Wanting more from ur Bull.....

Discussion in 'General Discussion' started by babyblueyez, Jan 3, 2014.

  1. babyblueyez

    babyblueyez Member Real Person

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    What happens when u find urself wanting more from ur Bull than just fun and pleasure.... It happens and it happens to some of the best of us, but what do u do next? Good question....do u speak on it or do u keep it to urself? Would u throw away ur current relationship just to see what the possibility could be? What do u do when ur craving becomes a longing?
     
  2. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    What you speak of is definitely the "game changer" and hazard of doing this stuff ... and it happens way too often. The married woman enjoys the pleasures her Bull gives her so much, that she longs for it more often, and her desire to please her Bull, even more, creates an emotional bond that is often one-sided & inconvenient. It can happen with the Bull becoming the emotionally involved one, but more often, it is the female because it is her nature to seek the passion that reaches beyond physical sex. This is something that needs to be addressed as soon as it is identified, or else problems soon occur.
    Reminds me of that old '70s song by Mary McGregor "Torn Between Two Lovers, Acting Like A Fool". :unsure: Mac
     
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  3. bm_from_southjersey

    bm_from_southjersey Administrator Staff Member Real Person Gold Member

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    Good questions. It's best that these issues, in my opinion, be discussed even before anybody else is brought into a relationship, because it is almost inevitable, as Mac said, that it will crop up at some point. If these feelings exist, it's probably best that you put your cards on the table, so to speak, to avoid the kind of heated, emotional blow up that could cause either party to do or say something that they regret. As for throwing away your current relationship to take up with the other person, if that is a consideration, then the original relationship probably wasn't worth much to begin with.
     
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  4. cps

    cps Well-Known Member Real Person Gold Member

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    This is something that concerned me too before we began doing this. As a woman, I didn't want to put my marriage at risk. And my hubby didn't either. But we didn't want to live with regrets either of not trying it. After the first time, we committed to taking at least a month to assess our feelings and see if there were any warning flags. Fortunately, there wasn't, nor has there been any so far. But again, we talk after each encounter and are very transparent with each other.

    For me, this has been very liberating. I am learning to enjoy sex in and of itself. When I am with my lover, it is all about the sex, about fucking and getting fucked. And I think it helps keep it they way because my hubby is always there. But, we recognize the potential of emotional involvement, so we want to find more lovers for me, to keep it focused on the sex.
     
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  5. babyblueyez

    babyblueyez Member Real Person

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    The biggest risk but one so many people hide. When one's desires for her bull outweigh those of the boyfriend/fiance, one can't help but to let her thoughts linger there....