confidentiality of the discussions. If she comes back to update this forum, maybe she will be willing to confirm our discussions.
Lastly, MOST of the topics on this website are about cuckolding, and a many, many posters encourage married females, here, to cheat on their husbands; I'm certainly not in that crowd, having been with my wife 20 years now.
So, I think you have me, and this topic, all wrong.
Mac
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I'm disagreeing about the part where you said that he might just be turned on by the whole thing. When it involves cheating and feelings of emotional betrayal, it doesn't usually become a turn on, unless the whole thing drives him so mad that it causes his entire pleasure and rewards system to be turned upside down. That could happen as it's a way for humans to survive and adapt. But otherwise, I don't see him getting turned on by it.
...Well, now, this is taking us right into the very heart of "cuckolding". I'd like to share with you (since you may not have read it in my other posts) an experience I had while in college. My sophomore year I met and started dating a freshman female who, by all 3 of my roommates, was one of the most beautiful women I had ever dated ( prior to my wife, of course
), and for about 4 months or so we were almost inseparable. My roommates were so envious, especially on weekends when she would often sleep over and I'd bang her a half dozen times while they listened.... Anyways, the relationship started to change, where she would have other things "she had to do", and I found out, through one of her so-called friends that she was banging a couple other guys besides me. My GF had said she was going home for a weekend, but instead was entertaining this guy at her place for the weekend. I couldn't believe it and drove to her place to see. It practically destroyed me for over a month, but strangely, when I found out she was fucking other guys, I got an erection and masturbated at least a half dozen times over the visualization of it all. Mind you, I knew nothing of what cuckolding was about back then. The thing is, the overwhelming emotional power ball we get when something like this happens, affects different men in different ways ... some get turned on, while others get turned off. So, some men, when they find out their wives are cheating DO, in fact, strangely find their cheating and the visualization of them fucking other men a Big Turn On.
...She wanted to continue dating me BUT confessed that she wanted to date other guys as well, and I simply could not handle it, so we broke up.
So, therein lies the strange world of cuckolding.
can't agree more! even if both of you are into the fantasy, making it real is totally different. you think and feels things you didn't expect and they can easily become overwhelming.
i hope you can work things out sweetheart. for the sake of the ******* but also for your own well-being and your husband's.
Interpersonal relationships are one of the more difficult skills to master. Some people never get it. Bear in mind the brain doesn't really mature until the early 20's. One of the last last thing that develops is judgement. It is one of the reason's I prefer mature women over 40. Their head is more likely to be screwed on straight and they know what they want, why they want it and the possible consequences. Young people often do not grasp the real scope of their actions until too late as appears to be the case in this thread.
A couple of month's ago I saw a young woman with a tee shirt that read
I AM A WOMAN
What do I want?
I don't know
When do I want it?
NOW
The statement on her T-shirt was probably an accurate assessment of her attitudes at the young age she obviously was.
A couple of month's ago I saw a young woman with a tee shirt that read
I AM A WOMAN
What do I want?
I don't know
When do I want it?
NOW
The statement on her T-shirt was probably an accurate assessment of her attitudes at the young age she obviously was.
An update from Vanessa:
This is the short message she left me in my mailbox. She's still quite upset and concerned, however, I assured her that the efforts she was now taking were positive moves to heal up her marriage.
So, let's all wish her the best in her mending process.
Keep it "fantasy" and "up front" folks ... the real "cuckolding" deal is not a good idea if you value your marriage or relationships.
Mac
This is the short message she left me in my mailbox. She's still quite upset and concerned, however, I assured her that the efforts she was now taking were positive moves to heal up her marriage.
Actually I came here for the sole purpose of an update. We are still together and have a very long and painful road ahead. Hopefulyy we will heal and put my behavior and actions behind us one day. we will be going to counceling together, I will be going to therapy.( my own choice)
I know right now everything is still shakey due to the damage I have caused and the hurt I have caused to my husband but he and I have vowed to do everything we can to make it work.
You may feel free to share this on the board if you wish. I thank everyone for their concern and you personally for your help. If anyone is thinking of cheating, do NOT. you will feel emotional pain like you never imagined and you will cause it the same. Hold to what you already have and honor it. You will never regret that. Love you all, Vanessa
vanessabbc, Today at 11:37 AM Report
I know right now everything is still shakey due to the damage I have caused and the hurt I have caused to my husband but he and I have vowed to do everything we can to make it work.
You may feel free to share this on the board if you wish. I thank everyone for their concern and you personally for your help. If anyone is thinking of cheating, do NOT. you will feel emotional pain like you never imagined and you will cause it the same. Hold to what you already have and honor it. You will never regret that. Love you all, Vanessa
vanessabbc, Today at 11:37 AM Report
So, let's all wish her the best in her mending process.
Keep it "fantasy" and "up front" folks ... the real "cuckolding" deal is not a good idea if you value your marriage or relationships.
Mac
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