I don't understand how a white man could tolerate being a cuckold

[Debblacked]

i dont understand it either. i've tried but it makes no sense.

i feel frustrated and upset at times that i can't help him through whatever makes him this way.

I think it's similar to what goes on in a bdsm siuation in that it's a power exchange the husband gives up control to his wife and in some ways to her lover. It's important that the lover is bigger and the husband perceives him as bigger and better. It's all apart of the husband submitting to his wife and giving up control. The danger of losing his wife to a better lover and addictive and somewhat humiliating scenario of watching his wife with her lover of choice. And finally reconnecting with his wife after the her lover has left. That's what I think is the basics. Some couples take it farther with chastity cages and denial. Others the simple thrill of the wife having a black lover is enough. Different strokes for different folks. As long as everyone is having fun it's all good.

 

[Noreen]

I think it's similar to what goes on in a bdsm siuation in that it's a power exchange the husband gives up control to his wife and in some ways to her lover. It's important that the lover is bigger and the husband perceives him as bigger and better. It's all apart of the husband submitting to his wife and giving up control. The danger of losing his wife to a better lover and addictive and somewhat humiliating scenario of watching his wife with her lover of choice. And finally reconnecting with his wife after the her lover has left. That's what I think is the basics. Some couples take it farther with chastity cages and denial. Others the simple thrill of the wife having a black lover is enough. Different strokes for different folks. As long as everyone is having fun it's all good.

omg, he mentioned the 'danger of losing me' thing too! wow, i didn't realise that was a thing!

 

[Debblacked]

omg, he mentioned the 'danger of losing me' thing too! wow, i didn't realise that was a thing!

I think it's a primal fear. And I think most guys that are into this have probably lost a girlfriend to someone else at some time in their lives. And this is a way to flirt with that danger without the real risk of totally losing their wife. The wife gets to experience another man other than her husband without having to cheat. And the guy getter to enjoy the thrill of pleasing another man's wife. Having been the man in both roles cuckold and bull both are thrilling positions to be in. As a cuckold I've seen my wife give herself over and be enjoy the pleasures of another man. As the bull it's a heady Robb to know you're doing anther man's wife nit necessarily better than he will be differently and having her cum multiple times what you're doing to her is a heady thing.

 

[tomtomjim]

I became a cuckold because I wanted too. Did not see anything wrong with a woman wanting to fuck men and my children were older. I did not realize how things would play out when we started but one never does know. It is seldom the cock or pussy that determines how good the sex is but the mind and attitude. For all those men who want to be cucks and all those who want to be bulls just remember that the woman makes it all happen

 

[VoyeurWhiteMale]

... For all those men who want to be cucks and all those who want to be bulls just remember that the woman makes it all happen

I have been saying that for years. The woman is the center of the attention and she decides for everything. Even if she is submissive it is her decision to let someone else to decide for her.

 

[tomtomjim]

Many women make cucks of all the men they fuck lol, if it was up to me they would rule the world and I would just be a sex toy

 

[tomtomjim]

true but my wife fucked many and I know others who have as well tompam9athot

 

[Debblacked]

Honestly, outside of the fantasy world, if a wife told her husband she wanted to fuck other men more than likely he'd kick her to the curb.

Not necessarily. Couples that do this have talked about this, fantasized and finally decided as a couple to do it for real or not. But for those that have taken the ultimate plunge have done the journey together. Honestly I'd rather have my wife tell me that she wants to fuck other men than cheat on me. The difference is knowledge and trust versus deceitfulness and lying. This is really a couples game and communication is key. Also it's not for everybody and that's ok too.

 

[Debblacked]

There's just one word for that: gay.

I am not into gay *******. Homosexuals have their own communities and lifestyles - leave that to them.

I think that white women having sex with black men is hot (and I think that white men having sex with black women is hot as well) but that is just a load of *******.

Judgemental much? Sucking cock is not something I would do. But I can understand it in that this fantasy of white husbands being submissive can be a safe way, in the role of being a submissive cuckold, to explore bisexual urges.

 

[Debblacked]

The thin line ends when you start talking about another mans cock other than wanting to see your girl get stuffed. But then again, you've gone too far the moment you let your girl get violated by another man.

Violated? You don't understand and you never will. This is one aspect of our sexuality. Yes my wife has had black lovers but she's never been violated. We chose to do this. If you can't understand it don't try. Walk away and live and let live.

 

[tomtomjim]

Men have difficulty with womens sexuality and accepting the fact that they want to fuck but we pretend that they like anal and sucking cock which some do. If it can be fun for a woman to suck a cock why is it not fun for her husband to suck the same cock. I did not want to suck cock and the first few times that I did it was more like work. Over time my wife had me suck many cocks and I have come to really enjoy it and would suck a cock just for the pleasure it gives, I even enjoy the feeling of a cock spurting in my mouth

 

[seattlem]

Low self esteem and mental illness,and the white women who abuse them have ******* issues and are reverse racists..submission is an aberation of self loathing and guilt..
Years of subtle cultural brainwashing, liberal guilt, porn destroys souls.

 

[seattlem]

See Dsoul those guys are capable of DP and that's hot and all that *******, but those guys are probably weaker than me...it's bs..I've seen very small blackcocks,and white dudes that WILL kick as on the streets if it's 1 on 1

I simply don't buy the whole ******* about black men being ultra-masculine.

 

[tomtomjim]

I do not believe that sex, race or cock size has much if anything to do about masculinity or mental or physical power. When another man lets me suck his cock he is as involved as me. I have had various sizes and shapes and colors and the common thread is enjoyment with a load of cum to finish

 

[Debblacked]

Low self esteem and mental illness,and the white women who abuse them have ******* issues and are reverse racists..submission is an aberation of self loathing and guilt..
Years of subtle cultural brainwashing, liberal guilt, porn destroys souls.

Why are you here

 

[Ann4BBC]

I think it's a primal fear. And I think most guys that are into this have probably lost a girlfriend to someone else at some time in their lives. And this is a way to flirt with that danger without the real risk of totally losing their wife. The wife gets to experience another man other than her husband without having to cheat. And the guy getter to enjoy the thrill of pleasing another man's wife. Having been the man in both roles cuckold and bull both are thrilling positions to be in. As a cuckold I've seen my wife give herself over and be enjoy the pleasures of another man. As the bull it's a heady Robb to know you're doing anther man's wife nit necessarily better than he will be differently and having her cum multiple times what you're doing to her is a heady thing.

Well put! Me and hubby have chatted about this in the past. I often questioned at the beginning why he would be happy me going with other men, and watching me have sex with other men.
On a basic level it simply turns him on, on a deeper level- yes, like you say, he had bad experiences in the past with an ex girlfriend. Either way as long as he's happy, and I'm happy, it works. X

 

[tomtomjim]

We were virgins when we met , got married and had a great marriage and after eighteen years of fucking only me she decided to fuck other men and I was okay with it. We had some mfmf and I did a few women on my own but very soon became a cuck

 

[WillandSusn]

i dont understand it either. i've tried but it makes no sense.

i feel frustrated and upset at times that i can't help him through whatever makes him this way.

Bucket List ? Life is short . For adults , Enjoy as many experiences and opportunities while you can . Watching Susan with her lover is a turn

Some of you here really enjoy the cuckold lifestyle.

But I cannot understand for those white males who participate in it, does their inner masculinity not kick in once in a while or is that non-existent? I'm keen to stimulate debate. All thoughts and opinions would be welcomed from any point of view.

Bucket List ? Life is short . For adults , Enjoy as many experiences and opportunities while you can . Watching Susan with her lover is a turn on and Susan loves sex with black men . Terrific to see her enjoy all those orgasms

 

[WillandSusn]

I am still very masculine, and you would never suspect I am a cuck if you saw me in public.
My cock is 4 inches hard, and my wife deserves more.
That is how I can do it.

Good answer

 

[tomtomjim]

Depends on the man and the woman often he has no choice, he either does what she wants or suffers