I love it! We evolved to this point as well, although we started out with him always being there and being part of it either watching or taking photos or videos. But as I got to know a few guys better, I he asked me if I wanted to see them occasionally on my own. I had been thinking the same thing but didn’t want to hurt his feelings if he didn’t feel the same way so I’m glad he said it. When we got into this originally he had told me that he wanted me to fully explore my sexuality and that I couldn’t do that with only one man. So when he said I could see others on my own, he reminded me that I couldn’t explore fully if he was always there, and he was right. It has been wonderful to be alone with other men and be able to fully focus on them and sharing that intimacy. I tell my husband about every encounter on my own, but likewise I keep some details to myself!
And I still enjoy playing with my husband present, but now it’s mostly when I’m on the prowl for someone new or meeting up with a guy from online. It makes me feel safer having him there when I’m with a stranger, and I like putting on a show for him to enjoy.