That documentary is NOT a realistic depiction of the "lifestyle" at all, It is exploitative and uninformed at best.
There are very very very few who have unsafe unprotected sex in the lifestyle. The view points and attitudes displayed in that documentary are Not of anything that " real swingers" would or even those of us involved in the "interracial lifestyle" hold. Take it from me someone with over 20 years this is not what it is like at all.
As far as the reality of the lifestyle, and the lack of use of condoms, it all depends on where you go and with whom you play with.
We go to three different swinger establishments. One is The Retreat. "The Retreat is Denver’s longest running Swingers Club exclusively for couples and single females. It is an on premise club located in a remodeled home in West Denver. You need to call or email if you want additional information. You can find the rates and party details on their website. They are now offering Non-Members night once a month. They also give a free tour before you need to decide if you want to join and attend a party. 15 person hot tub, Private and group play areas, and a large “conversation” area surrounding a fireplace. Open Friday and Saturday nights 8-4 pm. Theme parties once per month."
The Retreat is a nice place to go if you want to use condoms. And most of the clientele is couples, few single women. I have hooked up with several men at the Retreat. And I was lucky the men preferred not to use condoms. When we have gone to the Retreat, me and my husband have hooked up with couples as well. The only problem with us meeting other couples is that the women from the other couples expect my husband to be built at least as well as their husband is, and my husband is only 3 3/4" long when he is totally erect. So, rarely do we hook up with other couples.
We also go to the Scarlet Ranch, but not very often. "Scarlet Ranch is a 10,000 square foot On Premise Swingers club. They do not sell any alcohol. You are welcome to bring your own (byob) and the bartenders will mark it with your member number. There is a bar area and dance floor in front, and a large play area with couches and private and semi private cabanas in the back. The Ranch is open Wednesday through Saturday nights 9pm-4am. Saturdays are busiest and there are busy theme nights once a month. You must purchase a membership and go through a brief screening process to attend. Single males are limited. All details and prices are on their website."
We have gone on nights when single men are allowed, and it has been fun. The problem with the Scarlet Ranch is that the clientele is often younger and trendy. And condoms are almost always used. The Scarlet Ranch is more for the "pretty people." If you are older or overweight, you kind of stick out. My husband has been humiliated by women at the Retreat and, even more so, at the Scarlet Ranch. There have been a few good times at the Scarlet Ranch, but not a lot.
The one place we enjoy going to the most is the Mon Chalet. "The Mon Chalet has 19 fenced in private Hotel Rooms and an Indoor Swimming pool inside of the fenced in area. Nudity is not only allowed, but encouraged in the pool area. 2 Hot Tubs, 4 Big screen TV screens showing adult movies, and a large public play bed all within the pool area. Single men must rent a Hotel room after 4 PM. Id or Drivers License Required. Couples can rent a room or just buy a pool pass for the afternoon or night. Great for a spontaneous adventure after a night out on the town. Towel rental available." (
http://mon-chalet.com)
We enjoy the Mon Chalet mostly because there is always single men there. And luckily few people want to use condoms. We have never rented a room, but we have been in most of them. We get a pool pass when we go. We undress, put our stuff in a locker, then we head to one of the hot tubs. Whenever there is a woman or women in the hot tub, men join us. Because I am very forward, when men join us I reach for their cocks. And they let me play with them. I love that. And the men know they can do the same to me. I tell men immediately that my husband loves to watch. And a lot of husbands like to watch at the Mon Chalet.
In the play area, next to the pool, people can watch from a distance from one of the hot tubs, or they can pull up a chair and watch close up. At the Mon Chalet Black Men get laid a lot. They are a commodity. I remember a few weeks ago walking into the pool area and both me and my husband noticed a Black Man with one woman riding him, another between his legs and licking him, and another woman was sitting on his face. My husband told me that he wanted me to fuck that Black Man, too. So, when he could, my husband talked to he Black Man and told him that he would love to see him fuck me. He told my husband to give him a few because he'd already been with six other women. My husband agreed and later I had sex with this Black Man as well. Me and my husband ended up staying the night with this Black Man that night.
Another nice thing about the Mon Chalet is that the smaller cocked men do not try to get sex, and that is nice because we women don't have to tell them, "No, but thank you for the offer." The smaller cocked husbands usually like to watch their wife have sex with better equipped men, whether Black or white. And the nice sized white males know that most of us women are going to give a Black Man priority. The white males don't mind though. They know that if they have a nice sized cock, they are going to get laid, eventually.
At The Retreat and the Scarlet Ranch, I have had sex with up to 5-6 men. Every time we've gone to the Mon Chalet, the least I have ever had fuck me was 8 men. The couples who play at the Mon Chalet are mostly older couples in their late 30s to mid 50s. And they are average looking people with average bodies. Luckily most of the men who go to the Mon Chalet are well sized, though. Because the clientele at the Mon Chalet is older, the use of condoms is rare. A couple of the couples we have gotten to know have also gone to the same adult theater we go to. And no one uses condoms at the adult theater.
My husband and I have gone to the adult theater (Circus Cinemas 5580 Federal Boulevard, Denver, CO 80221) and I have had sex with up to 30 men, then we would go to he Mon Chalet, and I had 6-10 other men. No one used condoms. Not all swingers use condoms, especially us older swingers.
Several years ago there was a Air ******* cadet that hosted BBC gang bangs for single women and couples. We met him and I got gang banged by his crew a few times. He would have kept it up had he been smarter. The cadet had a good thing going, but the emails he sent and received and the ads he posted on Craigslist and other sites were done on a Government computer. The cadet was released from the academy and I have no idea what happened to him after that. Yet, while he had his gang bang thing going, several couples found his services to be of great value to them. And I don't know if this was with every women they gang banged, but when his crew gang banged me, no one wore condoms.
There are two gang bang groups in the Denver area that we know of, and I have been gang banged by both groups. We go to the adult theater a few times a month. And we go to the Mon Chalet a few times a month, usually after we go to the theater. On those nights, at least 20-30 guys fuck me and cum in me. Every one has a good time, and no one cares how many other men I have had in me before them.
My sister, two of my nieces, my best friend, my *******, my best friend's ******* and my husband's ******* have gone to the Mon Chalet with and without us. My ******* and her husband and my husband's ******* and her boyfriend have gone to the theater as well, not with us, though. Well, my ******* and her husband went with us their first time.
My husband and his ex-wife were part of the polyamory community for about 20 years. In that time, they both attended countless sex parties. Even before getting involved with the poly community, my husband's ex-wife enjoyed other men, often. My current husband was in the military. And his ex-wife went to the barracks on a nightly and daily basis. This was back in 1981 to about 1985. My husband's ex has told me about barracks gang bangs and how many other military wives had sex in the barracks while their husbands were at work. I know her stories are true because I was a military wife with my first husband, and I did the same thing.
Here in the Denver metropolitan area there is a very large swinging community. For us older swingers there is the Mon Chalet. And for those who want more of a couples type of atmosphere, there is The Retreat. For the younger crowd there is the Scarlet Ranch. There are other places as well, (
http://www.myswingclubs.com/cgi-bin/do.pl?page=clubs&site=de) And there is always Craigslist. Many people may say that Craigslist has nothing but fakes and flakes, but we have had pretty good luck throughout the years. If you are a lady or a couple and you want a fast hook up, Craigslist is the place to go. We have had nights where we were kid free on a moments notice, and we have gone onto Craigslist and either answered ads or posted one of our own. Not once have we had a kid free night and not had another man, or other men, to the house. In our ads and ad responses we say we do not use condoms, and that doesn't scare many men off.
My husband and I both give plasma twice a week, therefore we are tested often. So, to us going bareback is a trust issue that goes both ways. The current poly community is much more vanilla than it used to be by my husband and his ex's standards, yet my husband's ex and I have both gotten together with men my husband and his ex have known for years who were and have been part of the poly community for the last three decades. And it was my husband's ******* who got us involved in the sex parties he goes to, that we attend any time they are held. Many people look at the story of Art and his gang bangs and think that is not an accurate depiction of the the swinging or cuckold community or lifestyle. To me it would seem that who you associate with and where you go decides for you, individually, how accurate stories like Art's, or even ours, really are.
