Jamaica !! The dark side of vacationing there !! Buyer beware !!

We've been to Hedonism 26 times starting in the late 80's. I've never even heard a rumor of someone being raped. I'm sure it happens, but it's likely the risk is much higher here in the good old USA! Trump was all over the news today spreading racists lies. Do we really need more of this crap?
We are considering Hedonism II next summer. Have you been to that one? What's the good and bad or preference of the 2 if you have been to both.
Would appreciate any info.
 
do You know the meaning of a “”? QUOTATION MARK? Ring any bells? At NO point did us say “ Muslims on hign numbers of assaults” so why are you trying to suggest otherwise. I’ve noticed you been back through your comments and edited some after my replies. We all know the only defence to what’s happening around Europe is misdirection it complete fabrication of the truth. A bit like your replies here

Well, if I read all your posts you mix up a lot, switching from accusing pakistanis to muslims to immigrants forth and back.
One thing you do is always mixing some truth with a lot of unproven accusations.
I know how to use quotation mark - even not to write in capitals. SHOUTING is the tool of people who know they are wrong :cool:
Because I've read several articles in German newspapers where there was also mentioned it might have been muslims - sorry for this misunderstanding.
But the emphasis was on "high numbers of assaults" which is absolutely wrong - an exaggeration, mostly used by German nazis and far right-winged populists.

So - you should stick to facts... or do you prefer "alternative facts" like an american wannabe politician?
 
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We are considering Hedonism II next summer. Have you been to that one? What's the good and bad or preference of the 2 if you have been to both.
Would appreciate any info.
There is only one Hedonism. Several years ago there was a Hedonism 3, but that resort was sold and is now a family resort. If you have an option, summer is very hot and humid in the Caribbean and it's hurricane season. Then again low season rates are lower. I would suggest you check out the groups who are going on a particular week. Then book with a group that fits your interests, swingers, nudists, fetish.
 
Where there is smoke there is always fire !!!
I doubt everyone here is lying or making these incidents up as these instances involve several resorts!!! This is posted with no ill will but strictly informational. Buyer beware part 2 !!

Jamaica resorts covered up sexual assaults, silenced victims for years

Updated 7:54 pm EST Dec. 9, 2018

She woke up on the shower floor crying and naked – ******* marks on her neck, scratches on her body.

The 18-year-old au pair vacationing in Jamaica had no idea how she wound up in a bathroom near the pool until hours later: She had been ******* and raped, she said, and the resort did nothing to help her.

Instead, Sandals Resorts paid her American host family $25,000 as a refund for the July trip and had the parents sign a nondisclosure agreement, vowing to never speak of the incident.

But the victim never signed any such agreement. And she's talking now.

"They know what happened. They know exactly who he was," the au pair said. "My silence will not be bought. ... They let someone get away with it."

In the wake of a Free Press investigation that found sexual assaults of tourists are a long-standing and unchecked problem in Jamaica, where an estimated one American is raped a month according to State Department statistics, multiple victims have come forward with stories about cover-ups, confidentiality agreements and payoffs by resorts looking to protect their reputations and revenue.

Also read: Sandals Resorts denies ******* claim cover-ups in Jamaica

Over the last several years, Jamaican resorts have silenced multiple sexual assault victims, discouraging them from calling the police or pressing charges, downplaying their fears and offering free hotel stays or cash refunds in exchange for a promise not to sue or tell anyone what happened, the Free Press found. Most of the alleged victims that shared their stories with the Free Press requested anonymity.

In some cases, the resorts convinced guests to just go home.

The silenced tourists include:

► The West Virginia family whose 18-year-old au pair told police she was sexually assaulted on July 4 at the Sandals-owned Beaches Negril Resort & Spa, alleging a resort bartender spiked her ******* before a guest choked and raped her. She filed a police report and underwent a ******* test. Surveillance video identified the attacker, she said, but no one was arrested. The host family was eventually paid and signed an agreement forbidding them from discussing the case.

► A New England family who said their 16-year-old ******* was raped in a bathroom at Beaches Negril resort in 2013, allegedly by a resort entertainer's friend who had been given a guest pass. "In the end, we did sign something saying we won't discuss it and they gave us a free week at another resort, which is little consolation for my *******'s mental health," the mom told the Free Press. "It would've been a nasty fight anyway."

► An Atlanta mom who said she was sexually assaulted while in the ocean by a Sunscape Splash resort employee during a trip celebrating her 50th birthday in October. She said resort staff at the property, which is owned by AMResorts, manipulated her into not pressing charges, warning her the criminal process would be lengthy and expensive, and convincing her to "go home and forget about it."

► A Kansas City woman who said she was sexually assaulted during a sailing excursion by a Sandals Ochi Beach Resort employee in October 2017. She stayed in her room for three days, but eventually reported him to the resort, which, she said, rushed her into signing a nondisclosure agreement in exchange for a $4,500 trip. "It was so fast — and they didn't give me time to think about anything," she recalled, adding police were never called. "I said, 'Do I need to make a police report?' They said, 'No. You don't need to do that. We'll take care of everything.' "

► A North Carolina couple whose honeymoon was ruined after a Sandals resort dancer named 'Showtime' allegedly sexually assaulted the wife on the dance floor, putting his hand up her dress, grabbing her genitalia and then forsing her hand on his private part to show his arousal. Sandals gave them a replacement, seven-night trip "as a goodwill gesture" and a complimentary couples' massage. In return, the couple signed legal forms releasing Sandals from any liability.

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Sandals declined comment on specific allegations, but has denied covering up sexual assault claims at any of its resorts or silencing victims with payoffs.

"Our policies are clear — all reported incidents of sexual assault and harassment are fully reported to law enforcement, investigated and, where appropriate, prosecuted by the authorities," Sandals said in a statement to the Free Press. "This is a core element of our incident response protocol. In no way does Sandals discourage guests or others from reporting allegations of criminal conduct to law enforcement or from cooperating with law enforcement investigations."

Moreover, the company added: " ... refunds are not offered to guests who report being victims of criminal assault where an active law enforcement investigation or prosecution is underway. Where there is no active criminal investigation or prosecution, on rare occasions, we do offer refunds or similar compensation when our guests feel that we did not meet expectations which may include releases and confidentiality, as is industry practice."

Sandals stressed that, "No guest is ever ****** to sign any document."

Nevertheless, problems continue to crop up for the resort chain.

This week, a New Jersey couple sued Sandals for $30 million, saying their 2016 wedding in the Bahamas was ruined by a resort butler who allegedly sneaked into the bride's suite on the eve of her wedding and ******* her while she slept. According to the couple's lawyer, New York attorney John Nicholas Iannuzzi, Sandals discouraged the couple from involving police and offered to refund the $15,000 event, but with a nondisclosure agreement. The couple declined and filed a lawsuit in Manhattan two years later.

"We were not interested in being silenced," the 32-year-old bride, Ashley Pascarella, told the Free Press. "It was a nominal amount of money compared to what had happened."

Sandals called the lawsuit "a self-serving, one-sided and incomplete version of an incident reported in 2016."

"The plaintiffs have unfortunately embarked to influence the case using a choreographed media campaign based on their one-sided narrative," Sandals said in a statement.

Bigger than Sandals

Jamaica's biggest source of revenue is tourism, drawing a record 4.3 million visitors in 2017 and raking in more than $3 billion in revenue from U.S. tourists alone that year. Americans are the biggest contributors to Jamaica's tourism industry as more than 1 million U.S. residents vacation there every year, and the numbers keep going up.

Meanwhile, the travel advisories continue.

In addition to Sandals, several Jamaican resorts also have been accused of failing to properly address sexual assault complaints, including: Grand Bahia Principe of the Spanish-owned Bahia Principe Hotels & Resorts; Breathless Montego Bay Resort & Spa and Sunscape Splash Montego Bay of Philidelphia-based AMResorts; and Hotel Riu Reggae in Montego Bay, part of Riu Hotels & Resorts based in Spain.

While some victims cut deals with the resorts, or rejected their offers, others have said the resorts took no action in responding to sexual assault claims. Their complaints were ignored altogether, some said, despite repeated phone calls and emails to management asking for help.

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One victim from Minnesota, however, did get results, saying the hotel employee who sexually assaulted her at an unnamed all-inclusive hotel in Montego Bay was fired after she reported the incident. "I called the U.S. Embassy and they took my matter seriously. I had a bit of victim blaming by locals but am glad I reported it nonetheless," the woman wrote in a Nov. 1 TripAdvisor review. "I recommend caution even inside resorts — and do not ever walk around alone."

The Minnesota woman's review echoed repeated warnings issued by the U.S. State Department, which has described sexual assault as a "historic concern" in Jamaica that needs "forceful investigation and follow-up by the hotels and by police and other security officials."

"Sexual assaults occur frequently," the State Department warned in a January travel advisory "even at all-inclusive resorts."

The resorts aren't doing enough to help the injured obtain justice, victims claim, arguing a change in attitudes about sex crimes and protocol for handling them is long overdue in Jamaica. The resorts have not taken sexual assault seriously, they say, and they have the scars, payoffs, legal forms and unanswered emails to prove it.

"I will not be silenced," said one victim. "I deserve better."

'Were you not warned?'

Soon after returning from Jamaica, the American host mom took to TripAdvisor to vent and warn others about what happened to her au pair at Beaches Negril.

"My 18-year-old ******* was given a ******* directly from the bartender at Club Liquid. It was *******," the woman wrote, referring to the au pair. "She was then taken to a bathroom by another 'guest' and raped. CHOKED. SCRATCHED and RAPED."

TripAdvisor removed the post, stating the review "was flagged by another user for violating our review guidelines."

A Sandals payout followed, along with a confidentiality agreement that prohibited the family from discussing the incident and required them to remove all comments about the trip from social media. Specifically, any mentions of the au pair's ordeal during the Jamaica trip were removed from the host mom's Twitter feed.

Here, according to the au pair and text messages, emails, statements to the police and public records, is what happened that night at the all-inclusive resort:

It was 11 p.m. when the au pair went to Club Liquid for a *******. She had spent the day with her American host family and their four children at the resort, and ventured out on her own when they all went to bed.

The au pair sat alone at the psychedelic-colored bar and had a few drinks while music played. But within an hour, her world would go dark.

At about midnight, the bar started emptying out and the au pair ordered another *******. The bartender mixed her ******* while talking to a man who was sitting nearby. He was the only one left in the bar and he approached the au pair as she finished her *******.

Quickly, everything turned into a blur. She remembers talking, but nothing about the conversation. She doesn't remember leaving the club. She vaguely remembers being at a beach with a man and winding up in a pool with him, crying on a pool step.

The next thing she remembers is waking up in the shower near the pool at the resort. The water was running. She opened a door and found her clothes and bag on a nearby bench. She got dressed and walked to her room.

"I just remember being in the pool area, but not how I got there," she said. "I didn't understand what the hell had just happened. I was so confused. There was nobody around. It was light outside."

Her cellphone read 6 a.m. when she returned to her room and plugged it into a charger. She put on her pajamas and went to bed.

"I was feeling so ill and so tired," she said.

When she woke up, her head was spinning. She felt nauseous and discomfort in her vaginal area. She had red marks on her neck.

At about 11:30 a.m., she told her host mom that she wasn't feeling good and filled her in on the few details she could remember from the night before. The mom summoned a nurse and security. A police officer also showed up and interviewed the au pair, who then went to a hospital with her host mom. She underwent a ******* test and had some type of medication prescribed.

"The doctor said something definitely happened," she said.

After going to the hospital, the au pair went to the police station to give a statement. There, she heard a comment that left her reeling.

"The police woman said to me, 'Were you not warned about the culture here?' " she recalled, noting she was confused.

The police woman elaborated: "These things happen here. ... Next time, don't have so many drinks."

It has been more than seven months and the au pair, who is back in South Africa, is still trying to get her hospital records, toxicology results and a copy of a surveillance video. It burns her that her host family has been given information about her *******, she said, but she has not been given it.

And it really burns her that Sandals paid her host family off, she said.

"Why are you bribing people to keep quiet?" she said. "I feel like they allowed this to happen because they let someone get away with it. They cover their backs so quickly that they don't actually help the victim."

The resort knows who did this, she said, noting there is surveillance video of what unfolded.

The Free Press has learned that resort management has video showing the suspect alone with the au pair at the bar, taking her to a bathroom, spending time in there with her and then him leaving alone.

Management knows the suspect's name and what room he was staying in; they had a clear view of his face, the au pair said. He was an American tourist who left the next day, according to the au pair.

The au pair said no one seems willing to do anything because the incident involves three countries: The victim is South African; the incident happened in Jamaica; and the suspect is an American.

"I've been feeling helpless," the au pair said, "because no one really cares."

The woman's host parents declined comment. So did Sandals, though the company posted a comment on the au pair's TripAdvisor account last week, stating:

"In this case, local law enforcement conducted an investigation and reviewed the Beaches Resort’s surveillance video footage which was immediately provided. Local law enforcement subsequently issued statements, in which they explained that 'We have collected statements and reviewed video evidence none of which supports the claim of *******'; 'The toxicology report has not revealed anything of note and the theory of her being ******* is not sustainable.' "

Jamaican police said they investigated the incident, but that the prosecutor's office declined to bring charges. They did not elaborate on the findings in the au pair's case, or any other sexual assaults involving resorts. In response to numerous questions from the Free Press, they issued a one-page news release that included the following:

"The woman’s employers allegedly noticed marks on her neck and reported the matter to the Negril Police, where the woman told investigators that she had a ******* with the man and subsequently woke up and found herself sitting in a shower on the property," the statement says.

Jamaica's Centre for the Investigation of Sexual Offences and baby Abuse conducted an investigation that included a toxicology analysis, statements to law enforcement and surveillance footage. The file was then submitted to the Office of the Director of Public Prosecutions for a ruling.

"On September 20, 2018, a ruling was received ... It stated that no criminal proceedings can commence in this matter," the statement reads.

Meanwhile, the South African Embassy has intervened, requesting a copy of the medical report. Police said it was provided and the matter has been referred to a tourism liaison officer for follow-up with relevant foreign emissaries and family members.

"It should be noted that items that are submitted into evidence for an ongoing investigation cannot be released as there are strict issues of confidentiality and strong potential for the investigation to be compromised," the agency stated.

The status of the investigation is not clear.

"Visitor safety and security remain a top priority of the Jamaica Constabulary *******," the police agency states, adding local law enforcement works with the tourism sector in patrolling tourist attractions and conducting security inspections and certification of resorts, hotels and attractions to ensure they meet regulatory requirements.

'Go home and forget about it'

Ivy was afraid of the water.

The Georgia mom wasn't a strong swimmer, but the resort employee who worked the water excursions at the Sunscape Splash resort in Montego Bay assured her that he would help her. So she ventured into Jamaica's blue-green waters, up to her neck.

It was mid October. She had gone to Jamaica to celebrate her 50th birthday with her *******. And she was eager to have fun and relax.

In the water that day, she was nervous. The employee kept telling her to relax. Then came the inappropriate touching. She told him to stop, but he wouldn't. He told her to lay on her stomach. She was scared in the deep water, so she did as he suggested.

That's when he slid his hand in between her legs and started aggressively fondling her genitals. She protested, but he wouldn't stop.

Eventually, she managed to escape. She got to her feet and walked out of the water. Outraged and horrified, she reported the incident to security and asked to be moved to another property. The general manager told her she could move, she said, but that it would cost more and that she would have to pay the difference.

Stunned by the response, she then reported the incident to the vacation representative, whose response shocked her even more.

"Do you want to call police, or would you rather go home and forget about it?," Ivy recalled being told, adding that the representative then encouraged her to "try to have a good time. Don't let it ruin your vacation. Try to make the best of it."

Ivy was furious. So was her *******, who urged her to go to the police. So the resort called for a taxi to take her, her ******* and a security employee to the police station.

They never left the resort, however. While waiting for the taxi, she said the resort's head of security started warning her about a lengthy and costly legal process, that she would have to pay for all her travel during the criminal process and that the suspect would languish in prison for years if she didn't return to Jamaica.

"I knew I was never coming back to Jamaica," she said.

So Ivy changed her mind about pressing charges and returned to the U.S., where she quickly regretted her decision. Two weeks after her trip, she read the Free Press article about Jamaica's sexual assault problem.

"When I saw your story and realized how prevalent it was – this was a family resort. What if I had been a young girl?" said Ivy, stressing travelers need to be aware of the dangers lurking in the heavily gated resorts.

"That’s like a facade. You feel like you’re safe in there ... but you're not," she said. "There was no compassion."

Sunscape Splash did not respond to requests for comment.

On TripAdvisor, where Ivy posted a negative review detailing her experience, Sunscape Splash issued this statement:

"The safety of our guests is always our top priority," read the statement, which included an email address for Ivy to contact. "Please reach out ... for me to better address your specific concerns."

To date, Ivy said the resort has refused to issue a refund.

The Kansas City woman who also alleged being sexually assaulted in the water has expressed similar frustrations.

Like Ivy, she has regrets. Ivy regrets walking away. She regrets signing the nondisclosure agreement with Sandals – a decision that ate at her when she returned home from her trip.

"I emailed them when I got back, twice. And I never got anyone to respond. That was really frustrating," she said, stressing that staying quiet was especially hard. "I feel like there's nothing I can do. I can't even tell people, warn people."

This week, after a year of keeping quiet, the woman broke her silence, hoping to spare others from a similar fate.

In an interview with the Free Press, she said that an employee at Sandals Ochi Beach Resort took advantage of her while taking her out on a sailing excursion. It was just the two of them. He kept going farther and farther out into the ocean when, at one point, he looked at her and said, "You have beautiful lips," she recalled.

She got nervous and uncomfortable. He kept going farther and farther out, past the other boats, so she told him she wanted to go back. As soon as the sailboat turned sideways, she said, he lunged on top of her and put his hands on her genitals.

"I immediately started screaming, 'Get off of me!' I was going over. My cellphone and hand fell in the water," she recalled, adding she considered jumping in the ocean to escape him.

When she started to scream, she said, the man responded, "'No, no, no. Wait. Wait. It's fine."

He took her back. For three days, she stayed in her room, afraid to come out until her butler saw her crying, asked what was wrong and then convinced her to report the incident when she told him what had happened.

Looking back, she said, the resort should have called the police. She should have never signed the confidentiality agreement. But she still has a soft spot for Jamaica, where she has been seven times.

"I love the country," she said. "I won't hold the whole country accountable for what one bad person did to me. There are a lot of really good people in that country."

Tucked in among the thousands of reviews on TripAdvisor are more stories of anger and frustration by travelers who say their sexual assaults in Jamaica were ignored — and even tolerated — by the resorts.

In the spring of 2014, a British mom claimed the management at Beaches Negril failed to call the police about the attempted ******* of her 18-year-old ******* during a wedding trip. The suspect was a Sandals employee, but management allegedly told her, "Our hands were tied. Your ******* didn't want anyone to know."

The mom demanded accountability.

"I asked Sandals, 'where are your procedures? This is a criminal act, the police should have been called by you regardless what anybody else wanted,' " the mom wrote in a 2014 TripAdvisor review.

After months of phone calls and writing multiple emails to Sandals officials, the woman said Sandals offered her family three nights free accommodation at their resorts, but with a confidentiality clause.

She called Sandals "despicable."

Though Sandals declined comment on specific allegations, it defended its security systems and procedures and cited examples of enhanced safety measures at its resorts, including: new, state-of-the-art Close Circuit Television Surveillance Systems at all of its resorts, which are monitored 24 hours a day by uniformed security guards at each resort; background checks of all applicants, including a criminal record search and evaluation of the their social/online history; a zero-tolerance policy for fraternization by personnel with guests and for any sexual misconduct by staff, and mandatory sexual harassment training for all staff.

This past spring, a guest at the Breathless Montego Bay Resort & Spa took to TripAdvisor to vent about her experience. She claimed staff members had asked her and her friend if they could shower in their room, and told them that they had been watching them.

"A couple days into our trip, I was sexually assaulted by one of the staff members. So far, the resort has not responded to my attempts to have the staff member fired/charged and to have sexual harassment training for the remainder of the staff," the woman wrote in the April post.

Three weeks later, the Breathless resort responded: "It is both concerning and alarming to read the details of your experience which is not reflective of the kind of experience we aim to and are known to provide valued guests such as you. I would love the opportunity to assist in further addressing your concerns ... and invite you to contact me directly at your earliest opportunity."

The outcome of that case is not known. Breathless did not respond to requests for comment.

In 2016, a Canadian traveler wrote that an entertainer who worked at the Grand Bahia Principe resort in Jamaica sexually assaulted her during a family trip in 2016. But the resort worker kept his job despite her complaint, she wrote on TripAdvisor, stating the resort "did absolutely nothing about this incident" and did not return her calls after she returned home.

Grand Bahia Principe responded to the allegation on TripAdvisor, stating in 2016: "We're surprised and concerned by your comments you have reported. We do sincerely apologize for any issues in your vacation and we will be sure to forward your concerns to our management team to investigate this matter."

Grand Bahia Principe did not return calls seeking comment.

It's time for change

It has been more than a decade since he says his honeymoon was ruined at a Sandals resort by a dancer named "Showtime," yet the company's response still eats at the North Carolina man.

He said he never publicly discussed the troubling honeymoon incident until reading the Oct. 30 Free Press article****that detailed multiple sexual assaults in Jamaica, including the 2015 rapes of a Michigan teenage girl and her 21-year-old friend. They said they were raped in a laundry room by resort lifeguards at Beaches Ochos Rios, another Sandals property. The suspects were arrested and charged, but it has been more than 3½ years and the case has yet to go to trial.

The alleged victims' stories angered the North Carolina man.

He told the Free Press his wife was sexually assaulted on the dance floor by a gyrating disco dancer who grabbed her genitalia under her dress and then shoved her hand on his crotch. The wife bolted from the dance floor – humiliated, grossed out and furious; the husband said he raised hell at the front desk.

But the resort staff was dismissive when he complained about it, he said, adding he spent much of his honeymoon arguing with lawyers and managers, while "Showtime" denied any wrongdoing.

Initially, the resort offered the pair a free couples' massage and told them to try to relax, he said. Sandals refused to refund the trip. The husband persisted. In the end, Sandals cut a deal with the newlyweds: It offered them a seven-night replacement stay at any Sandals resort in exchange for releasing Sandals "from any and all liability."

"Let me start by thanking you for choosing Sandals Montego Bay for your honeymoon," Sandals General Manager Horace Perez wrote in an Oct. 11, 2004, letter to the couple, stating he did "regret the incident that (the wife) reported that put a damper on your stay."

"While the incident has been denied by the team member, as mutually agreed, we will replace your seven honeymoon nights as a goodwill gesture. ... Please note also that we have taken off the spa charge that we offered along with the phone charges incurred in respect of the incident."

The letter continued ... "thanks again for your patience and understanding the matter and I do hope that you will become loyal Sandals returnees."

A year later, the North Carolina couple took their replacement Sandals trip to St. Lucia. They were treated like royalty, the husband said. But they never patronized Sandals again.

"I thought it was crappy that it's been going on for this long and they continue to try to push it under the rug and hide it," said the husband, who hopes more publicity is an "impetus for change."

"I don't want this to happen to other people," he said. "They gave us the paper work. We signed it. It was very corporate-like. ... But the rest of our honeymoon sucked."

Contact Tresa Baldas: tbaldas@freepress.com. Follow her on Twitter @Tbaldas.

Originally Published 6:33 pm EST Dec. 9, 2018

Updated 7:54 pm EST Dec. 9, 2018
 
This article is very disturbing to me. You draw your own conclusions and share your thoughts !!

Jamaica resorts facing a 'historic' sexual assault problem - USA TODAY https://apple.news/AmCbUMpT8SmCT6rkJ4gzk8A
the old Roman solution was very simple and would work very well... in all these cases...
And that was to Crush the testes with two rough rocks!
Bastards like these deserve that and worst!
 
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Where there is smoke there is always fire !!!
I doubt everyone here is lying or making these incidents up as these instances involve several resorts!!! This is posted with no ill will but strictly informational. Buyer beware part 2 !!

Jamaica resorts covered up sexual assaults, silenced victims for years

Updated 7:54 pm EST Dec. 9, 2018

She woke up on the shower floor crying and naked – ******* marks on her neck, scratches on her body.

The 18-year-old au pair vacationing in Jamaica had no idea how she wound up in a bathroom near the pool until hours later: She had been ******* and raped, she said, and the resort did nothing to help her.

Instead, Sandals Resorts paid her American host family $25,000 as a refund for the July trip and had the parents sign a nondisclosure agreement, vowing to never speak of the incident.

But the victim never signed any such agreement. And she's talking now.

"They know what happened. They know exactly who he was," the au pair said. "My silence will not be bought. ... They let someone get away with it."

In the wake of a Free Press investigation that found sexual assaults of tourists are a long-standing and unchecked problem in Jamaica, where an estimated one American is raped a month according to State Department statistics, multiple victims have come forward with stories about cover-ups, confidentiality agreements and payoffs by resorts looking to protect their reputations and revenue.

Also read: Sandals Resorts denies ******* claim cover-ups in Jamaica

Over the last several years, Jamaican resorts have silenced multiple sexual assault victims, discouraging them from calling the police or pressing charges, downplaying their fears and offering free hotel stays or cash refunds in exchange for a promise not to sue or tell anyone what happened, the Free Press found. Most of the alleged victims that shared their stories with the Free Press requested anonymity.

In some cases, the resorts convinced guests to just go home.

The silenced tourists include:

► The West Virginia family whose 18-year-old au pair told police she was sexually assaulted on July 4 at the Sandals-owned Beaches Negril Resort & Spa, alleging a resort bartender spiked her ******* before a guest choked and raped her. She filed a police report and underwent a ******* test. Surveillance video identified the attacker, she said, but no one was arrested. The host family was eventually paid and signed an agreement forbidding them from discussing the case.

► A New England family who said their 16-year-old ******* was raped in a bathroom at Beaches Negril resort in 2013, allegedly by a resort entertainer's friend who had been given a guest pass. "In the end, we did sign something saying we won't discuss it and they gave us a free week at another resort, which is little consolation for my *******'s mental health," the mom told the Free Press. "It would've been a nasty fight anyway."

► An Atlanta mom who said she was sexually assaulted while in the ocean by a Sunscape Splash resort employee during a trip celebrating her 50th birthday in October. She said resort staff at the property, which is owned by AMResorts, manipulated her into not pressing charges, warning her the criminal process would be lengthy and expensive, and convincing her to "go home and forget about it."

► A Kansas City woman who said she was sexually assaulted during a sailing excursion by a Sandals Ochi Beach Resort employee in October 2017. She stayed in her room for three days, but eventually reported him to the resort, which, she said, rushed her into signing a nondisclosure agreement in exchange for a $4,500 trip. "It was so fast — and they didn't give me time to think about anything," she recalled, adding police were never called. "I said, 'Do I need to make a police report?' They said, 'No. You don't need to do that. We'll take care of everything.' "

► A North Carolina couple whose honeymoon was ruined after a Sandals resort dancer named 'Showtime' allegedly sexually assaulted the wife on the dance floor, putting his hand up her dress, grabbing her genitalia and then forsing her hand on his private part to show his arousal. Sandals gave them a replacement, seven-night trip "as a goodwill gesture" and a complimentary couples' massage. In return, the couple signed legal forms releasing Sandals from any liability.

More coverage on Jamaican resorts

Resorts in Jamaica are facing a 'historic' sexual assault problem

Raped in Jamaica: Detroit woman turns gun on attacker at 5-star hotel

Sandals declined comment on specific allegations, but has denied covering up sexual assault claims at any of its resorts or silencing victims with payoffs.

"Our policies are clear — all reported incidents of sexual assault and harassment are fully reported to law enforcement, investigated and, where appropriate, prosecuted by the authorities," Sandals said in a statement to the Free Press. "This is a core element of our incident response protocol. In no way does Sandals discourage guests or others from reporting allegations of criminal conduct to law enforcement or from cooperating with law enforcement investigations."

Moreover, the company added: " ... refunds are not offered to guests who report being victims of criminal assault where an active law enforcement investigation or prosecution is underway. Where there is no active criminal investigation or prosecution, on rare occasions, we do offer refunds or similar compensation when our guests feel that we did not meet expectations which may include releases and confidentiality, as is industry practice."

Sandals stressed that, "No guest is ever ****** to sign any document."

Nevertheless, problems continue to crop up for the resort chain.

This week, a New Jersey couple sued Sandals for $30 million, saying their 2016 wedding in the Bahamas was ruined by a resort butler who allegedly sneaked into the bride's suite on the eve of her wedding and ******* her while she slept. According to the couple's lawyer, New York attorney John Nicholas Iannuzzi, Sandals discouraged the couple from involving police and offered to refund the $15,000 event, but with a nondisclosure agreement. The couple declined and filed a lawsuit in Manhattan two years later.

"We were not interested in being silenced," the 32-year-old bride, Ashley Pascarella, told the Free Press. "It was a nominal amount of money compared to what had happened."

Sandals called the lawsuit "a self-serving, one-sided and incomplete version of an incident reported in 2016."

"The plaintiffs have unfortunately embarked to influence the case using a choreographed media campaign based on their one-sided narrative," Sandals said in a statement.

Bigger than Sandals

Jamaica's biggest source of revenue is tourism, drawing a record 4.3 million visitors in 2017 and raking in more than $3 billion in revenue from U.S. tourists alone that year. Americans are the biggest contributors to Jamaica's tourism industry as more than 1 million U.S. residents vacation there every year, and the numbers keep going up.

Meanwhile, the travel advisories continue.

In addition to Sandals, several Jamaican resorts also have been accused of failing to properly address sexual assault complaints, including: Grand Bahia Principe of the Spanish-owned Bahia Principe Hotels & Resorts; Breathless Montego Bay Resort & Spa and Sunscape Splash Montego Bay of Philidelphia-based AMResorts; and Hotel Riu Reggae in Montego Bay, part of Riu Hotels & Resorts based in Spain.

While some victims cut deals with the resorts, or rejected their offers, others have said the resorts took no action in responding to sexual assault claims. Their complaints were ignored altogether, some said, despite repeated phone calls and emails to management asking for help.

More coverage on Jamaican resorts

Resorts in Jamaica are facing a 'historic' sexual assault problem

Raped in Jamaica: Detroit woman turns gun on attacker at 5-star hotel

One victim from Minnesota, however, did get results, saying the hotel employee who sexually assaulted her at an unnamed all-inclusive hotel in Montego Bay was fired after she reported the incident. "I called the U.S. Embassy and they took my matter seriously. I had a bit of victim blaming by locals but am glad I reported it nonetheless," the woman wrote in a Nov. 1 TripAdvisor review. "I recommend caution even inside resorts — and do not ever walk around alone."

The Minnesota woman's review echoed repeated warnings issued by the U.S. State Department, which has described sexual assault as a "historic concern" in Jamaica that needs "forceful investigation and follow-up by the hotels and by police and other security officials."

"Sexual assaults occur frequently," the State Department warned in a January travel advisory "even at all-inclusive resorts."

The resorts aren't doing enough to help the injured obtain justice, victims claim, arguing a change in attitudes about sex crimes and protocol for handling them is long overdue in Jamaica. The resorts have not taken sexual assault seriously, they say, and they have the scars, payoffs, legal forms and unanswered emails to prove it.

"I will not be silenced," said one victim. "I deserve better."

'Were you not warned?'

Soon after returning from Jamaica, the American host mom took to TripAdvisor to vent and warn others about what happened to her au pair at Beaches Negril.

"My 18-year-old ******* was given a ******* directly from the bartender at Club Liquid. It was *******," the woman wrote, referring to the au pair. "She was then taken to a bathroom by another 'guest' and raped. CHOKED. SCRATCHED and RAPED."

TripAdvisor removed the post, stating the review "was flagged by another user for violating our review guidelines."

A Sandals payout followed, along with a confidentiality agreement that prohibited the family from discussing the incident and required them to remove all comments about the trip from social media. Specifically, any mentions of the au pair's ordeal during the Jamaica trip were removed from the host mom's Twitter feed.

Here, according to the au pair and text messages, emails, statements to the police and public records, is what happened that night at the all-inclusive resort:

It was 11 p.m. when the au pair went to Club Liquid for a *******. She had spent the day with her American host family and their four children at the resort, and ventured out on her own when they all went to bed.

The au pair sat alone at the psychedelic-colored bar and had a few drinks while music played. But within an hour, her world would go dark.

At about midnight, the bar started emptying out and the au pair ordered another *******. The bartender mixed her ******* while talking to a man who was sitting nearby. He was the only one left in the bar and he approached the au pair as she finished her *******.

Quickly, everything turned into a blur. She remembers talking, but nothing about the conversation. She doesn't remember leaving the club. She vaguely remembers being at a beach with a man and winding up in a pool with him, crying on a pool step.

The next thing she remembers is waking up in the shower near the pool at the resort. The water was running. She opened a door and found her clothes and bag on a nearby bench. She got dressed and walked to her room.

"I just remember being in the pool area, but not how I got there," she said. "I didn't understand what the hell had just happened. I was so confused. There was nobody around. It was light outside."

Her cellphone read 6 a.m. when she returned to her room and plugged it into a charger. She put on her pajamas and went to bed.

"I was feeling so ill and so tired," she said.

When she woke up, her head was spinning. She felt nauseous and discomfort in her vaginal area. She had red marks on her neck.

At about 11:30 a.m., she told her host mom that she wasn't feeling good and filled her in on the few details she could remember from the night before. The mom summoned a nurse and security. A police officer also showed up and interviewed the au pair, who then went to a hospital with her host mom. She underwent a ******* test and had some type of medication prescribed.

"The doctor said something definitely happened," she said.

After going to the hospital, the au pair went to the police station to give a statement. There, she heard a comment that left her reeling.

"The police woman said to me, 'Were you not warned about the culture here?' " she recalled, noting she was confused.

The police woman elaborated: "These things happen here. ... Next time, don't have so many drinks."

It has been more than seven months and the au pair, who is back in South Africa, is still trying to get her hospital records, toxicology results and a copy of a surveillance video. It burns her that her host family has been given information about her *******, she said, but she has not been given it.

And it really burns her that Sandals paid her host family off, she said.

"Why are you bribing people to keep quiet?" she said. "I feel like they allowed this to happen because they let someone get away with it. They cover their backs so quickly that they don't actually help the victim."

The resort knows who did this, she said, noting there is surveillance video of what unfolded.

The Free Press has learned that resort management has video showing the suspect alone with the au pair at the bar, taking her to a bathroom, spending time in there with her and then him leaving alone.

Management knows the suspect's name and what room he was staying in; they had a clear view of his face, the au pair said. He was an American tourist who left the next day, according to the au pair.

The au pair said no one seems willing to do anything because the incident involves three countries: The victim is South African; the incident happened in Jamaica; and the suspect is an American.

"I've been feeling helpless," the au pair said, "because no one really cares."

The woman's host parents declined comment. So did Sandals, though the company posted a comment on the au pair's TripAdvisor account last week, stating:

"In this case, local law enforcement conducted an investigation and reviewed the Beaches Resort’s surveillance video footage which was immediately provided. Local law enforcement subsequently issued statements, in which they explained that 'We have collected statements and reviewed video evidence none of which supports the claim of *******'; 'The toxicology report has not revealed anything of note and the theory of her being ******* is not sustainable.' "

Jamaican police said they investigated the incident, but that the prosecutor's office declined to bring charges. They did not elaborate on the findings in the au pair's case, or any other sexual assaults involving resorts. In response to numerous questions from the Free Press, they issued a one-page news release that included the following:

"The woman’s employers allegedly noticed marks on her neck and reported the matter to the Negril Police, where the woman told investigators that she had a ******* with the man and subsequently woke up and found herself sitting in a shower on the property," the statement says.

Jamaica's Centre for the Investigation of Sexual Offences and baby Abuse conducted an investigation that included a toxicology analysis, statements to law enforcement and surveillance footage. The file was then submitted to the Office of the Director of Public Prosecutions for a ruling.

"On September 20, 2018, a ruling was received ... It stated that no criminal proceedings can commence in this matter," the statement reads.

Meanwhile, the South African Embassy has intervened, requesting a copy of the medical report. Police said it was provided and the matter has been referred to a tourism liaison officer for follow-up with relevant foreign emissaries and family members.

"It should be noted that items that are submitted into evidence for an ongoing investigation cannot be released as there are strict issues of confidentiality and strong potential for the investigation to be compromised," the agency stated.

The status of the investigation is not clear.

"Visitor safety and security remain a top priority of the Jamaica Constabulary *******," the police agency states, adding local law enforcement works with the tourism sector in patrolling tourist attractions and conducting security inspections and certification of resorts, hotels and attractions to ensure they meet regulatory requirements.

'Go home and forget about it'

Ivy was afraid of the water.

The Georgia mom wasn't a strong swimmer, but the resort employee who worked the water excursions at the Sunscape Splash resort in Montego Bay assured her that he would help her. So she ventured into Jamaica's blue-green waters, up to her neck.

It was mid October. She had gone to Jamaica to celebrate her 50th birthday with her *******. And she was eager to have fun and relax.

In the water that day, she was nervous. The employee kept telling her to relax. Then came the inappropriate touching. She told him to stop, but he wouldn't. He told her to lay on her stomach. She was scared in the deep water, so she did as he suggested.

That's when he slid his hand in between her legs and started aggressively fondling her genitals. She protested, but he wouldn't stop.

Eventually, she managed to escape. She got to her feet and walked out of the water. Outraged and horrified, she reported the incident to security and asked to be moved to another property. The general manager told her she could move, she said, but that it would cost more and that she would have to pay the difference.

Stunned by the response, she then reported the incident to the vacation representative, whose response shocked her even more.

"Do you want to call police, or would you rather go home and forget about it?," Ivy recalled being told, adding that the representative then encouraged her to "try to have a good time. Don't let it ruin your vacation. Try to make the best of it."

Ivy was furious. So was her *******, who urged her to go to the police. So the resort called for a taxi to take her, her ******* and a security employee to the police station.

They never left the resort, however. While waiting for the taxi, she said the resort's head of security started warning her about a lengthy and costly legal process, that she would have to pay for all her travel during the criminal process and that the suspect would languish in prison for years if she didn't return to Jamaica.

"I knew I was never coming back to Jamaica," she said.

So Ivy changed her mind about pressing charges and returned to the U.S., where she quickly regretted her decision. Two weeks after her trip, she read the Free Press article about Jamaica's sexual assault problem.

"When I saw your story and realized how prevalent it was – this was a family resort. What if I had been a young girl?" said Ivy, stressing travelers need to be aware of the dangers lurking in the heavily gated resorts.

"That’s like a facade. You feel like you’re safe in there ... but you're not," she said. "There was no compassion."

Sunscape Splash did not respond to requests for comment.

On TripAdvisor, where Ivy posted a negative review detailing her experience, Sunscape Splash issued this statement:

"The safety of our guests is always our top priority," read the statement, which included an email address for Ivy to contact. "Please reach out ... for me to better address your specific concerns."

To date, Ivy said the resort has refused to issue a refund.

The Kansas City woman who also alleged being sexually assaulted in the water has expressed similar frustrations.

Like Ivy, she has regrets. Ivy regrets walking away. She regrets signing the nondisclosure agreement with Sandals – a decision that ate at her when she returned home from her trip.

"I emailed them when I got back, twice. And I never got anyone to respond. That was really frustrating," she said, stressing that staying quiet was especially hard. "I feel like there's nothing I can do. I can't even tell people, warn people."

This week, after a year of keeping quiet, the woman broke her silence, hoping to spare others from a similar fate.

In an interview with the Free Press, she said that an employee at Sandals Ochi Beach Resort took advantage of her while taking her out on a sailing excursion. It was just the two of them. He kept going farther and farther out into the ocean when, at one point, he looked at her and said, "You have beautiful lips," she recalled.

She got nervous and uncomfortable. He kept going farther and farther out, past the other boats, so she told him she wanted to go back. As soon as the sailboat turned sideways, she said, he lunged on top of her and put his hands on her genitals.

"I immediately started screaming, 'Get off of me!' I was going over. My cellphone and hand fell in the water," she recalled, adding she considered jumping in the ocean to escape him.

When she started to scream, she said, the man responded, "'No, no, no. Wait. Wait. It's fine."

He took her back. For three days, she stayed in her room, afraid to come out until her butler saw her crying, asked what was wrong and then convinced her to report the incident when she told him what had happened.

Looking back, she said, the resort should have called the police. She should have never signed the confidentiality agreement. But she still has a soft spot for Jamaica, where she has been seven times.

"I love the country," she said. "I won't hold the whole country accountable for what one bad person did to me. There are a lot of really good people in that country."

Tucked in among the thousands of reviews on TripAdvisor are more stories of anger and frustration by travelers who say their sexual assaults in Jamaica were ignored — and even tolerated — by the resorts.

In the spring of 2014, a British mom claimed the management at Beaches Negril failed to call the police about the attempted ******* of her 18-year-old ******* during a wedding trip. The suspect was a Sandals employee, but management allegedly told her, "Our hands were tied. Your ******* didn't want anyone to know."

The mom demanded accountability.

"I asked Sandals, 'where are your procedures? This is a criminal act, the police should have been called by you regardless what anybody else wanted,' " the mom wrote in a 2014 TripAdvisor review.

After months of phone calls and writing multiple emails to Sandals officials, the woman said Sandals offered her family three nights free accommodation at their resorts, but with a confidentiality clause.

She called Sandals "despicable."

Though Sandals declined comment on specific allegations, it defended its security systems and procedures and cited examples of enhanced safety measures at its resorts, including: new, state-of-the-art Close Circuit Television Surveillance Systems at all of its resorts, which are monitored 24 hours a day by uniformed security guards at each resort; background checks of all applicants, including a criminal record search and evaluation of the their social/online history; a zero-tolerance policy for fraternization by personnel with guests and for any sexual misconduct by staff, and mandatory sexual harassment training for all staff.

This past spring, a guest at the Breathless Montego Bay Resort & Spa took to TripAdvisor to vent about her experience. She claimed staff members had asked her and her friend if they could shower in their room, and told them that they had been watching them.

"A couple days into our trip, I was sexually assaulted by one of the staff members. So far, the resort has not responded to my attempts to have the staff member fired/charged and to have sexual harassment training for the remainder of the staff," the woman wrote in the April post.

Three weeks later, the Breathless resort responded: "It is both concerning and alarming to read the details of your experience which is not reflective of the kind of experience we aim to and are known to provide valued guests such as you. I would love the opportunity to assist in further addressing your concerns ... and invite you to contact me directly at your earliest opportunity."

The outcome of that case is not known. Breathless did not respond to requests for comment.

In 2016, a Canadian traveler wrote that an entertainer who worked at the Grand Bahia Principe resort in Jamaica sexually assaulted her during a family trip in 2016. But the resort worker kept his job despite her complaint, she wrote on TripAdvisor, stating the resort "did absolutely nothing about this incident" and did not return her calls after she returned home.

Grand Bahia Principe responded to the allegation on TripAdvisor, stating in 2016: "We're surprised and concerned by your comments you have reported. We do sincerely apologize for any issues in your vacation and we will be sure to forward your concerns to our management team to investigate this matter."

Grand Bahia Principe did not return calls seeking comment.

It's time for change

It has been more than a decade since he says his honeymoon was ruined at a Sandals resort by a dancer named "Showtime," yet the company's response still eats at the North Carolina man.

He said he never publicly discussed the troubling honeymoon incident until reading the Oct. 30 Free Press article****that detailed multiple sexual assaults in Jamaica, including the 2015 rapes of a Michigan teenage girl and her 21-year-old friend. They said they were raped in a laundry room by resort lifeguards at Beaches Ochos Rios, another Sandals property. The suspects were arrested and charged, but it has been more than 3½ years and the case has yet to go to trial.

The alleged victims' stories angered the North Carolina man.

He told the Free Press his wife was sexually assaulted on the dance floor by a gyrating disco dancer who grabbed her genitalia under her dress and then shoved her hand on his crotch. The wife bolted from the dance floor – humiliated, grossed out and furious; the husband said he raised hell at the front desk.

But the resort staff was dismissive when he complained about it, he said, adding he spent much of his honeymoon arguing with lawyers and managers, while "Showtime" denied any wrongdoing.

Initially, the resort offered the pair a free couples' massage and told them to try to relax, he said. Sandals refused to refund the trip. The husband persisted. In the end, Sandals cut a deal with the newlyweds: It offered them a seven-night replacement stay at any Sandals resort in exchange for releasing Sandals "from any and all liability."

"Let me start by thanking you for choosing Sandals Montego Bay for your honeymoon," Sandals General Manager Horace Perez wrote in an Oct. 11, 2004, letter to the couple, stating he did "regret the incident that (the wife) reported that put a damper on your stay."

"While the incident has been denied by the team member, as mutually agreed, we will replace your seven honeymoon nights as a goodwill gesture. ... Please note also that we have taken off the spa charge that we offered along with the phone charges incurred in respect of the incident."

The letter continued ... "thanks again for your patience and understanding the matter and I do hope that you will become loyal Sandals returnees."

A year later, the North Carolina couple took their replacement Sandals trip to St. Lucia. They were treated like royalty, the husband said. But they never patronized Sandals again.

"I thought it was crappy that it's been going on for this long and they continue to try to push it under the rug and hide it," said the husband, who hopes more publicity is an "impetus for change."

"I don't want this to happen to other people," he said. "They gave us the paper work. We signed it. It was very corporate-like. ... But the rest of our honeymoon sucked."

Contact Tresa Baldas: tbaldas@freepress.com. Follow her on Twitter @Tbaldas.

Originally Published 6:33 pm EST Dec. 9, 2018

Updated 7:54 pm EST Dec. 9, 2018


Welp!! Its hard to argue with soooo many cases. Smh
 
The question in my mind is it any different in the US? The problem is women do not report rapes. The reasons are many. It could be family pressures or embarrassment. It could be a family member who raped them. However, most of the time women don't report being raped because they are victimized again. Just look at the Supreme Court justice hearing. I doubt that anyone really thought he didn't do it. The problem is they didn't care. How about that college student who was raped on the ground by a dumpster when she got ******* at a party. He barely got a slap on the wrist. If the person is rich and powerful there was no way anyone would even listen to you until recently. The problem is if you are a woman who is raped and you tell your story, no one cares!

For those of you who take the conservative line of being afraid of being around women, that is Bullshit. You know what's right and what is wrong. You know that if you have your hand over her mouth to stop her from screaming, it's wrong!

As for the resorts in Jamaica. There is little doubt that rapes do occur. The question again does it happen more often in Jamaica or the here at home? No one has the answer to that question because so few rapes get reported. I think it's pretty obvious that the fear tactics are used because Jamaica is dominantly black.

I think the first post mentioned that employees were being told that guests were not their friends. In my opinion that is a terrible idea. The reason tourists go to Jamaica is because of the friendly people. When I return to Hedonism the employees call me by name and welcome me home. As humans we love personal interaction like that. Think about how you are treated at upscale resorts here in Las Vegas. The employees always greet you by name, and treat you as a friend. If the employees are not friendly, the tourists will stop coming.

I will be back in Jamaica at Hedonism again for the 27th time in April. I'm not going to allow fear mongering keep me away from having a great time in Jamaica.
 
The question in my mind is it any different in the US? The problem is women do not report rapes. The reasons are many. It could be family pressures or embarrassment. It could be a family member who raped them. However, most of the time women don't report being raped because they are victimized again. Just look at the Supreme Court justice hearing. I doubt that anyone really thought he didn't do it. The problem is they didn't care. How about that college student who was raped on the ground by a dumpster when she got ******* at a party. He barely got a slap on the wrist. If the person is rich and powerful there was no way anyone would even listen to you until recently. The problem is if you are a woman who is raped and you tell your story, no one cares!

For those of you who take the conservative line of being afraid of being around women, that is Bullshit. You know what's right and what is wrong. You know that if you have your hand over her mouth to stop her from screaming, it's wrong!

As for the resorts in Jamaica. There is little doubt that rapes do occur. The question again does it happen more often in Jamaica or the here at home? No one has the answer to that question because so few rapes get reported. I think it's pretty obvious that the fear tactics are used because Jamaica is dominantly black.

I think the first post mentioned that employees were being told that guests were not their friends. In my opinion that is a terrible idea. The reason tourists go to Jamaica is because of the friendly people. When I return to Hedonism the employees call me by name and welcome me home. As humans we love personal interaction like that. Think about how you are treated at upscale resorts here in Las Vegas. The employees always greet you by name, and treat you as a friend. If the employees are not friendly, the tourists will stop coming.

I will be back in Jamaica at Hedonism again for the 27th time in April. I'm not going to allow fear mongering keep me away from having a great time in Jamaica.

Thanks for your insight !! I shared the articles as strictly informational and without any bias to any side or parties involved. My personal take is there is no denying that there is some level of truth to some of the experiences mentioned in the articles and
to discount that would be the equivalent of the proverbial “burying your head in the sand”
With that said, I also know that there is always too sides to the story and most here is if the side reported. I am also not naive to think it’s only happening in Jamaica but when so many instances go on without due process, it raises some concern. I saw today of an instance in Texas where someone was assaulted, bound and left naked but not raped and the judge involved felt that because she wasn’t raped a harsh sentence wasn’t necessary. The Caribbean is a beautiful place to vacation and as in most places in general, you want to have a great time but just because I am a thief and something is missing, doesn’t mean I stole it - totally letting your guard down would be irresponsible. You are as we say, is a seasoned veteran and a world traveller and know the ropes but someone who is visiting for the first time or infrequently as you do may not be as experienced and fall victim to some of the things mentioned in both articles, hence the buyer beware notation.
 
Any country with an economy based mainly on tourism has good reasons to hide this type of news. In general terms, undeveloped countries are more insecure for all and many Western women ignore the most basic security rules. However, it has nothing to do visiting Latin America than a Muslim country.

The only 'predominantly mexican country' I know is Mexico.


I disagree, for example Croatia is a very touristic country which is also pretty poor. Yet, you feel way more secure than in most if not all western (richer) countries.
Whereas it is true that touristic countries and poor with predominantly black, or/and muslim population are quite insecure.

Go figure.
 
I disagree, for example Croatia is a very touristic country which is also pretty poor. Yet, you feel way more secure than in most if not all western (richer) countries.
Whereas it is true that touristic countries and poor with predominantly black, or/and muslim population are quite insecure.

Go figure.

The problem is just because you feel secure doesn't mean that is true. I talk to a lot of people who are afraid to travel into Mexico because of the ******* problem that we created with our war on *******. What they are saying is that they "feel" less secure. However, the reality is that likely more people are shot and killed in the US than Mexico, but there is a big difference. In Mexico you might get shot if you go there with the intention of getting into the ******* business. They don't like competition. In the US we shoot and ******* others for no reason at all. You might feel more secure in the US than Mexico, but are you? If you go to Europe they might pick your pocket, but in the US they would shoot you first!

In this case we are talking about rrape. Most rapes go unreported in the US, because the men in charge simply don't care. They think it's something the woman did like dressing sexy. ******* is a crime of violence it's not about sex. There are many conservative leaders who think women should wear Bee Keeper Suits like they do in Muslim countries. It's simply a way of controlling women and keeping them in their place! Just because the country is dominantly black or Muslim does not mean you are less secure. There are dangerous places in this world, but making generalizations based on race or religion is simply wrong!
 
If you actually look at the numbers Mexico has a FAR higher homicide rate than the US.

Sorry but as a gun owner and advocate of responsible ownership I feel the need to step in here. Mexico had nearly 16,000 homicides in the first 6 months of 2018. The USA doesn't come close to breaching that in an entire year, and it's actually looking like 2018 will see a large decline comparatively to the 2017 numbers.

Please do your research before you start throwing out facts. I have extensively researched this topic, and while I'm not looking to get into a debate on gun rights, I will call out misinformation when I see it.

I will agree on one point though, that making generalizations based on race or religion is wrong.
 
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If you actually look at the numbers Mexico has a FAR higher homicide rate than the US.

Sorry but as a gun owner and advocate of responsible ownership I feel the need to step in here. Mexico had nearly 16,000 homicides in the first 6 months of 2018. The USA doesn't come close to breaching that in an entire year, and it's actually looking like 2018 will see a large decline comparatively to the 2017 numbers.

Please do your research before you start throwing out facts. I have extensively researched this topic, and while I'm not looking to get into a debate on gun rights, I will call out misinformation when I see it.

I will agree on one point though, that making generalizations based on race or religion is wrong.


My comments on this thread were about what I see as fear mongering, and in this case I think it is directly related to race. In this case it’s about rapes in Jamaica resorts. The problem is most rapes go unreported. So it’s really difficult to know if Jamaica is more dangerous than in the US, but the implication is that because Jamaica is dominantly black it’s more dangerous. We all know that in the US there are black men who are shot and killed by police and individual because the shooter claimed he feared for his life even though he shot him in the back as he was running away! Fear is a major motivation for Americans particularly with one political party.

My comments were in no way intended to make a statement about guns in America. Obviously there is no point in having a discussion about things like guns or climate change as facts really don’t matter. Its how you feel about that makes it true or false. I normally would not comment on this, but when you called me stupid you ****** a response. I will not make any further comments on guns, as this site is about something much more pleasurable, Sex!

Let’s look at the numbers. As of December 24, 2018 there have been 61,913 gun incidences in the US this year. There have been 15,658 deaths this year. The number of Americans injured in gun violence last year 31,259. However, this number does not include gun related gun suicides, 22,000. That brings the total number of gun deaths in the US to 37,658. Check this site for complete information https://www.gunviolencearchive.org/past-tolls

Now let’s talk about Mexico. CNN reports: “There were 25,339 homicides in Mexico last year, a 23% jump from 2016 and the highest number since at least 1997, the year the government began tracking the data. Overall, murders in Mexico had been declining in recent years, reaching a low of 15,520 in 2014. But officials say a surge in *******-related crime reversed that trend. https://www.cnn.com/2018/01/22/americas/mexico-murders-2017/index.html

However, the number of Americans shot and killed in Mexico was, drum roll please, 120! Some of those are innocent victims and some ******* war related. I’m an American and I’m not in the ******* business so the total number of homicides has no direct impact on me. The number of Americans killed is number that I’m most concerned about.

This is how the comments I made are related to the topic of rapes in Jamaica. There are all kinds of warnings about traveling in Mexico. Do we really need to be warned that 120 Americans were killed in the entire country of Mexico last year? I tend to think that most of these warnings are once again fear mongering based on race.

I am concerned about gun violence in the US. My husband and I left NYNY in Las Vegas and drove up Las Vegas Blvd 15 minutes before the shooting started at the Country Music festival. A couple months later there was a shootout at a gas station a half mile from my house. If you haven’t been near a shooting, it’s only a matter of time.

I wish you all Peace and Love. I hope everyone has a Wonderful Holiday Season.
 
I was referring specifically to homicide statistics.

You are statistically more likely to be murdered in Mexico than in the US. Which is why I made the comment in the first place.

I am not saying either country is unsafe, what I am saying is that when it comes to getting murdered, you're more likely to be murdered living in Mexico. Saying the US is less safe is a fallacy.

All gun related injuries in the US pass just the number or homicides in Mexico by only around 8k.

More people committing suicide has no correlation to my safety, neither do self defense situations, or officer involved incidents as I am a law abiding citizen.

I am talking about homicides only. When you compare homicide rates the US is drastically lower.

It should also be noted that I haven't even factored in the drastic 170m+ population disparity between the US and Mexico which makes Mexico look even worse from a statistical standpoint in terms of homicides per 100k people.

Also when doing my research I use FBI.GOV.
 
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Also to follow up, what it really boils down to for tourism in a foreign country is common sense.

I'm not a fan of fear mongering and believe that if you stay on the beaten path and don't cause problems you'll generally be fine wherever you choose to travel.

Merry Christmas!
 
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We have made at least 20 trips to Jamaica beginning in the middle 90’s and these are just my observations. All of our trips except the first were to Hedo II, the outlier was a trip to a villa that we rented in the hills above Montego Bay. We have flown in both through Kingston and Montego Bay.

Kingston has some areas that were downright frightening to us. If you decide to fly to Manley International I would suggest catching an air taxi directly from there to Montego Bay. It is very affordable if you connect with another couple and split the cost. We made the mistake of overnighting in Kingston one time and then catching a shuttle, NEVER AGAIN! Kingston is a long way from Negril and you waste most of a day on bad roads getting there. Do the math, Hedo is pricy and you don’t want to waste time in Jamaica on a shuttle bus.

Montego Bay was better but … It is a Port of Call for some big cruise lines that drop off some 2,000 to 3,000 people for a few hours. This fills the downtown area with crowds of tourists and invites crime that often accompanies that kind of activity. When we stayed at the villa my wife and I took a trip to the city once and they provided a driver and a body guard. It seemed like the driver was known by everyone and we got to see some interesting places but I also felt way more secure because we had the body guard with us. It was during this trip that we first heard of Hedo II and went there on a day trip. We loved it and were hooked!

The next time we went we took shuttle bus from Montego Bay and it wasn’t too bad, I seem to remember it taking a couple of hours (counting the stops for Red Stripes). On that trip we learned about the air taxis so we take it every time now. I am sure you will want to get to Hedo as quickly as possible and this is the fastest way to go (if you aren't afraid of small aircraft).

Negril is a decent tourist town with some fun destinations but we only went out during the day and in a group. The local news reported about aggravated assaults on tourists so I don’t know if I can agree there is a vast cover-up. Maybe they covered some and not others, I don’t know how to disprove a negative like that anyway. Antidotally, it seemed like ******* were involved one way or another in most of the reports. As a side comment, Alaska has three times the sexual assault rate as the rest of the country but I have never heard of anyone avoiding vacations there for that cause.

Hedo II is surrounded by very tall walls, I would guess 15-20 feet. They do allow some locals in on day passes and there are some vendors on the beach but the resort is mostly guests and it is patrolled by security. We “felt” safe but we weren’t fools about it. We stayed in the resort at night and stayed on the well-lit paths and inside the clubs. I stayed reasonably clear headed (no ******* and limited drinking) and stayed close to my wife, especially when she played. If things even started to feel out of control then I would get her out of there (read in here - the nude side hot tub late at night). I don’t think it ever got dangerous and we have had similar experiences at sex parties in the good old US of A.

All I am saying is that it doesn't matter if it is Compton or Kingston, Detroit or Negril, Anchorage or Ocho Rios; you have to keep yourself safe but there are no guarantees in life anywhere. My wife has told me many times that she feels like she can let go and enjoy herself because she knows I am there; sober and watchful (OK, I admit that I am mostly watching her :cool: ).

I think the fact that we have gone back to Hedo over and over is the best indication of how safe we feel and how it earned the nickname “the best place on earth”. For us, there is no other experience that quite matches it and the number of repeat guests validate that we are not the only ones.

Finally, it’s true you could get sexually assaulted at Hedo, but there have also been claims of ******* at the Chicago and the Kuala Lampur Ritz-Carlton's. I have stayed both places and Hedo is more fun:dance:.

My suggestion is GO if you are thinking about it! Enjoy it and keep her safe.
 
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