I'm a married 47 year old female. I have been married for 23 years and was a virgin when I met my husband, he is the only man ( besides my Dr) that has seen me naked. He recently asked me to have phone sex with a black man while he uses my black toy on me. He also won't have sex with me without using the toy first. Is this weird? I thought guys wanted a woman to be tight ? He is also brought up the idea of a black man giving me a massage( real one , I won't get nude) my bbc toy feels good, although I need a new one. Is my husband weird , is it cheating if I go through with it?