Impotent

Discussion in 'Cuckold Forum' started by rocuck, Dec 22, 2013.

  1. rocuck

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    I would like to post what I think is a serious issue. Many of the couples on this site seem to use the cuckolding as a springboard for them to have sex. I am not sure this is cuckolding in the pure sense but everybody is different. Having said that, how many cuckolds do not WANT to have sex? This could be due to performance issues or submissive desires or a need to step aside for black men because it is the "right" thing to do. How many wives do not want to have sex with their cuckolds? What are thier motivations? Also. How many cuckolds are impotent? How many would like to be impotent? Are there any couples who have been able to make the cuckold impotent? Perhaps medicines or hormones--?.

    It seems to me that sex between a white cuckold and his wife or girlfriend detracts from the primary romantic/sexual relationship between the white woman and her blck lover. A totally impotent cuckold makes all of the conflicts go away--assuming the cuckold still has desire and frustration. Would it not be better for him to be unable to perform??

    I appreciate all serious responses.
     
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  2. willsrvu

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    This may be true for those couples wherein the wife desires a romantic relationship with her lover as she no longer has that with her husband and he is little more than a bank account or servant to her.

    However, to assume that is the case for the majority of couples would be wrong. You may find such stuff on those websites that push that sort of masturbation fodder, but on this website, if you read the responses to various topics made by the verified real women instead of the jerk off material posted by wannabe cuckolds, you will find that most love and appreciate their husbands and would sooner give up their lovers before doing anything to harm their marriage or husbands.
     
  3. digittwitch

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    I don't know if there is any such thing as a situation that "makes conflict go away" in any kind of relationship, let alone relationships this complicate.
    At any rate, my husband is impotent for psychological reasons rather then physical. While we don't have sex, the intimacy remains intense, wonderful, and central to my own happiness. Happy couples must be happy in the way that works for them.
     
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  4. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    Could you please explain the difference btw physiological reasons and physical reasons since you used the two words in the same sentence? I'm a bit confused there. Might you have meant psychological reasons?

    Also, does your husband ever have erections and ejaculations? :)
     
  5. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    I believe digitwitch started giving a logical explanation but got a bit confused on terminology. As I see it, a man is a cuckold for one of 3 reasons ... physiological, psychological, or voluntary. Most of what we read here are of white men wanting their wives to take black lovers and women preferencing to be with black men .... voluntary. ;)
     
  6. wilyboi

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    For myself, & I suspect most 'voluntary' cuckold husbands, 'impotence ' or 'lack of desire to have sex' would be a total anathema. I relieve myself sexually, (by masturbation), when my wife is being serviced by her bull, & I can manage multiple erections & orgasms when he allows me to listen to them fucking. I have trained myself to hold back & orgasm at the same time he does & I often cum at least once more when they've finished when my wife shows me the load he's deposited on her tits & face. If anything, my sexual desire has increased since we started this, impotence would ruin everything
     
  7. hotjen

    hotjen Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    hubbys impotent but when he sees me fucking a bull he gets his little cock hard and cums, now the bull lets him wtch so he can see he cum not much. but hubby loves cleaning me and the bull.
     
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  8. rocuck

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    I want to thank those who have responded but I am not sure if I made my question clear. When I speak of an impotent cuckold I mean someone who has the desire to have sex but is unable to perform. This could be because of a small size or an inability to erect. Assuming that frustration is part of the cuckold thing, this would be extreme frustration. This would also elevate the primary relationship of the white woman and black man and make it the only relationship in a sexual sense.

    I have great respect for willsrvu and the point that he makes probably applies to many if not most. But I think that there must be some cuckolding couples who really want to make it more intense. This could be a chastity device or some medications to prevent erections or whatever. For a wife like that it would not damage her marriage, it would enhance it. I do not see how a sexual marriage necessarily means the husband and wife. It could mean the wife with others only. I also respect MacNfries and the point made of voluntary versus physical, etc. I would not mean that any of this would be anything but voluntary. But why not have voluntary AND physical. If possible it makes it a 24 hour cuckolding. It makes you a cuckold whether you want to be one or not. You cannot perform in that setting. A physical cuckold as well as a mental one. I think most cuckolds want their wives or girlfriends to cuckold them and I still think that many of them secretly desire the more extreme form of it-total chastity either by a device or other means. I am just curious if this degree of it is rare or more common than most think.

    So getting back to my original questions. I am curious if there are cuckolds that would like this more extreme form? Are there black men out there that would like the white men to be soft? It makes more women available to you (as if that is really an issue for most of the guys out there). Are there white women who would like the white men to be impotent, assuming the desire remains.? It might eliminate an area of guilt and also open up areas of teasing and denial. Thanks to all who answer and I hope this post helps clarify things.
     
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  9. digittwitch

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    Correct, I've edited it- GIGO and trust in the spellchecker strikes again :)
    He has erections and ejaculates, he just does so most easily and happily watching or hearing about me with other men.
     
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  10. calixto

    calixto Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    I had suffered impotent problems during three years due some bad relationships that caused me psychologicalimpotence. I health definitely from this disease, when my wife and me met. Her previous experience in sex thanks to her ex black boyfriens helped me a lot. Casually yesterday at night we were talking about this.
     
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  11. hubby_spain

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    I am virtually 90% impotent, can hardly get erect any more. However I am ok with it
     
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  12. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    Just curious, how does that effect your ability to ejaculate? And, do you know the cause of your inability to get erections, as even you're not concerned with that, it could indicate more serious issues inside your body.
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  13. hubby_spain

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    Had extensive CBT in past and currently on medication that is increasing the impotence
     
  14. Chip

    Chip Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    I must be pretty dense but I seem to know less about this than when I first started.
     
  15. sexxy360

    sexxy360 Active Member Real Person

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    i always thought the whole cuck thing was weird, not judging anyone but i understand a bit more now...as i always say, If it works for you let your freak flags fly if it must.
     
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  16. susana2012

    susana2012 Well-Known Member Gold Member

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    My husband was impotent when I met him. He had not a physical problema but psychological. This was due an accumulation of bad experiences in sex with his previous girlfriends.
    We were friends before become a couple, so he spoke with me about his problem and fears. He thought that he was not going to be able to satisfy me in sex. But nothing of that was going to happen.
    I told him that my previous boyfriends never had problems with their erection being with me. Perhaps you think my said was an extra pressure for him, but this was going to work wonders in his case.
    My husband felt curiosity about my sex experience. We used to talk about sex but in this case he asked me to tell him with all kind of details my sex experiences.
    He had known my previous ex black boyfriend due we had worked together. So I told a lot of experiences in sex with him, during some weeks.
    The first time my hubby and me finally had sex, he was as excited than he couldn't resist more than two minutes fucking without cum.
    Tell him about my sexual life with my black boyfriend healed my husband.
     
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  17. chris john

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    My wife and I have been married for 13 yrs and I have always tried to please her as she has been much more sexual than me, about a year ago we had a long talk as I couldn't stay hard with her and it was because of the pressure she put on me to perform for her. We talked about it a lot and it was a very good discussion.She told me she had bfs before that were terrible lovers and her perspective on it is that men were always supposed to be great lovers and that many men feel they have to be but in fact many are very bad at it. Just like some men are good basketball players she says only a small percentage of men are great lovers. She has had one in the past and we talked about what made him one and it was interesting to hear it from her point of view. So I don't know if I am impotent or not, but I can't keep it around my wife, who is very beautiful, because she has a much higher expectation for sex. Thats when we talked about cuckolding and she started to buy toys and videos.
     
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  18. white sub for blacks

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    i can't get hard unless it's to ir porn by myself. i would rather watch a woman have sex with a real man than try it myself and fail
     
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  19. TexasCuck214

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    I have thought about faking impotency, in order to get her to try black. or at least, cumming too soon with her all the time.
     
  20. MacNfries

    MacNfries Well-Known Member Sweet & Cordial Gold Member

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    Selfish motives, it sounds like to me. Sorry!
    Personally, besides sliding into an occasionally well fucked pussy, I really enjoy feeling a woman's pussy orgasm when I flood her insides with my cream.