. Not widespread ? Depends on where you are. Lots more I R today and some of it is married couples. Wives do have many friends but not always another race. Not all the the wives are seeking other sexual partners even though many are open to it.I agree, only makes sense, why wouldn't they? So many of us white guys have the fetish, its like the right hand not knowing what the left hand is doing. Why this lifestyle is not wide spread is instructive about the lack of communication in our relationships though.