as a husband of a couple who have been meeting BBC for the last 8 yrs i will agree with some of the points you make but not all as the dynamics for everyone is different, when we began and all the way through, we have been honest with each other about what we both wanted from our experiences, and yes sometimes we have pushed the boundaries with each other, but for us the sharing and honesty with each others "deepest desires" as bought us even closer together. Sharing the most precious part of your life, namely your wife, and her being able to feel that comfortable to be able to enjoy herself knowing that you love her even if she is cumming all over a big black cock in front of you, her husband. I want her to enjoy herself, and i dont get jealous watching her take bbc, i feel sort of honoured she shares those moments with me?