Great question and I'm looking for the answer also....I will tell you this my wife is very good looking petite great body very desirable to men the always check her out....now she is on the shy side but also knows guys want her....she calls it "bothering her".....I think I'm extremely lucky to be with her and I also I think guys think she could do a lot better than me I guess....the guys that always tried to approach her have been very good looking well-built guys.....so I always wondered if she ever considered doing better than me giving that fact.
I think it came from a past boyfriend of hers though.....He was good looking but a white guy that was endowed....she told me this in passing and didn't really think it would bother me but it did and I would inquire more about him....more and more enquiring and I found out she really liked the sex with him not just because of his big one but a better lover in bed.....I initiated talking about him during sex one night and she responded quietly but I could tell she was thinking about him...... I did this more and more until she did respond and say "do you want me to contact him" ...now i knew she wanted to feel him again.....I said "yes" and it was on
Speeding this up.....a lot more in between but I did convince her that she should feel that again and she did contact him......they meet for lunch but he had gotten extremely fat and she said she couldn't do anything with him. I was willing to let her be with him alone again but my fantasy was now dead.
Until I brought up Black guys have large ones and she does work with black guys.....at first she protested but through more fantasy bed talk I found out a lot of her Black co-workers "bother her"
It took about 1 year of exclusively talking about her being with this one particularly good-looking black co-worker and letting her see black on white videos that she finally asked me " do you want me to do it"
I asked her " does he want to"? and she said "yes" so they had been talking about it at that point behind my back.
Her one last thing was " I'm not going to tell you though" and I said fine.
It was 6 months later and I knew she was with him by our sex in bed...i did ask her and she did to admit to him....she was relieved to tell me too......he's a terrific lover in bed.....he goes much deeper so she is feeling that again once again.....he does cum inside her.....and now she gets to spend the nights and even weekends with him. We have ******* so it's dicey the alone time with her but he wants to take her on vacation this October.....Here's the kicker.....he doesn't ever use a condom and is not pulling out.....the vacation is right in her high-risk time and she knows this now....So I've said in bed " you two could be making a baby that week" "The way he makes love ( i said love, not sex) to you and the depth he's placing his seed you two are in baby making mode"" Then I said " i bet he's falling in love with you" she never responded stayed quiet....never protested and came right away...... I just loved it!
and your right.....why? by the way, she said yes to going with him.