Not sure what wife wants

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Not sure if this is the right place for this topic. I just wanted some different perspective on my situation. My wife and myself have been together for 13 years. Were in our early 30's.
After a few years together we started IR porn together. She had never expressed much interest in black men but I figure if we started watching xxx she might change her mind. Not long after she admitted she liked it and preferred IR porn.
Phase two began with me purchasing a few lifelike black dildos. She seemed to quite enjoy this as well. This slowly began the dirty talk of us talking during sex of her fucking a bbc. She really got off this idea during sex.
Phase 3 began with me asking if she was more attracted to white or black guys. She was more attracted to black guys now but immediately shot me down when I brought up the idea of her having a threesome for real.
So for the next few years we just keep doing the roleplay dirty talk thing. I brought up the threesome idea a few more times. No real change in her response.
Fast forward to today. I've brought the subject up maybe twice in the last 6 months. Not trying to pressure her too much. Her response has changed from flat NO to "I'm not sure" or "I don't know".
I know this is progress but I don't want to push it too much. I feel like it's just nerves or confidence(she's overweight) holding her back now. What is my next step now? Does anyone have a similar experience?
 
It sounds to me like you guys might be hitting a spot where the curiosity is starting to overbear the nerves. Might also be that shes starting to trust the relationship a little more. If she was raised to be conservative About the marriage it can take a LONG time for perspective to change assuming it changes at all. She might be feeling the marriage has a better chance of surviving the way it did before. Could also be that after some time her curiousity has hit a point where she reconcidering her stance to see what the fuss is about. Could ALSO be that she feels like you want it enough (since you've brought it up more then once) that maybe things wont be so bad if she tests the limits.

Truth is there's no way anyone on here can tell you why the response changed. The best person to tell you that is your wife. The next step if this is truly progress is communication. Have a serious adult conversation with her about it. Ask questions about her fears and worries. See if she has questions for you. Often times things dont evolve from fantasy because couples never take "the jump" seriously enough. When you talk to her dont let it turn into another fantasy roleplay discussion. Ask, answer re-affirm. For the sake of your marriage dont push if her response goes back to no or if she starts to feel uncomfortable talking about it. If you try to talk about it seriously with her and things go south then let it go at least for the time being. Your goal here is to help her comfort level. If shes not comfortable then shes not and pushing that only ends in disaster. Take some time and get some thought going before that conversation.
 
My fiancee always denied having sex with bbc until we smoked pot and opened up to me about her friend black step ******* when she was fifteen in her Catholic uniform lost her virginity and kept going back occasionally she I was only white boy she ever dated and would never cheat one day. However
 
When you show her porn, don't watch videos of bikini models. Choose women her size, age and weight. You might even find some woman who even looks like her. Then ask questions. Like, if that were you, would you rather be doggy or on your back?
 
With Lo the only hesitation was not really believing I would be ok with it or might get jealous afterwards and it would ruin our relationship. It didn't take me to much to convince her it was really ok. Your wife might have similar fears lurking in the back of her mind and figure it's not worth the risk. That seems to sound like "this is my fantasy but I would never actually do it" sort of response. I imagine most women have a lifetime of training that this behavior isn't ok.
 
I happened across a pic online of a woman with a very well used pussy and a huge black cock that just pulled out of her letting the cum run out. The face was blurred but she looked enough like Lo I might have been able to pass the pic off as her if you didn't look to hard. That got me going so I saved it to show Lo the resemblance and it made her super horny so finding porn with a similar looking girl may have some real merit.
 
Roach said:
I happened across a pic online of a woman with a very well used pussy and a huge black cock that just pulled out of her letting the cum run out. The face was blurred but she looked enough like Lo I might have been able to pass the pic off as her if you didn't look to hard. That got me going so I saved it to show Lo the resemblance and it made her super horny so finding porn with a similar looking girl may have some real merit.
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I mostly meant her body size, because the OP suggested that might be part of her hesitation. But if she sees that people just like her are getting in on this, it might help. But it sure wouldn't hurt if the lady on the screen looked a lot like her. Then hubby could use that in a playful way. He could ask her if it really was her and would she please some more videos.
 
Roach said:
Well the face was blurred so it was her body size and shape that looked like Lo.
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I was going to suggest you find some Lo lookalikes in some videos, but she's already getting her black cock in real life.
It still might be fun for her tying to imagine herself in porn videos.
 
She would happily star in her own porno if we knew the people to get it done. First she needs several bbcs that would be willing then someone who could run a camera well enough that the final product would look good.
 
Roach said:
She would happily star in her own porno if we knew the people to get it done. First she needs several bbcs that would be willing then someone who could run a camera well enough that the final product would look good.
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I think if the guys could wear masks, then they would do it. And you could run the camera. It's pretty easy now days.
But if you couldn't get multiple guys, wouldn't one be enough? And you can let the bull run the camera when it was your turn with her.
 
Her fantasy is to be filmed in a bbc gangbang while pregnant but she would need to get knocked up first. Always plenty of guys willing to volunteer to knock her up, lol.
 
Roach said:
Her fantasy is to be filmed in a bbc gangbang while pregnant but she would need to get knocked up first. Always plenty of guys willing to volunteer to knock her up, lol.
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Gangbangs are pretty hard to arrange, unless you're in a sex club. And I don't think they would like the camera in there.
Would you want her to get knocked up?
 
She's pretty set on having another kid so I guess I can live with one more. Big trouble is now that she's off birth control it's tough to know if the baby will be black or white.
 
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