How not to feel emasculated by this fetish as a white guy?

[HappyGiver]

As a white guy who really likes interracial porn, especially bmwf, its hard not to feel like a bit of a loser. Doubly so when you're small like me at only 4.4 inches hard, with balls that aren't all that big either.
Whenever I watch porn, whether its amateur hotwife/cuckold couples or something like BLACKED, I can't help but feel I'll never stack up to this, and that as a man I'm always going to fall short of even the more humble desires of a woman. Of course, a part of me finds this really hot. The inferiority does make me feel ashamed, but also it is a bit of a turn on.
It just feels really difficult to work with. I feel bad for this fetish because I can't enjoy it without feeling a mixture of shame and embarrassment. It doesn't feel right that I like this, yet whenever a woman talks about how a white cock like mine couldn't satisfy her, or fucks a black man because her white partner wasn't making her happy, I get really aroused.

How do other white guys balance this feeling of shame and humiliation with the fact they enjoy it in the moment?

 

[realkyhotwife]

There's a lot to unpack here...First, take control of your thoughts. This fetish, should it translate into real life experiences, will not lead to you being perpetually undervalued and disrespected in an interpersonal relationship. Everyone has insecurities and shortfalls, it seems like you can easily identify one of yours. Lean into those feelings when you're in the discovery part of your next relationship. Be vulnerable and express all those feelings with a woman you think you'd like to share this (and more) with. Turn your feelings of shame and embarrassment into a springboard for growth, exploration, and ultimately a mutual and committed relationship. Your insecurity is holding you back, and taking control will help you be in a place to lead a woman to this lifestyle from a place of support and security. You may never have an Alpha dick but you can have Alpha energy.

 

[chrisritika]

Lifestyle isn’t who you are specifically. We do the cuckolding thing , and we leave it where it is , we do some talk about it at times when we aren’t in the middle of it usually for planning or pillow talk purposes. We also do a few things so that it doesn’t have our worlds colliding.. for example we never use our primary home. Everyone has a sexual kink and it doesn’t make you less because of it

 

[the_good_cuck]

I don't think you can, emasculation is implicit.

Is it that bad to like it, though? Why fight?

 

[ibo]

As a white guy who really likes interracial porn, especially bmwf, its hard not to feel like a bit of a loser. Doubly so when you're small like me at only 4.4 inches hard, with balls that aren't all that big either.
Whenever I watch porn, whether its amateur hotwife/cuckold couples or something like BLACKED, I can't help but feel I'll never stack up to this, and that as a man I'm always going to fall short of even the more humble desires of a woman. Of course, a part of me finds this really hot. The inferiority does make me feel ashamed, but also it is a bit of a turn on.
It just feels really difficult to work with. I feel bad for this fetish because I can't enjoy it without feeling a mixture of shame and embarrassment. It doesn't feel right that I like this, yet whenever a woman talks about how a white cock like mine couldn't satisfy her, or fucks a black man because her white partner wasn't making her happy, I get really aroused.

How do other white guys balance this feeling of shame and humiliation with the fact they enjoy it in the moment?

I’m an averaged sized white guy and that’s part of the turn on for me is letting my gf have sex with someone with a much bigger dick. I still get her to orgasm even with my dick and in many other ways. But offering/allowing her someone much bigger is part of the fantasy. I don’t feel like any less of a man. Don’t be hard on yourself (pun intended ayyy). A lot of the orgasm for women comes from clitoral stimulation or stimulating the G spot. And I even have some white female friends who I’ve been dead open about my fantasy with and they still said some bbc couldn’t get them off regardless of size.

Hope some of this perspective helps ya out

 

[Maleslave]

As a white guy who really likes interracial porn, especially bmwf, its hard not to feel like a bit of a loser. Doubly so when you're small like me at only 4.4 inches hard, with balls that aren't all that big either.
Whenever I watch porn, whether its amateur hotwife/cuckold couples or something like BLACKED, I can't help but feel I'll never stack up to this, and that as a man I'm always going to fall short of even the more humble desires of a woman. Of course, a part of me finds this really hot. The inferiority does make me feel ashamed, but also it is a bit of a turn on.
It just feels really difficult to work with. I feel bad for this fetish because I can't enjoy it without feeling a mixture of shame and embarrassment. It doesn't feel right that I like this, yet whenever a woman talks about how a white cock like mine couldn't satisfy her, or fucks a black man because her white partner wasn't making her happy, I get really aroused.

How do other white guys balance this feeling of shame and humiliation with the fact they enjoy it in the moment?

I know what you mean and feel. I'm also a submissive husband getting arroused by humiliation and Cuckold .The hardest part was telling my feelings to my wife a few years ago. It took time but whe both growed in our role in our sexlife. Now my wife is my Dominant I'm her submissive sex slave and whe both love it. She only fuck her big dildo and it's no secret my average dick just doesn't satissfy her anymore. When whe have sex whe only talk about cuckold and threesome. It turns my wife just as much on she love thinking about fucking with other man. She also tell me in my face while she's wanking me my dick is to litlle for her and she need another kind of man for sex these days. It feels so good and wrigh but on the other way sometimes I wonder what's wrong with me? Hungry to get cuckolded I talked my wife into it and even it didn't happen yet she's ready to go for it once the opportunity is there. I'm also affraid even it turns me on when it will happen I going to regret it. But I guess it's my nature and sexual orietation, I cant fight it.

 

[SeanS]

Never felt emasculated by this, just turned on.

 

[Cuckcowboy]

I'm sorry but it's part of it! No way in any way is cuckolding masculine or even neutral.
Honestly this needs to be understood immediately or you're just living in delusion.
No shame to it but it's inherently emasculating to watch your wife or girlfriend with another man and especially a well endowed BBC!

 

[Jacktone]

As a white guy who really likes interracial porn, especially bmwf, its hard not to feel like a bit of a loser. Doubly so when you're small like me at only 4.4 inches hard, with balls that aren't all that big either.
Whenever I watch porn, whether its amateur hotwife/cuckold couples or something like BLACKED, I can't help but feel I'll never stack up to this, and that as a man I'm always going to fall short of even the more humble desires of a woman. Of course, a part of me finds this really hot. The inferiority does make me feel ashamed, but also it is a bit of a turn on.
It just feels really difficult to work with. I feel bad for this fetish because I can't enjoy it without feeling a mixture of shame and embarrassment. It doesn't feel right that I like this, yet whenever a woman talks about how a white cock like mine couldn't satisfy her, or fucks a black man because her white partner wasn't making her happy, I get really aroused.

How do other white guys balance this feeling of shame and humiliation with the fact they enjoy it in the moment?

IIR, I love the dominance of the Black Man and our white humiliation as I watch them take and fuck white girls.
I have never felt shame, well never more than for 10 seconds what's the point? I enjoy it very much and just get on with my life afterwards

 

[Cuckcowboy]

IIR, I love the dominance of the Black Man and our white humiliation as I watch them take and fuck white girls.
I have never felt shame, well never more than for 10 seconds what's the point? I enjoy it very much and just get on with my life afterwards

I agree with you! I'm pussy free and was in chastity device for awhile also.
I completely support BNWO in every way!
Love seeing white women and Black men...it's completely natural!!!

 

[SeanS]

I agree with you! I'm pussy free and was in chastity device for awhile also.
I completely support BNWO in every way!
Love seeing white women and Black men...it's completely natural!!!

Hahaha...I just jo to this stuff and get on with my day. BNWO?

 

[ernest barnes]

I agree with you! I'm pussy free and was in chastity device for awhile also.
I completely support BNWO in every way!
Love seeing white women and Black men...it's completely natural!!!

As a cuckold husband who lives it for real life, not a virtual word, I can confirm whitefemales and Black Males are made for each other, without any doubt !!

 

[Report]

It's a huge part of the fetish for cuckold men. Most guys aren't into their wives banging a similar, smaller or "less masculine" man than they are. The fantasy is giving your wife the pleasure of experiencing a more fit, well-hung man with great stamina. I've always seen this as fantasy played out in the bedroom. Look at how the majority of cuckold men are into being submissive while playing in the lifestyle. Buying the Bull drinks, cleanup, getting towels, cock cages, etc. I don't think you need to feel shame over being a submissive, especially if it's just sexual play.

 

[tiny_tim]

 

[HappyGiver]

Definitely some insightful comments here. It's still hard to deal with, but its sometimes easier to accept than other days.

 

[rem503]

Ive embraced my being emasculated. I wear panties every day.

 

[jerred]

I (J) dont find it emasculating. Sometimes in the moment it's intense as her studs are having sex with her and kinda tease me but it's all about the sex. There's only been a handful of times where she was dogged-out in front of me by black guys who we could tell really didn't like white people and Brook paid the price on the receiving end of rough sex. Most of that was when she did porn but we have had some adventurous nights where we hooked up with let's just say "unsavory" people and Wifey was offered up in trade for... and these guys have treated her like a nasty slut right in front of me and I like it, so does she.
We also don't find it emasculating when I eat her pussy after sex. Ive lapped away at her pussy As she's getting fucked. In the moment I don't care if there's a huge black cock fucking her, I'm gonna get right down there and tongue her clit as she's getting fucked and hopefully he cums in her while I'm there so I can mouth worship her gapping pussy immediately after It's services a BBC.

 

[Jimmydong]

In reality you don’t ever have to feel emasculated. Your masculinity is solely determined by you in your own mind. Nobody else or any action can strip you of your masculinity that you determine. Everyone understands what happens in the bedroom can be just a part of your overall personality and apart from the rest of your life. I find it incredibly stimulating to act emasculated and submissive in a cuckold situation and listen to a woman tell me the other man is better than me and ******* me to even suck his cock. It gets me off very hard but later when I’m out somewhere I am still my rugged masculine self and if someone messes with me I’m going to punch them in the face if I have to and not think anything of it.

 

[cpllooking6671]

Don't buy any of that crap- I set her up on the fuck sessions, I am fine with myself and my equipment. I love getting her bigger as its for her pleasure and for how she reacts and gets sluttier over it. Just because there is a hige majority of people who like the humiliation etc (not here or the play sessions would never happen to begin with) there are many others that just do it for her/the fun of the couple. You be you and enjoy it without remorse/humiliation- unless thats your thing of course.

 

[biexplorer]

As a white guy who really likes interracial porn, especially bmwf, its hard not to feel like a bit of a loser. Doubly so when you're small like me at only 4.4 inches hard, with balls that aren't all that big either.
Whenever I watch porn, whether its amateur hotwife/cuckold couples or something like BLACKED, I can't help but feel I'll never stack up to this, and that as a man I'm always going to fall short of even the more humble desires of a woman. Of course, a part of me finds this really hot. The inferiority does make me feel ashamed, but also it is a bit of a turn on.
It just feels really difficult to work with. I feel bad for this fetish because I can't enjoy it without feeling a mixture of shame and embarrassment. It doesn't feel right that I like this, yet whenever a woman talks about how a white cock like mine couldn't satisfy her, or fucks a black man because her white partner wasn't making her happy, I get really aroused.

How do other white guys balance this feeling of shame and humiliation with the fact they enjoy it in the moment?

If it makes you feel bad afterwards, then don't watch it. Delete your porn related accounts etc etc. It's not easy to get rid of your fetishes though, these thoughts will always come back to you