Is it okay to use the N word while getting fucked?
- Thread starter Jen Dvorak
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party4candi
Couple
No, never. Even if your black friend(s) do, you do NOT, ever. You might think you're just playing along with the fun, but they won't forget it.
I like your mind
Exactly.
I wish some white slut did say that to me. She better call 911 right afterwardshmm YesI think that has some truth to it maybe lol? Like in romance or erotic stories, there is a focus on passion and being ravished.
I did enjoy the multiple orgasms
I only say it if I am asked to.
Call me whatever you want while im pounding that pussy
fuckmywife101
Couple
I worked with a blk dude and he loved it when women called him it.. I love when blk guys call me names tho but my wife doesnt
It's difficult to give a definitive answer here. It depends, of course, on each partner (individual trajectory, family and/or political culture...) and, I'd say even more, on each sexual encounter you have. What is tolerated, even appreciated, in a given situation (context, sexual games, excitement of the moment...), may be totally rejected at another time. It's important to remember that every sexual encounter we have is a unique alchemy with our partner, and, in human relations, that the same causes don't always produce the same effects.
Now, with practice, discussions before and/or after sex, reflexivity and careful attention to the weak signals emanating from our partner, we can "feel it" or not, during the sexual act, but there are still failures... Practice, practice, practice, that's the only way you'll become better.
Exactly this!
I for one appreciate your reasoned analysis; but I am going to respectfully disagree in a different context, knowing some will disagree.It's difficult to give a definitive answer here. It depends, of course, on each partner (individual trajectory, family and/or political culture...) and, I'd say even more, on each sexual encounter you have. What is tolerated, even appreciated, in a given situation (context, sexual games, excitement of the moment...), may be totally rejected at another time. It's important to remember that every sexual encounter we have is a unique alchemy with our partner, and, in human relations, that the same causes don't always produce the same effects.
Now, with practice, discussions before and/or after sex, reflexivity and careful attention to the weak signals emanating from our partner, we can "feel it" or not, during the sexual act, but there are still failures... Practice, practice, practice, that's the only way you'll become better.
Nearly every post here in some manner acknowledges the negative connotations in the word's origination. @Jen Dvorak your original post acknowledged usage going both ways. I contend there is NO usage ever totally devoid of it's original intent. We all were taught "wrong is wrong" not "wrong is wrong except...". To my white friends who know it's wrong, a Black man's enjoyment does NOT change that! To the Black men using it for 'fun' your cavalier usage still demeans ALL of us and YOU are perpetuating a significant portion of what all of us regardless of color struggle with, mostly so in America.
Bury that word and never, ever allow it the light of day again! One love!
You're not wrong, and your answer is very interesting (without irony), because it allows us to put our finger on a little more reality: our sex life is political. It always has been. Between sex and politics, there are many points of interference: reproductive rights, taking into account sexist and sexual violence, sex work, practices permitted or not by law... Even if, on a personal level and in my own intimacy, the use of a racist term (let it be said), whatever it may be, would cut me off from all sexual desire, the fact remains that for others it constitutes a powerful driving *******, because, in addition to a powerful sexual imaginary, it takes on a strong memorial aspect where symbolic violence is here reversed and the social taboo transgressed (excuse my french – wich I am, by the way : the black man fucks the white woman, ******* and wife of the white man; the disinherited man fucks the bourgeois woman; the dominated man fucks the dominator's wife) and this provides them with excitement and cerebral pleasure).
I understand your position, but it's difficult to totally eradicate from the collective imagination several centuries of a socio-cultural structure that has produced discourses, graphic productions, literature and representations of the sexual practices of some people.
On the other hand, this in no way prevents us from taking a lucid look at the use of these terms, which carry with them a disastrous past.
People seem to get outraged when books are banned but not individual words. What if the book contains the word? Should it be disallowed?
Fucking hot. Loved to have watched.
I don’t use it unless the guy is into it
It's objectifying and dehumanizing. I get why it appeals to some people in a role play.
That’s a tad dismissive and gives a pass on its usage and history. Now: If someone is into “race play”…while weird… then go for it.
Same way as I don’t go into a Cuck situation thinking that they are also into verbal degradation.
