How many true cucks are there? And are you one of them?

[WhiteCuckLoser]

Perhaps. I mean, for sure, the vast majority of cuckold media and porn out there is from the male point of view, and not realistic from the standpoint of the women. But my wife definitely tells others (bulls and fellow Dommes/cuckoldresses alike) what I will do for them. Finding someone to fuck her takes next to zero effort. Finding those who like to engage with both of us takes a lot of initial groundwork to make sure everyone is on the same page about what exactly the husband will be doing there. This is especially true where there is any question about whether the couple is into harder cuckoldry vs. more of a stag/vixen dynamic, whether a wife plays by herself or only if hubby is present, etc.

I used to think "pussy free" was a term used exclusively by men fantasizing about being denied. Then last fall we met a woman at Splash who proudly told us, "my cuck's been 100% pussy free for 2 years, and my ultimate goal is impotence." That's a pretty cuck-centric way to describe a dynamic that would have sounded like sheer make fantasy to me.

All that said, when a "couple" refuses to get verified, I always have my doubts. And even the legit couple accounts are often run primarily by hubby at the discretion of the wife. If someone messages is, there's better than 90% odds I'll be the one they deal with initially, even though she reads our interactions, has me introduce her to some of the people I interact with, approves all the media we share, etc. So whether this is a real couple or not, it wasn't signed by the female half and totally could be a couple's inquiry from the male's perspective.

I share your skepticism, just saying I'm not sure it really matters which one of them wrote the question if they're legit, and if they're not, well, welcome to blacktowhite.

Nothing you said is incorrect. But the post was not written by a woman. A woman may have her cuck provide certain services. But she is not getting a hard on writing about it and putting up a survey. This is a male fantasy. A woman defines a cuck in terms of her relationship with him. She is not making posts about a cuck sucking her bull's cock.

 

[WhiteCuckLoser]

Perhaps. I mean, for sure, the vast majority of cuckold media and porn out there is from the male point of view, and not realistic from the standpoint of the women. But my wife definitely tells others (bulls and fellow Dommes/cuckoldresses alike) what I will do for them. Finding someone to fuck her takes next to zero effort. Finding those who like to engage with both of us takes a lot of initial groundwork to make sure everyone is on the same page about what exactly the husband will be doing there. This is especially true where there is any question about whether the couple is into harder cuckoldry vs. more of a stag/vixen dynamic, whether a wife plays by herself or only if hubby is present, etc.

I used to think "pussy free" was a term used exclusively by men fantasizing about being denied. Then last fall we met a woman at Splash who proudly told us, "my cuck's been 100% pussy free for 2 years, and my ultimate goal is impotence." That's a pretty cuck-centric way to describe a dynamic that would have sounded like sheer make fantasy to me.

All that said, when a "couple" refuses to get verified, I always have my doubts. And even the legit couple accounts are often run primarily by hubby at the discretion of the wife. If someone messages is, there's better than 90% odds I'll be the one they deal with initially, even though she reads our interactions, has me introduce her to some of the people I interact with, approves all the media we share, etc. So whether this is a real couple or not, it wasn't signed by the female half and totally could be a couple's inquiry from the male's perspective.

I share your skepticism, just saying I'm not sure it really matters which one of them wrote the question if they're legit, and if they're not, well, welcome to blacktowhite.

I'll add that I agree about couple accounts. I see the same on FetLife. I never communicate with couples profiles. The use of the royal "we" is bullshit. I don't mind them sharing the communications with each other. But I want to hear what each says independently. We won't have that here because a white male can't get verified alone. So he has to pretend to be a woman or a couple. Verification doesn't mean much. I have lots of friends who would be willing to pose for a verification pic. Or it would be easy to hire a black guy or a woman for 20 bucks to do the 5 minutes of work.

 

[hotwifejasmine]

To those who have made negative comments above.

All I can tell you is that we have been in this lifestyle for over 30 years, and we are hard into the cuckolding lifestyle.

Having said that my hubby, Pops, can also switch to the role of a bull at times, which is not uncommon, but is also not common either, some struggle with that. I have often said on this site and others, that variation is the spice of our life. We enjoy getting high on sex and all the variations around the cuckolding/sharing/hotwife lifestyle. We realize that we have a broad interpretation of what we are and what we like, but hey that is who we are. We've met a lot of wannabes and timewasters in this lifestyle, and often marvel at those who think they can judge and sentence genuine folks on websites like this, just from the few lines of text in a thread. We have also met some great folks too, some of who are long time friends and play partners.

We are super confident in who we are, and do not feel the need to follow what we see as a pointless "verification" process which involves holding up a scrap of paper, that somehow proves who we are and that we are 'genuine'! After 30+ years, we know who we are, and those who we choose to play with know who we are, end of story!

If you 'weekend psychologists' wish to continue your deeply flawed analysis, then please, go ahead. However, in the process you are quite obviously going to miss some very genuine folks out there, the likes of which you do not even value or know exists, as they do not conform to your "vision" of how they should present, write or sound on a website such as this.

I do not normally respond to naysayers like this, but you are clearly wrong and need some redirection from where we sit. If you choose not to believe this then that is fine, too, just move on with your own life, and leave us to ours.

For your education, we both wrote this and wordsmithed it, as we play as a couple and wanted to make our point as a couple.

Happy 2022

HWJ and Pops

 

[JemmaNye&Herbi]

This is a male fantasy. A woman defines a cuck in terms of her relationship with him. She is not making posts about a cuck sucking her bull's cock.

I can't speak for others, but for us, you would be incorrect. On sites that are more about actual dating/personals and making real life connections, rather than web forums like this site, she helps write our profile and content. But the vast majority of her interaction winds up taking place in chat apps and during in-person meetups. I can tell you that she has absolutely been active in finding out whether her bulls had interest in dominating me. My only forays into bisexuality have been because she wanted them to happen. To put it bluntly, making her cuck suck her bull's cock was very much a fantasy of hers. I don't think it is a fantasy that can be considered "male" or "female," it's just something that appeals to some folks and not others. It's very true that these topics are by far presented from a male perspective rather than a female one, and my wife and I actively seek out female content creators who live this lifestyle and present the female perspective for exactly this reason, but you can't automatically assume that every couple is full of ******* or that every activity being discussed was automatically the brainchild of the man or woman. My wife and I do this together, and if she wasn't as into it as I am, we would be doing whatever works better for both of us.

I'll add that I agree about couple accounts. I see the same on FetLife. I never communicate with couples profiles. The use of the royal "we" is bullshit. I don't mind them sharing the communications with each other. But I want to hear what each says independently.

To put it simply, my wife dislikes internet forums. We are not misrepresenting that. I am here representing both of us, not only with her knowledge but because she WANTS me to be. She reads much (but not all) of the conversations I contribute to. We talk about our sex life together pretty much constantly, and she likes that I, the extrovert in our relationship, take the time to interact and find others we both eventually get to know. This way, she, the introvert, isn't burdened by pedantic conversations like this, but enjoys the benefits of having people she would like to meet brought to her attention by her submissive cuck. So it has become part of my role. If you want to simplify it to kink and role play, she often tells me things like, "it's your job as my cuck to find me a steady supply of men who satisfy my needs and people we will have fun hanging out with. Be a good cucky!"

So much like @hotwifejasmine write above, it's up to you whether to believe how accurately I represent both my wife and I. Unlike them, my wife seldom helps me craft what you see here, so I admit, you'll have to decide for yourself how to interpret my use of "the royal we," but as you can see in the media and albums we have shared, the stuff I am describing is stuff we're obviously both involved in. Take it or leave it, we're going to keep doing it as long as we both enjoy it.

 

[WhiteCuckLoser]

To those who have made negative comments above.

All I can tell you is that we have been in this lifestyle for over 30 years, and we are hard into the cuckolding lifestyle.

Having said that my hubby, Pops, can also switch to the role of a bull at times, which is not uncommon, but is also not common either, some struggle with that. I have often said on this site and others, that variation is the spice of our life. We enjoy getting high on sex and all the variations around the cuckolding/sharing/hotwife lifestyle. We realize that we have a broad interpretation of what we are and what we like, but hey that is who we are. We've met a lot of wannabes and timewasters in this lifestyle, and often marvel at those who think they can judge and sentence genuine folks on websites like this, just from the few lines of text in a thread. We have also met some great folks too, some of who are long time friends and play partners.

We are super confident in who we are, and do not feel the need to follow what we see as a pointless "verification" process which involves holding up a scrap of paper, that somehow proves who we are and that we are 'genuine'! After 30+ years, we know who we are, and those who we choose to play with know who we are, end of story!

If you 'weekend psychologists' wish to continue your deeply flawed analysis, then please, go ahead. However, in the process you are quite obviously going to miss some very genuine folks out there, the likes of which you do not even value or know exists, as they do not conform to your "vision" of how they should present, write or sound on a website such as this.

I do not normally respond to naysayers like this, but you are clearly wrong and need some redirection from where we sit. If you choose not to believe this then that is fine, too, just move on with your own life, and leave us to ours.

For your education, we both wrote this and wordsmithed it, as we play as a couple and wanted to make our point as a couple.

Happy 2022

HWJ and Pops

I can't speak for others, but for us, you would be incorrect. On sites that are more about actual dating/personals and making real life connections, rather than web forums like this site, she helps write our profile and content. But the vast majority of her interaction winds up taking place in chat apps and during in-person meetups. I can tell you that she has absolutely been active in finding out whether her bulls had interest in dominating me. My only forays into bisexuality have been because she wanted them to happen. To put it bluntly, making her cuck suck her bull's cock was very much a fantasy of hers. I don't think it is a fantasy that can be considered "male" or "female," it's just something that appeals to some folks and not others. It's very true that these topics are by far presented from a male perspective rather than a female one, and my wife and I actively seek out female content creators who live this lifestyle and present the female perspective for exactly this reason, but you can't automatically assume that every couple is full of ******* or that every activity being discussed was automatically the brainchild of the man or woman. My wife and I do this together, and if she wasn't as into it as I am, we would be doing whatever works better for both of us.


To put it simply, my wife dislikes internet forums. We are not misrepresenting that. I am here with her knowledge, and she reads much (but far from all) of the conversations I contribute to. We talk about our sex life together pretty much constantly, and she likes that I, the extrovert in our relationship, take the time to interact and find others we both eventually get to know. So it has become part of my role. If you want to simplify it to kink and role play, she often tells me things like, "it's your job as my cuck to find me a steady supply of men who satisfy my needs and people we will have fun hanging out with. Be a good cucky!"

So much like @hotwifejasmine write above, it's up to you whether to believe how accurately I represent both my wife and I. Unlike them, my wife seldom helps me craft what you see here, so I admit, you'll have to decide for yourself how to interpret my use of "the royal we," but as you can see in the media and albums we have shared, the stuff I am describing is stuff we're obviously both involved in. Take it or leave it, we're going to keep doing it as long as we both enjoy it.

Lol, the royal "we" and "us". Guy, it was written by man just like your message is.

 

[JemmaNye&Herbi]

Lol, the royal "we" and "us". Guy, it was written by man just like your message is.

So what? You may be right, if you're definitely choosing not to believe that they both wrote the above response together. In which case, as they said, that's completely your call. You can believe that EVERY post here was automatically written by a man, and statistically you'd probably be right most of the time. But what's your point?

If you're just trying to guess the gender of a poster, maybe you're right. But if the point you're trying to make is that "this is a male fantasy," or that "women don't fantasize about these things," I, the admittedly male half of a cuckold couple, am simply telling you that that's not a universal truth. My very female wife does indeed have an interest in many of the kinds of topics discussed here, and has explored many of what you're suggesting are exclusively male fantasies, together with me as a couple. Believe it or not, some couples really are in tune with each other and function as a unit. You may also be surprised to learn that whether you believe what I say about my wife and I doesn't really affect either one of us in the slightest. We're both present in most of our pictures, and don't even document the majority of our experiences together, so believe what you want to about "us."

It doesn't take Sherlock Holmes to determine a male is posting this response to you. It also doesn't interest my wife to convince you that I'm accurately representing her position. But here's one example of a conversation including my wife, in which she writes exactly the kind of thing you seem to be claiming women don't write:

 

[WhiteCuckLoser]

So what? You may be right, if you're definitely choosing not to believe that they both wrote the above response together. In which case, as they said, that's completely your call. You can believe that EVERY post here was automatically written by a man, and statistically you'd probably be right most of the time. But what's your point?

If you're just trying to guess the gender of a poster, maybe you're right. But if the point you're trying to make is that "this is a male fantasy," or that "women don't fantasize about these things," I, the admittedly male half of a cuckold couple, am simply telling you that that's not a universal truth. My very female wife does indeed have an interest in many of these and other kinds of topics discussed here, and has had and explored many of what you're suggesting are exclusively male fantasies, together with me as a couple. Believe it or not, some couples really are in tune with each other and function as a unit. You may also be surprised to learn that whether you believe what I say about my wife and I doesn't really affect either one of us in the slightest. We're both present in most of our pictures, and don't even document the majority of our experiences together, so believe what you want to about "us."

It doesn't take Sherlock Holmes to determine a male is posting this. It also doesn't interest my wife to convince you that I'm accurately representing her position. Here's one example of a conversation including my wife, in which she writes exactly the kind of thing you seem to be claiming women don't write:
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So what? Amusing is all. It is always amusing when a guy, instead of simply identifying himself as the speaker, uses the terms we and us throughout, when it is completely obvious that it is all him. Writing it together simply means that he said nothing that she would become violently upset over or strongly disagree with. She will let her little hubby have his fun jerking off while he writes about his fantasies online, using the term "we".
If it is something mostly focusing on the men, their cocks, one man licking the other, etc, it is not a woman writing, duh.
A woman is more likely to see it as two men worshiping and pleasing her. A man is more likely to see it as a white couple worshiping a black man.

 

[JemmaNye&Herbi]

So what? Amusing is all. It is always amusing when a guy, instead of simply identifying himself as the speaker, uses the terms we and us throughout, when it is completely obvious that it is all him. Writing it together simply means that he said nothing that she would become violently upset over or strongly disagree with. She will let her little hubby have his fun jerking off while he writes about his fantasies online, using the term "we".
If it is something mostly focusing on the men, their cocks, one man licking the other, etc, it is not a woman writing, duh.
A woman is more likely to see it as two men worshiping and pleasing her. A man is more likely to see it as a white couple worshiping a black man.

Again though, that's not always the case. I don't have screenshots of it like the conversation I just shared, but my wife has absolutely discussed "making her cuck suck her bull's dick."

In fact, while I've definitely blogged about and otherwise documented some of our experiences, my contact with other men's cocks is one facet of this lifestyle I've never been the one to seek. My wife, on the other hand, has definitely sought that kind of play on multiple occasions. It's simply not true that women never ever fantasize or even write about things they want to see their male partners do.

Another dominant lady we sometimes play with watches almost exclusively gay and bi porn and one of her biggest thrills is consensually pushing a sub's boundaries and exploring bi play with submissive males. Believe me, she is not shy about writing about the things she likes seeing men do together, and her posts are mostly not about being worshipped by multiple men. She loves masculine men enjoying contact with each other. She doesn't even have a male she's attached to, so there's no man whose fantasies she could be describing, yet she frequently talks about how much she loves watching men enjoying each other's cocks. Even though she's usually dominant, she's also very turned on by men who are secure enough to explore MMF play that doesn't involve D/s at all. She's very much a giver, and that "male fantasy" you claim women don't think about is far more interesting to her than being worshipped.

 

[WhiteCuckLoser]

Again though, that's not always the case. I don't have screenshots of it like the conversation I just shared, but my wife has absolutely discussed "making her cuck suck her bull's dick."

In fact, while I've definitely blogged about and otherwise documented some of our experiences, my contact with other men's cocks is one facet of this lifestyle I've never been the one to seek. My wife, on the other hand, has definitely sought that kind of play on multiple occasions. It's simply not true that women never ever fantasize or even write about things they want to see their male partners do.

Another dominant lady we sometimes play with watches almost exclusively gay and bi porn and one of her biggest thrills is consensually pushing a sub's boundaries and exploring bi play with submissive males. Believe me, she is not shy about writing about the things she likes seeing men do together, and her posts are mostly not about being worshipped by multiple men. Even though she's dominant, she's very much a giver, and that "male fantasy" is far more interesting to her than being worshipped.

Finally you say "my wife". Thank you. Now is that so hard? We knew it was you writing. Just cut the "we" crap.
Yes, a wife may insert such a comment. But she will not make a totally male centric post.

 

[JemmaNye&Herbi]

Finally you say "my wife". Thank you. Now is that so hard? We knew it was you writing. Just cut the "we" crap.
Yes, a wife may insert such a comment. But she will not make a totally male centric post.

What do you mean "finally?" I use "I" when talking about what I think or feel about things, and "we" when describing things we have done or would like to do together. When you've spent 21 years with someone, you do become qualified to speak about your partner's desires and the desires you both share. For the latter, "we" is the appropriate word. But suggesting I've been reluctant to say "I" or "my wife" as though I'm pretending not to be the male half writing our posts simply shows you're not actually paying attention. Probably 9/10 of MY posts feature the words "my wife." I bet there are people on here who might say "finally" if I ever posted something that DIDN'T talk about my wife.

All I'm saying is, women do sometimes write about making submissive men do things or watching men do things together. Yes, it's frequently men writing stuff like that, but that isn't a universal truth. And on a case-by-case basis, it largely doesn't matter and isn't worth pointing out. Even if it's the dude writing a post for a couple, that doesn't mean his wife isn't also into it.

 

[Wldrde69]

Just wondering how many full on cucks are really out there? I have categorized the genre into the following. Please let us know what category to fall into and tell us about your favorite cuck nights that you have had in the past.

Category 1. Full cuck activity, such as fluffing, cleaning bull and wife, arranging and finding bulls, and is always fully dressed as fem, fully shaved, with all accessories including cage/device.
Category 2. Cleans up pies and bulls, but does not dress or appear fem at all.
Category 3. Is not involved physically, but enjoys watching and jacking off while doing so.
Category 4. Is just a wannabe and hopes against hopes that one day this lifestyle will cum your way!

Looking forward to hearing all your stories.

HWJ and Pops

2 with cage

 

[Videoxxxman]

Been a 2 now a 4

 

[JemmaNye&Herbi]

Yes, a wife may insert such a comment. But she will not make a totally male centric post.

I'm not refuting the fact that more men write about this stuff than women, and I'm not trying to say it wouldn't be nice to get a lot more of the women's perspective on cuckoldry. I think it would be a huge benefit, and I follow almost every female blogger or podcaster I can find in this lifestyle, for exactly that reason. The female POV is grossly underrepresented, to the great detriment of the general acceptance and understanding of this lifestyle.

The only point to which I take umbrage is this:

It talks about the Cuck and what the cuck will do for the bull. That is not the way women think. A woman would be talking about what the cuck's role would be in regards to her.

For my wife and many other women, "what the cuck will do for the bull" is a big part of what they get out of this experience. Some might be catering to their cuckolds' desires, others might simply be turned on by bi play. Some might like the power inversion, and challenging or even disrupting concepts like white male privilege, patriarchy and toxic masculinity, by "making" their cucks submit to their bulls. Whatever their motivator(s), it is not a universal truth that it's "not the way women think." Sometimes, it's exactly the way my wife and others think.

 

[hungsolo4mwf]

I'm a solid 2 leaning to a 1.

She's sexy

 

[hotwifejasmine]

I'm not refuting the fact that more men write about this stuff than women, and I'm not trying to say it wouldn't be nice to get a lot more of the women's perspective on cuckoldry. I think it would be a huge benefit, and I follow almost every female blogger or podcaster I can find in this lifestyle, for exactly that reason. The female POV is grossly underrepresented, to the great detriment of the general acceptance and understanding of this lifestyle.

The only point to which I take umbrage is this:

For my wife and many other women, "what the cuck will do for the bull" is a big part of what they get out of this experience. Some might be catering to their cuckolds' desires, others might simply be turned on by bi play. Some might like the power inversion, and challenging or even disrupting concepts like white male privilege, patriarchy and toxic masculinity, by "making" their cucks submit to their bulls. Whatever their motivator(s), it is not a universal truth that it's "not the way women think." Sometimes, it's exactly the way my wife and others think.

"WE" really appreciate you in our corner so to speak, and thank you for all your supportive comments above.

However, over the years "we" have learned not to play to the peanut gallery. I would much rather focus on those who appreciate this or "our" lifestyle, and appreciate hearing of our adventures and encounters, although with the current pandemic activity is very limited. People judge others by their own experiences and find it difficult to understand anyone who is different to themselves. They then become a kind of troll that hurls rocks and tries to undermine genuine folks, driven primarily by their huge insecurities and inadequacies.

It sounds like you and your wife have a similar approach to life as Pops and I. Where "we" do everything together and get great enjoyment from it. It is very much out of the norm to encounter such negativity, but alas, I fear you/"we" would be wasting our time and breath trying to convince trolls that they are wrong. Facts/data/evidence will not convince them, they live in ignorance and would rather believe a lie (rather like in todays politics). "We" just have to be happy, along with the vast majority of folks who come here for fun, that such individuals do not reign supreme on this site. Again many thanks for your supportive comments, it is greatly appreciated by "us" both.

HWJ

 

[bhappy_39]

3 but will participate a little. Mostly watch and assist and jo.

 

[JemmaNye&Herbi]

"WE" really appreciate you in our corner so to speak, and thank you for all your supportive comments above.

However, over the years "we" have learned not to play to the peanut gallery. I would much rather focus on those who appreciate this or "our" lifestyle, and appreciate hearing of our adventures and encounters, although with the current pandemic activity is very limited. People judge others by their own experiences and find it difficult to understand anyone who is different to themselves. They then become a kind of troll that hurls rocks and tries to undermine genuine folks, driven primarily by their huge insecurities and inadequacies.

It sounds like you and your wife have a similar approach to life as Pops and I. Where "we" do everything together and get great enjoyment from it. It is very much out of the norm to encounter such negativity, but alas, I fear you/"we" would be wasting our time and breath trying to convince trolls that they are wrong. Facts/data/evidence will not convince them, they live in ignorance and would rather believe a lie (rather like in todays politics). "We" just have to be happy, along with the vast majority of folks who come here for fun, that such individuals do not reign supreme on this site. Again many thanks for your supportive comments, it is greatly appreciated by "us" both.

HWJ

Thank you! You're very kind, but I sure you, no thanks are needed. As I mentioned earlier in the thread, my wife and I don't see eventual, complete feminization as a goal or "higher level" of "true cuckold" than what we currently do. We feel we're all in with our without that goal. But we identify with much more of what you've written than what we don't, and we recognize that everyone's into different things. If there's to be room for OUR proclivities and interests, and OUR sexual growth as couple, there has to also be room for YOURS (and everyone else's). I always speak my mind when it comes to such things, I'm not just white-knighting, so to speak.

Also, I agree with you that it's not always worth feeding trolls, and recognize that I am far too easily lured into lengthy, fruitless debates with people who stubbornly cling to their own experience as the sole source of absolute truth. That said, I'm not yet convinced that @WhiteCuckLoser is just intentionally trolling (and really, is it even trolling if it's unintentional?). I think it's like you said, people in general tend to "find it difficult to understand anyone who is different to themselves.“ I'm not arguing with the intention of winning an argument. I'm offering my own viewpoint, and sharing the experiences my wife and I have shared.

What my wife and I get out of sites like this isn't so much the erotica. There's better sources for that than here. And this isn't a particularly great place to meet people, unfortunately. Without crappy workarounds like threads where locations can be shared, you can't even search for people in your own geographic area. And the media you share is added to a giant community area subject to discriminatory rules, rather than limiting it to your own profile, where we feel you should be able to post pictures of your male half, for example. But what this site IS good for is being an open forum to talk about a lifestyle that is often misunderstood. Nearly everyone who's outside of this lifestyle makes assumptions we feel are worth trying to dispel. There's also a ton of dialog involving people who consider themselves part of the lifestyle but come with closed minds, and my wife and I both feel very strongly that the lifestyle should be safe and inclusive, and foster personal growth. As Patton Oswalt recently wrote, we support "ANYONE’S rights — to live safely in the world as their fullest selves."

So it's possible I wind up arguing with some trolls here and there, but for the most part I try to give people the benefit of the doubt. People may be tired enough of reading extreme, unrealistic fantasy from wannabes with overactive imaginations, and automatically start assuming most of what they see falls into that category. They might also be so committed to the ideas of femdom and female led relationships that what they would like to see is more female-centric content. Both my wife and I identify with both of those mindsets. We recognize that we've had our own tendency to slip up at times, and think that our perspective is the "right way" to look at things. Often those things are subjective.

I appreciate those who share their actual experiences, the sensations and feelings they've had along their journeys, the positive and negative effects their decisions have had on their own relationships, the rewards and hardships they've experienced, etc. And I'm confident I can speak for both my wife and I when I say WE value those who accurately represent themselves and what they're into, so that everyone can grow and gain greater understanding of each other. That's why I don't hide the fact that our play has included some bi male activity, for example. It's not a requirement, nor something that happens often. It's not even something we make a primary goal of our play, and could easily remain something we keep to ourselves, if meeting people for my wife to fuck was all we wanted to do. l definitely recognize that there are many who will make the assumption that I will make an unwanted advance toward a strictly straight man or something, and blackball us simply because I have admitted trying something they can't help judging. But we've chosen to be transparent because we think everyone in the lifestyle benefits from a sense of community and acceptance, and a greater understanding of other people. My wife and I have discussed the things we won't share for privacy reasons, and apart from those things, she encourages me to be upfront and honest (and perhaps a little bit self-servingly exhibitionistic) about what I share online.

Sheesh, that's a lot more than I was planning to write.

TL;DR:
My wife and I value the truth, and we appreciate others who expand our thinking by honestly presenting their perspectives. I do try to maintain a critical eye for bullshit, so it can be called out and made less prevalent in communities like this one, but I try not to jump to conclusions too quickly. We appreciate those who show us understanding and give us the benefit of the doubt sometimes, so I try to do the same when I encounter an unverified account or a potentially well-meaning debater whose stance is based on an assumption I think is incorrect. Honest input and perspective from the male half of a cuckold couple is all I'm trying to offer, and a good time for everyone is all I wish.

 

[JemmaNye&Herbi]

One more thought, for you to take with a grain of salt, re:

We are super confident in who we are, and do not feel the need to follow what we see as a pointless "verification" process which involves holding up a scrap of paper, that somehow proves who we are and that we are 'genuine'! After 30+ years, we know who we are, and those who we choose to play with know who we are, end of story!

You are right, the verification process isn't perfect. It's not terribly hard to fake, at least for a while. And I totally understand mindsets like, "we don't need verification to know we're real, after X years being together. If you don't believe us, that's your problem, not ours."

The thing is, there really are a TON of accounts misrepresenting themselves here. The verification system, while flawed, is the only real way to even begin to mitigate the kind of thing you saw here, where people wind up arguing about whether someone is real. It's in my nature to give people the benefit of the doubt, especially when they contribute as much thoughtful detail as you do. If you're fake, you're damn committed to the deception! But I do think that not verifying is a strange hill for real couples to die on, and I have a hard time understanding the conviction of those who outright refuse. You can remain anonymous, it doesn't have to be sexy or show your face, you could even delete the media once you're verified, and it literally takes 30 seconds, which is astronomically less time and effort than it takes for a couple to sit down and write the kinds of posts you write together. It's not that it removes ALL doubt that you are who you say you are. But it definitely shows good faith amongst people who value authenticity.

It's also not just for everyone else's benefit. There's a good size chunk of the site that you can't access without being verified, so for your small effort, you will gain access to many more conversations with people who are that much more likely to be real, active participants in the lifestyle. And given the number of people here who literally say things like, "until you're verified, you're a single white male posing as a couple," it's impossible for me to think you wouldn't benefit from getting verified yourselves. You may be right, it may be the case that those people are missing out on a genuine couple because they've decided not to trust unverified accounts. But many, many more people will be inclined to take you at your word than are willing to currently. Surely that alone would improve your experience on the site enough to make it worth while. It's one thing to say, "it didn't prove anything," or "we don't care about the 'verified members only' areas," but none of that changes the fact that you could scribble your name and the date on a piece of paper, record and submit an anonymous 3 second video of both of you holding that paper, much faster than you can write a post like the one I quoted here, attempting to explain why you've chosen not to get verified. It looks like you're avoiding the easy route and going out of your way to explain why you haven't bothered to take the easy route.

Again, just my 2 cents. You are obviously free to do as you wish, but I think you will find you're often dismissed and/or hassled about it, in most of the discussions you participate in, while potentially also missing out on a better experience here for the two of you. Up to you.

Have a good one!

 

[Canuckcuck69]

Just wondering how many full on cucks are really out there? I have categorized the genre into the following. Please let us know what category to fall into and tell us about your favorite cuck nights that you have had in the past.

Category 1. Full cuck activity, such as fluffing, cleaning bull and wife, arranging and finding bulls, and is always fully dressed as fem, fully shaved, with all accessories including cage/device.
Category 2. Cleans up pies and bulls, but does not dress or appear fem at all.
Category 3. Is not involved physically, but enjoys watching and jacking off while doing so.
Category 4. Is just a wannabe and hopes against hopes that one day this lifestyle will cum your way!

Looking forward to hearing all your stories.

HWJ and Pops

Category 3 but wanting to move to Category 2.

 

[robbiewillsuck]

I would prefer to be a cuckold than fuck her pussy.