No, it sounds like you can’t handle an opinion you don’t agree with. You asked, i answered. I love dominate men. Cuckolding isn’t dominant. It’s that simple. IDGAF what it means to you, you asked for other’s opinions.
You are categorically wrong though? I didn't ask you to be weirdly anti-sub. I don't care if you have a low opinion of subs, it's the obvious relish with which you go on about this as if it's something we need to know. I asked for opinions. I gave my opinion on your opinion back. You gave me your opinion on my opinion back to me in the form of another opinion.
And I'm giving you another opinion back. That I don't think you understand the lifestyle. Femdom isn't constrained to one or two ways of being. Femdom means a lot of things to millions of people. There is no way all will be the exact same thing. Some people take it very seriously, others don't. Others just like to dabble with it for mutual fun. It isn't the porno cliché of black leather, whips and chains every single time.
"Cuckolding isn't dominant" - for you. Clearly that is how you see it. But do not try and state that as if it's not just your opinion and preference, and somehow, a fact. It's just your opinion. You feign making an opinion, neutrally, when you're also making declarative statements. "Cuckolding isn't dominant" is a statement. It can also be your opinion, but it is absolutely not a fact. To some people, there is a specific femdom aspect or edge to how they see and react to cuckolding. You're just wrong if you actually think there is a consensus opinion on it being 'not dominant' as it were.
It depends on the people doing it. I know full-well there are some women who just love interracial and loathe cuckolding stuff and don't even see it as necessary. Other women proactively seek out cuckolding lifestyles because they enjoy it for any number of reasons.
It's fairly obvious what I'm saying here. That is why I disregard your toxic opinion stating itself as a fact when it's not. Speak for yourself? You think it's 'not dominant'. Congratulations, that is your opinion, and you're more than welcome to it. Nobody is saying that it can't just be how you specifically prefer to see it. But many other people will go out of their way to express near infinitely variable levels dominance from it. There often is a femdom aspect.
I first became aware of what cuckolding even was, because on a social media platform, there was a blog called, 'Femdom Hotwife Cuckold Interracial'. Note: the femdom, being first in line in that blog name. She used to really go to town on posting interracial stuff on tumblr in it's heyday before it banned pornography after it got sold to new owners or something. It nearly destroyed it. She was one of the many blogs that just ended after that/was removed. I'd followed her blog with a vaguely morbid curiosity for years, back to when I think I first found it in about early 2014. She'd take her cuckolding to intense and sometimes off-putting levels, and she openly spoke about how much she enjoyed emasculating her husband and especially how much she liked pegging him.
She was a wealthy American woman who cuckolded her husband with a range of Black men, and she pegged him regularly and openly discussed it. I remember being into femdom since I was 18 but being wary and turned off by the idea of chastity, but then I happened on her blog and many others like it as a result of it, and I was made aware of the vast scale of the growing lifestyle. It didn't mean that say, back in the 2010's, I immediately accepted I was turned on by it. I was in denial about it for several years and it was an emotional tug of war in my thoughts and in my spirit. I felt as though I was less of a man if I even contemplated looking at it. But here I am, on B2W.
I love femdom so much, and it has been part of my experience and my growth as a human being for years now. But to me, for a good portion of that time, I never really thought cuckolding had to be part of it. In fact, I still honestly don't. It's just nice to look at I guess but I am not unrealistic about how challenging that would be for me emotionally as well as practically speaking. Realistically, even if I had a Domme partner, she might not even be into it and that's just fine. I think you're wildly misunderstanding me here.
I am open minded to a lot of femdom but never without remembering to stay realistic and 'keep it real', about what is likely to be possible to explore in my own life. The main realisation for me, was that, I wasn't afraid of it anymore as I used to be when I was in my early 20's. Go back to that time, and I'd have been mildly annoyed with the *entire thing* and genuinely considered it vaguely racist and unpleasant. But looking back, I know now I was wrong to think that and I was just being defensive over what should be straightforwardly, the pleasure of the woman. What I realised was, like with chastity (something I also used to really fear), I didn't need to be so upset about it and just chill and understand it's perfectly reasonable within the context of consenting adults engaging in such activities as long as there genuinely is love and mutual care and respect.
What worried me about chastity was an ingrained disdain for the optics of it, and the damage I thought it must be doing to the sub. Looking back, there was a time when I was quite convinced it was doing some kind of tissue damage to the penis of the sub locked away for who knows how long. Maybe that is actually still partly reasonable to think, I don't know. But I do know that my aversion to it was a bit much in the old days, and that I didn't give it a chance enough. Years later (around 2020) I bought my first chastity device after having been 'cool with the imagery' so to speak for a few years already. I got over the whole optics fear over it years ago. But it still took me until 2020 just stop worrying and try it.
In general, I find them a bit uncomfortable and maybe I haven't found my perfect, snug chastity cage. And me even talking about this so casually, would never have even crossed my mind as a 22 year old or something like that. Now, in my 30's, I understand. I understood in my mid-late 20's technically as well. It's just, I don't have a Domme so the real significance of me putting myself in chastity is relatively much lesser than if a woman told me to do it and moreover, actively took an interest in doing so.
You can't sit there and try to tell me that millions of women don't enjoy male chastity. They do. Like most things kinky it is a growing lifestyle and industry both. Many guys have chastity cages now. Even if they don't admit it. Probably still a relatively low percentage of men, but still quite a lot really if we're being real about this. They are widespread things now.
What often made the difference for me, in accepting/tolerating trying new things like chastity and embracing cuckolding concepts, was the fact that it always, for me (literally 100% of the time) came down to wanting the woman to be happy, even theoretically. I couldn't justify getting in the way of female pleasure. It made me more submissive than ever to come to that realisation, years ago, and I was better for it.
Of course the evocative and emotional activities and imagery of cuckolding can be used in a domineering way. Of course it can.
