The paradox is many women embrace postmodern feminism because they feel safer and more comfortable in a emasculated society, but on a primal level we still want a sexual partner that fits with the Alpha role. Very significantly, in the erotic fiction for women, like 50 Shades of Grey, the main character is always dominant, possesive, emotionally agressive (and wealthy). In other words, modern woman wants feminized men as friends, coworkers, etc. But between her thighs she still wants a strong male and in her lives someone to feel protected. Sex is pure natural instinct.
Due the identity policies, those expectations about men being´like teddy bears are not applied to the males of other races or ethnicities. If a white singer decides to write misogynistic lyrics like those that are common on gansta rap or reaggeton, he would be crucified. But the sexism of some ethnic groups is considered a cultural peculiarity that must be respected in the name of cultural relativism, multiculturalism and cosmopolitanism.
It is like that stupid alliance between pseudo-feminists and islamists, using a woman with hijab as a symbol of the Women's March and singing Allahu Akbar there. For decades, Arab feminists like Fatima Mernissi or Nawal El Saadawi have fought against the veil, their books were banned in Muslim countries and they visited jail. But the plain fact is modern feminists and multicultural apologists know nothing about Islamic culture and religion, and they probably have never visited a Muslim country . Using a euphemism, the intellectual level of modern feminists has nothing to do with Virginia Woolf and Simone de Beauvoir.