Well for me, as a single black guy I have always wanted Hubby present. It's a sense of security for all three involved. Besides that, I enjoy seeing the Hub stroke himself! It's beyond exciting knowing that my performance is creating his strong erection. Of the couples I've met, when the wife asks the Hub to leave the room, it kinda unnerves me. I'm wondering......what's he going to do? And typically it's always the Hub who does the arranging ( at least in my experiences), so why wouldn't the Hub want to be there always?? I understand that a lady wants to be alone and live out her thrill and that's fine, but it's not like I'm going to be a part of the family, right? Anyone else follow me on this one?