How not to feel emasculated by this fetish as a white guy?

[WilllieX]

As a white guy who really likes interracial porn, especially bmwf, its hard not to feel like a bit of a loser. Doubly so when you're small like me at only 4.4 inches hard, with balls that aren't all that big either.
Whenever I watch porn, whether its amateur hotwife/cuckold couples or something like BLACKED, I can't help but feel I'll never stack up to this, and that as a man I'm always going to fall short of even the more humble desires of a woman. Of course, a part of me finds this really hot. The inferiority does make me feel ashamed, but also it is a bit of a turn on.
It just feels really difficult to work with. I feel bad for this fetish because I can't enjoy it without feeling a mixture of shame and embarrassment. It doesn't feel right that I like this, yet whenever a woman talks about how a white cock like mine couldn't satisfy her, or fucks a black man because her white partner wasn't making her happy, I get really aroused.

How do other white guys balance this feeling of shame and humiliation with the fact they enjoy it in the moment?

You're overthinking it from too high an altitude. You've made the mistake of letting your self-confidence and image get intertwined in that bad thinking.

Professional porn, unlike life, is engineered to present the biggest cock--black, white, Latino, etc. The next consideration is whether the cock can be trusted to show up on time and ready to perform. Amateur porn has a wider range of dick sizes. But, like professional porn, there is dick-engineering as well.

Do you feel guilty watching pro basketball because you're not a 6'11" first-round draft pick? Feel guilty watching pro football because you can't run the 40 in 4.3 seconds? My guess is that you don't. Take that mental frame and apply it to porn. Better yet, make your partner cum. A lot. Along the way you'll forget about your dick size.

 

[demalejpo]

As a white guy who really likes interracial porn, especially bmwf, its hard not to feel like a bit of a loser. Doubly so when you're small like me at only 4.4 inches hard, with balls that aren't all that big either.
Whenever I watch porn, whether its amateur hotwife/cuckold couples or something like BLACKED, I can't help but feel I'll never stack up to this, and that as a man I'm always going to fall short of even the more humble desires of a woman. Of course, a part of me finds this really hot. The inferiority does make me feel ashamed, but also it is a bit of a turn on.
It just feels really difficult to work with. I feel bad for this fetish because I can't enjoy it without feeling a mixture of shame and embarrassment. It doesn't feel right that I like this, yet whenever a woman talks about how a white cock like mine couldn't satisfy her, or fucks a black man because her white partner wasn't making her happy, I get really aroused.

How do other white guys balance this feeling of shame and humiliation with the fact they enjoy it in the moment?

For me the thrill comes from the shame and humiliation. I actually enjoy being called Cucky by my wife and the couples we know and being told to pull down my pants and show them my teensy peepee.

 

[demalejpo]

You make a good point, for me the emasculation is a massive turn on, my cock is 4" on a good day, I have known since I was a kid I wasn't gonna satisfy a woman, its literally why I was a virgin till 23, I was ashamed, but as the years go on and I had to learn how to satisfy a woman sexually in other ways then penetrative sex. But it still bothers me, I still feel ashamed when taking my cock out in front of a girl for the first time.

My best friend is white and has a 10" cock, so he will never understand our thoughts about cuckolding, black superiority and humiliation, I feel empowered we have this now, the embarrassment and shame of not being man enough to pleasure our partners has become a thrill, we understand and come to terms with it now, and know not to fight it, that our partners should be able to fuck who they want and get owned by real men while we sit and watch. Submitting to your ego and taking the humiliation from seeing your wife with other men is beautiful, we submit to being pathetic and its hot

Well said, fellow cuck. Once that we have accepted our obvious shortcomings and meekly surrender our women to superior males we can revel in our role as beta boys.

 

[LoveFsBlacked]

Seems all the replies are in two camps - either humiliation is a part of it, or it isn't. I am in the NOT camp. I just love girls getting their freak on. I don't feel humiliated. It is insane to focus on cock size as defining you as a person. BNWO is a ridiculous fantasy.

 

[Bigbear469]

I'm sorry but it's part of it! No way in any way is cuckolding masculine or even neutral.
Honestly this needs to be understood immediately or you're just living in delusion.
No shame to it but it's inherently emasculating to watch your wife or girlfriend with another man and especially a well endowed BBC!

That is part of the joy. Watching a much stronger dominate virile BBC make my wife submit to him sexually and the watch as he makes her cum on his cock before claiming her pussy with his seed deep in her womb! Sexually I am there to clean her up for him or to clean him up.

 

[SeanS]

Seems all the replies are in two camps - either humiliation is a part of it, or it isn't. I am in the NOT camp. I just love girls getting their freak on. I don't feel humiliated. It is insane to focus on cock size as defining you as a person. BNWO is a ridiculous fantasy.

Bravo!
Finally, a sane individual. Ridiculous is an understatement

 

[WilllieX]

Seems all the replies are in two camps - either humiliation is a part of it, or it isn't. I am in the NOT camp. I just love girls getting their freak on. I don't feel humiliated. It is insane to focus on cock size as defining you as a person. BNWO is a ridiculous fantasy.

BNWO is a dangerous fantasy. Creepy but sugary-sweet on the outside, designed to make unstable white men shoot people on the inside.

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

@WilllieX: Creepy and potentially dangerous seems like a good explanation, and i for one do NOT buy it! We're all but humans, and definitely i will not attack anybody over a sexual fantasy or whatever other ridiculous reason. And that would clearly be insane! But also i have to admit that i never felt nor feel sexually inferior or less of a man or whatever B$. I have had a lot of great sex in the past with a good number of gorgeous Ladies and was often complimented for my skills, plus i have a decent sized penis. Perhaps those a reasons that i do not even understand the whole bullshitty "BNWO" crap. BTW it NEVER ever gave me bad feelings to see a Woman with a Black man - quite the opposite.

When i am completely honest i have to admit that i'd rather watch a sexually free and empowered Woman having sex with a Black man than a non-black man, if that's what she desires. I can even imagine refusing an offer to have sex with a beautiful Lady, if there is an opportunity she could $leep with a Black man instead. It is what i am turned-on by, my true sexuality! - And i am not going to fight myself, much rather i enjoy what gives me so much pleasure almost on a daily basis, well, at least a few times per week, when i am watching porn or lay in my bed wanking over my top fantasies of ex girlfriends with Black men. It's all good bro.

 

[SeanS]

@WilllieX: Creepy and potentially dangerous seems like a good explanation, and i for one do NOT buy it! We're all but humans, and definitely i will not attack anybody over a sexual fantasy or whatever other ridiculous reason. And that would clearly be insane! But also i have to admit that i never felt nor feel sexually inferior or less of a man or whatever B$. I have had a lot of great sex in the past with a good number of gorgeous Ladies and was often complimented for my skills, plus i have a decent sized penis. Perhaps those a reasons that i do not even understand the whole bullshitty "BNWO" crap. BTW it NEVER ever gave me bad feelings to see a Woman with a Black man - quite the opposite.

When i am completely honest i have to admit that i'd rather watch a sexually free and empowered Woman having sex with a Black man than a non-black man, if that's what she desires. I can even imagine refusing an offer to have sex with a beautiful Lady, if there is an opportunity she could $leep with a Black man instead. It is what i am turned-on by, my true sexuality! - And i am not going to fight myself, much rather i enjoy what gives me so much pleasure almost on a daily basis, well, at least a few times per week, when i am watching porn or lay in my bed wanking over my top fantasies of ex girlfriends with Black men. It's all good bro.

Don't let alphabet city hear you say it's your true "sexuality" or you'll be asked your pronoun, how you identify and to create a flag.

 

[Jessielove]

Now pull up your panties and stop winning

 

[WilllieX]

Don't let alphabet city hear you say it's your true "sexuality" or you'll be asked your pronoun, how you identify and to create a flag.

Alphabet City doesn't care about who I'm banging. Nor anyone else.

You'd probably call me a resident of that town; based on my voting and history of activism.

The guys wearing khakis while carrying torches do care about who I'm banging.

THOSE are the guys I'm talking about.

I think Emmet Till met a few of their great-grandparents back in the day.

 

[SeanS]

Alphabet City doesn't care about who I'm banging. Nor anyone else.

You'd probably call me a resident of that town; based on my voting and history of activism.

The guys wearing khakis while carrying torches do care about who I'm banging.

THOSE are the guys I'm talking about.

I think Emmet Till met a few of their great-grandparents back in the day.

The tiki torch morons speak for themselves. I miss the good ol' days of G&L when the "B" was just a homo too afraid to admit they were gay. We had names, not pronouns, and it was and still is about biology and sexuality. TQ+ is about identity and expression of the personality. As a G/homo, I have absolutely nothing in common with TQ+ and I support 100% biological women and not activists who can't define what a woman is.

 

[mywayintermsofsex]

Well, sex, gender and sexuality are said to be three different things. And that's something i can understand, if there's a clear definition of.
i was talking about sexuality. my sex is male, and my gender - i don't care. You can call it/me "cis", if you like, (because i am not conflicting), or "a" because as i already said, i don't care. So what?

 

[Janieslut91]

I love the emasculation. Black men are sexy af. Then again i am a naturally submissive type. I cannot help what i am and what i like. I don't worry about it anymore. I just enjoy it. .

 

[Auszeit2020]

We approached step by step the intimacy with strangers and we talked a lot(!) after such a situation. The more we did it, the more we talked I saw the heat in my husbands eyes growing and that is/was my kick to went forward. "Devotion", "humilliation" and "emasculation" are parts of this horny game and we love it. But it is my part let my husband feel such horny emotions and talk dirty to him, while getting fucked like a whore by a stranger. In these special situations I have the total control over my husband (not the second guy) and this is necessary because I know the red lines and ways we will not cross.

 

[WilllieX]

The tiki torch morons speak for themselves. I miss the good ol' days of G&L when the "B" was just a homo too afraid to admit they were gay. We had names, not pronouns, and it was and still is about biology and sexuality. TQ+ is about identity and expression of the personality. As a G/homo, I have absolutely nothing in common with TQ+ and I support 100% biological women and not activists who can't define what a woman is.

The faux activists are everywhere. They look right and kind of sound right until you take a moment to really listen. Doesn't take long to figure out which ones are idiots.

I'm gregarious. I'm either friends with or am comfortable being around each of the letters.

 

[whiteboisteven]

The way not to feel emasculated by it is simply to ignore the haters. There is nothing wrong with liking interracial sex and enjoy jerking off to it. You have to learn to have confidence in yourself and not become a victim of peer pressure and ridicule. Guys who try to sell you only one way of being "a man" are full of it and probably have their own stuff they don't tell you about.

Like most guys who call themselves "masculine" are really fragile wimps who will break down emotionally from any sort of rejection. Go to any 'red-pill" community and it's just a bunch of whiners who want to stone to death women for having onlyfans pages.

 

[usack]

Learn to embrace it.

 

[JaxCougar]

Its a sexual fetish and doesn’t define you as an individual. I enjoy taking the submissive role in the bedroom but outside the bedroom I am more successful financially than any of my wife's lovers plus I am not physically threatened by them either.

 

[subbeing]

How do other white guys balance this feeling of shame and humiliation with the fact they enjoy it in the moment?

In my case, the feeling of shame and humiliation is permanent. In my case, i can't talk about "balance". i know i'm literally a loser, in the sense that i lost all possibility of making love with my Wife or any other Woman. It was hard to accept this fact. i feel emasculated because i have been emasculated. my Wife doesn't considered me a man anymore, because i'm not. But in the other hand i still close to Her, i live in the same house and i'm Her slave and Her Master's slave. i don't use the word "enjoy" to describe my feeling in the hardest moments, because i don't "enjoy" to be emasculated, but i do feel "plenitude", because in those moments i can't pretend to be what i'm not. And that is very liberating