unknowing wives

[ptownwhitney]

hello A'all I enjoy talking with others on her and sooooo often the far left field fantasy stuff is there but also I see SO many guys saying I wish my wife would or I would love to see my wife do this or that then in the same breath say oh she has no idea I am on here or about this,,,,,,, ok I get the fear because I was one of those typical over reactive type at first and actually id not talk to him for several days because I was hurt and upset and shocked that he would even have those thoughts, but as a lot of time went by and it was out in the open it was brought up hear and there and after two years I did come around to the idea and it happened, now hubby says his biggest regret is not talking to me sooner about it and use that time he wasted just wishing as time toward the goal and talking about it. I have posted in other threads about how we have become stronger and happy, but I would like to hear from others on here and give advise to those scared to bring it up to their wives,,,, its just whats on my mind tonight and love hearing others ideas stories and issues

 

[Nymedic81]

It really depends on the situation and girl! It took about 2-3 years for my exwife to come around and try it! You can usually get a vibe from a girl if she will be open to the idea or not! If you can get a woman to open up about her early sexual past to see how open and sexual she was can be a clue if she might be open to the idea!

My current relationship I’ve brought up black guys around my current gf and she says she has no interest in black guys ! Even though she did say one time at work three black guys were catcalling her when she walked by! She is a tall curvy full figured woman that black guys love! So I don’t think she will ever sleep with black guys! I really don’t know her sexual past! I even got her really ******* and she wouldn’t open up about her sexual past!

Now the other day she said that some girls are planning a trip to Ireland for their annual girls trip, she said her fantasy is just to flirt with an Irish guy one of the nights she was going to be there! So that might be a start lol! So now I playfully joke around that with her!

My ex wife and I started with MFM threesomes and swinging with other couples the first couple of months but we both preferred MFM! She loved the attention from another guy and I at the same time!

I feel like your response is typical! Shocked, confused and slightly angry! I’m glad you opened up to the idea and that your relationship is stronger and hopefully sexier now!

 

[ptownwhitney]

I can understand that with us he was my only and high school sweet hearts so the thought had never crossed my mind

 

[Nymedic81]

Yeah that makes it even more difficult to process and wrap your head around and even more difficult for your husband to tell you his fantasy!

 

[ptownwhitney]

I get it trust me I do the fear he told me of my reaction was the only thing holding him back but we talk so much more open now than ever befre and both now wish he had brought it up before that and used that time talking instead of hiding it

 

[Nymedic81]

Yeah communication is key and very hard in many relationships! It’s not easy living with the fantasy but not being able to talk to the girl you love about it!

How did it come up with you and your hubby?

 

[ptownwhitney]

I stumbled onto him and a guy talking online I blew up thinking he was hiding talking to another girl,, I was so upset that he finally came out and told me who he was talking to and showed me that it was another guy not a girl but then the subject was out and he told me.. not I look back and do feel bad at how I reacted but I was just so over whelmed

 

[Nymedic81]

Yes especially if you thought he was talking to another woman! But it’s just as confusing and hard because he’s been talking about sexually to another man without you knowing!

How long have you been in the lifestyle since starting?

 

[ptownwhitney]

its been about 3 years now I think

 

[Nymedic81]

Good for you guys!

 

[ptownwhitney]

thank you it was not easy start but being here now has made us look back and glad it happened

 

[Nymedic81]

It is never easy! Lots of emotions to go through both for you and your husband!

 

[ptownwhitney]

very true

 

[Blkdreams88]

My wife knows about my fantasies and she plays along with them in bed. She doesn't know that I'm on here though and I doubt that she'd approve of it much. I just get ideas and information here to use in my life.

 

[MILFSEEKERpgh]

Wow!

 

[BostonBakedBBC]

This always perplexes me. I guess I don't understand how people think a marriage that can't talk about fucking other people will survive actually fucking other people. I can admire people who admit they use this for fantasy, but if you're looking to me for advice on how to talk to your wife.....

 

[ptownwhitney]

i agree yet i understand at the same time, but thought i thought i would hear more from others on this

 

[WLBC]

hello A'all I enjoy talking with others on her and sooooo often the far left field fantasy stuff is there but also I see SO many guys saying I wish my wife would or I would love to see my wife do this or that then in the same breath say oh she has no idea I am on here or about this,,,,,,, ok I get the fear because I was one of those typical over reactive type at first and actually id not talk to him for several days because I was hurt and upset and shocked that he would even have those thoughts, but as a lot of time went by and it was out in the open it was brought up hear and there and after two years I did come around to the idea and it happened, now hubby says his biggest regret is not talking to me sooner about it and use that time he wasted just wishing as time toward the goal and talking about it. I have posted in other threads about how we have become stronger and happy, but I would like to hear from others on here and give advise to those scared to bring it up to their wives,,,, its just whats on my mind tonight and love hearing others ideas stories and issues

There are so many of us in the same situation..

 

[ptownwhitney]

There are so many of us in the same situation..

oh I know that is why I made the post , but I wonder for some how long they have kept it a secret from the wife,, iknow with my husband it had been acouple years and im sure it is the same for others.

 

[WLBC]

oh I know that is why I made the post , but I wonder for some how long they have kept it a secret from the wife,, iknow with my husband it had been acouple years and im sure it is the same for others.

She likes IR porn and I jokingly mentioned bringing somebody home for her. It didn’t really sit we’ll with her. I don’t want to pressure her into anything but I have to imagine deep down she’s curious.