Jessi, thanks for your thoughts. I agree part of it mental, but in Terry's case, it is because when we were active in swinging she could take on most, except for one black guy in mind, who was over a soda can thick. Anyway, one thing I did not say, but now will, due to my diabetes, I have not been able to get it up, and she decided to wait until I could before she started playing again. Well, I am better, but not able to get it hard enough, thus our hopes of Splash Mocha. She was just too scared to go from no sex in over 2 years to a guy who was a good 8+," and was still growing while in her mouth. She was afraid, as she said later, "he would tear me". So my thing is, like anal sex, if the guy is slow and takes his time, she will most likely be okay and enjoy the experience. Then, as more used to it, can take it more and at regular rhythm. (she has been air-tight w/ 3 BBC's in the past, so I think she can do it again, and she is interested, just wants guys to take it slow at first until she can take it good) OH, I wanted to ask you, Jessi, you said she will be sore and Motrin helps, but when home is fine, but are you in pain the next day? That was her initial concern, not being able to play the 2nd and 3rd day due to soreness. She want to be able to "have fun" (her words) every day.