How close are we to making this a reality?

[Neilmanwich]

Any insights would help! Here’s where we’re at: I’ve had a hot wife fantasy my whole adult life. I finally shared it with my wife of 8 years about a year ago. While I’ve had this fantasy, she’s also never had an orgasm with me. I explained I’d love to watch her have great sex and have the Os I don’t give her and that this would be my ultimate fantasy. She did not think it was crazy but she also said she wasn’t into fucking another guy. We discussed other things we could do short of that and she’s gone a long ways. She’s started going out with no undies, scantily dressed. She’s open to flirting with other guys in front of me and has. We have a stash of interracial porn and erotica. The only time she cums with me is on one of two large black dildos. She’s bought a queen of spades too and we talk about her picking up black guys in it. Most interesting is that she regularly visits an African American trainer for massages. We joke about them having sex, share interracial porn about massages, and then fuck hard when she gets home. We also arranged for a guy from my gym, another black dude, to come over to massage her (massage only.) He had to cancel at the last minute and we’ve not rescheduled. She’s also become very open physically where she was not at all before. She’s started training hard and we’ve visited nude beaches a couple of times—-we never would have done that before. I realize I’m rambling, but these are just all examples of new behaviors.
Yet, when I ask her, she still says she’s not at the point where she’ll fuck another guy in front of me.
Is she ever going to be ready to fuck another man? Is she really ready now? Getting closer? Should I just be content with what I have? Does anyone have any similar stories that went either way? I’m just confused, excited, but also frustrated.

 

[Voltaire68]

Any insights would help! Here’s where we’re at: I’ve had a hot wife fantasy my whole adult life. I finally shared it with my wife of 8 years about a year ago. While I’ve had this fantasy, she’s also never had an orgasm with me. I explained I’d love to watch her have great sex and have the Os I don’t give her and that this would be my ultimate fantasy. She did not think it was crazy but she also said she wasn’t into fucking another guy. We discussed other things we could do short of that and she’s gone a long ways. She’s started going out with no undies, scantily dressed. She’s open to flirting with other guys in front of me and has. We have a stash of interracial porn and erotica. The only time she cums with me is on one of two large black dildos. She’s bought a queen of spades too and we talk about her picking up black guys in it. Most interesting is that she regularly visits an African American trainer for massages. We joke about them having sex, share interracial porn about massages, and then fuck hard when she gets home. We also arranged for a guy from my gym, another black dude, to come over to massage her (massage only.) He had to cancel at the last minute and we’ve not rescheduled. She’s also become very open physically where she was not at all before. She’s started training hard and we’ve visited nude beaches a couple of times—-we never would have done that before. I realize I’m rambling, but these are just all examples of new behaviors.
Yet, when I ask her, she still says she’s not at the point where she’ll fuck another guy in front of me.
Is she ever going to be ready to fuck another man? Is she really ready now? Getting closer? Should I just be content with what I have? Does anyone have any similar stories that went either way? I’m just confused, excited, but also frustrated.

My advice....better go bro..!

 

[Sextravert]

Be content with what you have. She doing more for you than most would.

 

[progradvocate]

Don’t lose your patience - let her go at her pace - don’t pressure. She is on the path as long as you are patient and don’t fuck it up.

 

[Neilmanwich]

My husband and I have been swinging for a little over four years now. The only reason why it works for us is because it is something that we both agreed to as a mutual decision for both of us. But at no point do we ever try to talk eachother into doing something either of us are not ready to do. It could be that she wants to indulge your fantasies, but in a different way (example being the spades clothing, flirting openly with them, etc.) and it that may be a boundary she does not want to cross. When we first started this journey, it was uncomfortable for both of us at first because we were only used to having sex with eachother, but we eventually got used to it and there weren’t any boundaries crossed that we didn’t agree to. Now I don’t know if this is a real thing or fake because you are not a verified user (I really hope I’m not wasting my time typing this) and if this is a legitimate post concerning a real situation you are having, my suggestion would be to respect her decision until she decides she is ready. Don’t try and push her outside of her comfort zone. She may get there, she may not. Try going with dildos and see where it goes. At the very least if she wants to be committed to doing that stuff for you, then you can meet her in the middle and be happy together. And I also want to add that if you do make her do something she isn’t comfortable with, you could potentially ruin your relationship with her and not because of the “oh wow he’s got a big and he took me away” kind of way. It may change the way she feels about you altogether in the mutual relationship that you guys have. I actually admire her respect for you not to do it as opposed to doing it just for your own pleasure like I believe a lot of the women on here are doing.

This is very much appreciated. And yes it is real. I honestly don’t want to mess up my marriage bc it’s great in every way way. I agree-I don’t want to push her into something and then we both regret it and she blames me.

 

[Neilmanwich]

Always respect her decision. It is more fun with all parties involved are fully committed. And in no way is this lifestyle worth jeopardizing your marriage. That is the woman who chose you for a reason. I’m not big on a lot of the kinks on this site, but a woman should respect and adore her man and it sounds like she does! Sounds like a keeper to me.

she very much is. Honestly I trust her 100% which is not an easy thing for me. But I know that she won’t fuck up our marriage.

 

[Neilmanwich]

Thanks! I appreciate your insights.