How did you tell your wife you're cuckold?

francisgerhard

francisgerhard

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Can someone share their story about how did the whole cuckold thing started in their relationship? Im specifically interested in the cases when husband came with this idea and how the wife reacted when she heard about that for the first time. I have those fantasies for a couple of years ago and I'm a bit scared of my GF's reaction. I know (and she knows I know it) she has been cheating on me with a couple of guys but she was hiding it pretty well and didn't want me to know about it. I don't know if it was about the penis size or not but most probably not (they were not black). But still I'm wondering if she'd think I'm crazy I want her to fuck another guy and just watch it. It doesn't need to be a black guy (there are only a few in our country anyway) but I want to lead her into that idea. One time after sex we have been talking about fantasies and I briefly mentioned I fantasized about a threesome with her and other guy. She was not offended or something like it but it seemed like she was not super into it. But she was quite open. She asked who I picture it with. If it's someone we know or complete stranger etc. So I think it might go in a good way next time when we're going to have a chat about sex fantasies. Do anyone have similar experience? What would you recommend as next steps to talk about or try in real. I'd very appreciate some female opinions on this too. How would you react if your partner comes with an idea like this? I don't want to smash her with porn containing monster dicks and humiliated husbands. I think it would scare her for sure. Thanks for your opinions.
 
Jrodgers said:
I set up my wife with her boss to start with. He had a thing for her and I met with him to discuss him seducing her while I was out of town. He did and it progressed from there
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Weren't you afraid she would start a new relationship and leave you? Or you just known he wants her just for sex. Was your wife cheating on you before?
 
I wanted to be cucked. Needed it really. He was divorced and like I said had the hots for her. He and I set ground rules ahead of time. He told me that if he went thru with this that he would make her his slut. I was on a week long hunting trip. Needless to say I was on edge the whole time. I knew she had cheated in the past. Never discussed though.
 
With my current wife it was somewhat easier, and I told her on our very first date, mainly because I was only seeking a potential hotwife. I didn't want to have to try and 'convert' a wife into a slut. So, with just chatting over our past and past marriage breakdowns, I explained that my ex's left me for men they were having sex with, but it was that I also encouraged it, instigated it and would watch as well. I also explained to her that cuckold's are at worst usually celibate or in chastity, at best 100% monogamous, which I think was the bit that interested her more than her being free to have sex with whoever she wanted. We also covered my small cock, and was part of the reason why they fucked other men. I did tell her though, (very hard on a first date) that vaginal sex will be somehat disappointing for her, but if she did enjoyed anal, she'd really enjoy it with me :)

The rest we unravelled over the next couple of days... cock cages, bisexual, sissy stuff, small condoms, SPH and premature ejacutaion etc.
But as I said, once I explained I was very sexually submissive and I would never, ever have a desire to have sex with another women, ( I almost dread it to be honest) thats what won me a second date I think. Plus the fact I told her I used to shower my ex's with designer heels, hand bags, jewelery to thank them for cuckolding me, and so they could really get into being that trophy type hotwife... she said 'hmm, I may need to look into this cuckold thing further'
 
Shouldn't the question be "How did the wife tell you..."? There are cases a wife cockolds her husband without his knowledge. And sometimes he knows. And sometimes he also approves. But how could a husband be made a cuckold without his wife's knowledge, so that the husband would need to tell her about it? - That's very confusing! Or isn't it? 🤔
 
slinky1 said:
With my current wife it was somewhat easier, and I told her on our very first date, mainly because I was only seeking a potential hotwife. I didn't want to have to try and 'convert' a wife into a slut. So, with just chatting over our past and past marriage breakdowns, I explained that my ex's left me for men they were having sex with, but it was that I also encouraged it, instigated it and would watch as well. I also explained to her that cuckold's are at worst usually celibate or in chastity, at best 100% monogamous, which I think was the bit that interested her more than her being free to have sex with whoever she wanted. We also covered my small cock, and was part of the reason why they fucked other men. I did tell her though, (very hard on a first date) that vaginal sex will be somehat disappointing for her, but if she did enjoyed anal, she'd really enjoy it with me :)

The rest we unravelled over the next couple of days... cock cages, bisexual, sissy stuff, small condoms, SPH and premature ejacutaion etc.
But as I said, once I explained I was very sexually submissive and I would never, ever have a desire to have sex with another women, ( I almost dread it to be honest) thats what won me a second date I think. Plus the fact I told her I used to shower my ex's with designer heels, hand bags, jewelery to thank them for cuckolding me, and so they could really get into being that trophy type hotwife... she said 'hmm, I may need to look into this cuckold thing further'
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I wish I could tell her back then before we started dating :) but there were some problems. We were 17 and 15 years old and even I didn't know about my fantasies back then. I don't even need to practice chastity ... maybe later ... but I just want to spice up our sex life with other partners. Just wanted to know how other experienced their beginnings :).
 
mywayintermsofsex said:
Shouldn't the question be "How did the wife tell you..."? There are cases a wife cockolds her husband without his knowledge. And sometimes he knows. And sometimes he also approves. But how could a husband be made a cuckold without his wife's knowledge, so that the husband would need to tell her about it? - That's very confusing! Or isn't it? 🤔
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That's the thing I want to tell her about it ... I really do. But I don't want to mess it up. I just wanted to hear about other peoples experience about their beginnings :)
 
francisgerhard said:
Can someone share their story about how did the whole cuckold thing started in their relationship? Im specifically interested in the cases when husband came with this idea and how the wife reacted when she heard about that for the first time. I have those fantasies for a couple of years ago and I'm a bit scared of my GF's reaction. I know (and she knows I know it) she has been cheating on me with a couple of guys but she was hiding it pretty well and didn't want me to know about it. I don't know if it was about the penis size or not but most probably not (they were not black). But still I'm wondering if she'd think I'm crazy I want her to fuck another guy and just watch it. It doesn't need to be a black guy (there are only a few in our country anyway) but I want to lead her into that idea. One time after sex we have been talking about fantasies and I briefly mentioned I fantasized about a threesome with her and other guy. She was not offended or something like it but it seemed like she was not super into it. But she was quite open. She asked who I picture it with. If it's someone we know or complete stranger etc. So I think it might go in a good way next time when we're going to have a chat about sex fantasies. Do anyone have similar experience? What would you recommend as next steps to talk about or try in real. I'd very appreciate some female opinions on this too. How would you react if your partner comes with an idea like this? I don't want to smash her with porn containing monster dicks and humiliated husbands. I think it would scare her for sure. Thanks for your opinions.
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It first happened to me by accident. A new gf of mine was really hot and I thought about bringing up the idea of sharing her or her cuckolding me. It was on my mind for weeks. One night she gave me an amazing bj and I was so turned on. When she finished she asked how it was. I could have said “amazing”, but instead I thought for a second to play devils advocate, I said ,”it was good, I like how you did this or that, I think you need more experience.” She right away wanted to clarify my answer. It immediately occurred to me that could be taken either way. I said,”you need more practice. You need to give more blow jobs and you’ll get better. Maybe a guy you know you could practice on” I wish I took a picture of the look on her face. She had asked because she knew a guy she secretly wanted to blow. She asked if I was serious. I said I was. She called him the next day. They went on a date that week. She told me when she came home she sucked him and swallowed. She told me they were going on a second date that next week. After a second bj he asked her if they could fuck. She asked me and I was hesitant ( I didn’t know what I wanted back then). She said,” well maybe I’ll let him fuck me, I really want him to.” She keep begging me till I said ok.
 
francisgerhard said:
I wish I could tell her back then before we started dating :) but there were some problems. We were 17 and 15 years old and even I didn't know about my fantasies back then. I don't even need to practice chastity ... maybe later ... but I just want to spice up our sex life with other partners. Just wanted to know how other experienced their beginnings :).
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Yeah, its tough. I was like you with my first wife. We met when we were very young, and I lost my virginity to her when I was almost 23yo. She had just turned 18yo, but was a pretty slutty chic before we met, so had a lot of experience in fucking plenty of guys. It was only about 18 months later she started cheating on me, from then that I had to decide I live with it or end the relationship. I didn't know what a cuck was, and wanted her to stop fucking other guys, but I was ******* scared of being single again and not finding another women for sex, seeing it took me so long to find her and convince her to fuck me, I was truly desperate for real sex rather than masturbating up to 5 times a day. So I just dealt with it, otherwise she said she'd walk. 5 years later with the internet arriving, I Googled how to live with a cheating wife.
The term cuckold popped up, described my exact situation, plus described most cucks as being small dicked, submissive and usually bi. I thought I found my tribe and I was no longer the only guy living like this, there were others out there just like me.
I raced home and showed her, trying to convince her that we could live this life together and she no longer has to do things behind my back.

It didn't really gel though with her, in reality, she hated being with a cuck, hated I was so submissive, hated I was bisexual, hated the size of my cock, hated my PE issues etc. and hated that I wasn't 'man' enough to fuck her properly, so it was 'my fault' I encouraged her to be a slut for other men. Plus, once she saw me in panties/ stocking/ heels, sucking cock and rimming ass, cleaning her pussy etc. that was the beginning of the end I think, and just lost all respect for me. She had no sexual desire towards me at all and wanted to be with other guys even more.. especially dominant/ alpha types. She felt only a 'pathetic excuse for a man' would want to see their wives with other men, and if I was of stronger character, i'd want to ******* the guy, not suck his cock clean.

So, it wasn't all easy, but I was 45yo when I met my current wife, not 22yo, so a lot more water under the bridge and wisdom as well :)
 
francisgerhard said:
That's the thing I want to tell her about it ... I really do. But I don't want to mess it up. I just wanted to hear about other peoples experience about their beginnings :)
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Everyone is different. On an individual level and on a relationship level. You can't just copy-paste what had worked well for others into your own personal life. But one essential question would be: Is fulfillment of your own sexual desires also appealing to your wife? If not, well, better let it go.
 
mywayintermsofsex said:
Everyone is different. On an individual level and on a relationship level. You can't just copy-paste what had worked well for others into your own personal life. But one essential question would be: Is fulfillment of your own sexual desires also appealing to your wife? If not, well, better let it go.
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I know everyone is different. That's why I'm interested to hear real experience from more people to help me get better picture. Maybe compare some aspects of behavior of other women with my GF. That would help me with planning the conversation with her. I don't want any universal advice.

I think there's chance she could be into it. She is submissive. That's probably why she cheated on me, her lovers were very dominant. And she is not afraid of trying new things in our sexual life as well. Her reaction to threesome was not negative also. So I think there's chance.

As I say, I'd be very happy to hear your experiences. And speaking for more guys who'd like to start a new era of their sexual life I think they'd appreciate it as well.
 
Cleprcouple said:
This is hubby I told her about past experiences with my ex girlfriends and black friend n how hot it was n I would love for her to try it
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That's one of the more awkward approaches ImO. i don't know many Women who would take that positively. :( Telling a wife or girlfriend about an ex and especially things that turned you on about or with her is kinda asking for trouble (judging from my own experience). :|
It could bring up questions like "Does he still want to be with his ex?" or "Is what I (sexually) am or do not enough for my husband or boyfriend?" - Some Women may even get turned on by thoughts about their husband's/boyfriend's past experiences with other Women but those (Cuckquean types) are rare, i guess. In many cases it can cause a lot of pressure for your current partner in your relationship which i think is not a good thing. :(
Rather focus on what both of you can enjoy together, and if that includes an additional "player" and she is also aroused by that thought then it's all good. But don't push it! ...is what i say. ;)
 
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