We started as a lifestyle couple, and still remain so with the exception that if a single male is invited, he must be black. The only way I will play with a white male other than Mike is if he is part of a couple where Mike is enjoying himself with another woman. That being said, we moved to Florida last fall from Iowa and have met a few very nice men from this site since that time, a couple who we have had the extreme pleasure of inviting to join us. We met a married couple (elsewhere, of course) that we struck up a friendship with -- went out to dinner, played cards here at our home, and yes, participated in some playtime. During one of our times, the male half of this couple noticed my QoS necklace and asked me about it. No big deal, right? I don't have any problem telling him that yes, I love black men. Well, guess what.....we have not heard a word from them since that evening. I am assuming because this man is a racist bigot so, therefore, GOOD RIDDANCE. Part of me says leave it there, but another part wants to confront this fat assed, stinky, pathetic excuse of a man and ask him who the hell he thinks he is. Have any of you ran into anything like this and, if so, how did you handle it?