Does cuckolding lead to premature ejaculation?

[slinky1]

the last two girls i was with both made comments
basically to hurry up and cum... and get it over with

also half the time i masturbate i dont ever get to cum - after 30+ min i give up...

That was pretty much the attitude of my ex wife. She used to say put a condom on and hurry up, so I think that didn't help...in the early days, I used to think if I didn't hurry up, she's tap me on the shoulder, give me the 'this is working for me line' then have me get off and end up having to jerk off. So there was always that sense of urgency with her, my current wife sees it for what it is, so as long as I put a condom on, she doesn't care how long I last.

 

[firedogg81]

From my experience with cuck couples . Dudes bust the moment their wives drop to their knees ...let alone waiting for actual penetration.

At my cuck parties. It's required cucks bring an extra towel. It's crazy . All the cucks go to the cuck corner and within seconds they make a mess.

It's always funny hearing the wifey say " this loser has always been a minute man." Or "pathetic" as she chuckles.View attachment 1823954

so hot

 

[Myhunger]

I think this thread misses the key factor. As they say, sex is 80% mental, and cuckolding is 95% mental. So to have this not just as a fantasy or in porn...but to have your wife fully and actively engaging in your wildest fantasy on a regular basis...so you are triggered on a primal level all the time. And since your primary release is not from sex, you have no real vested interest to try and 'save it' or withhold from cumming. Think of it like a sudden finger in your ass, you will likely cum whether you planned to or not. Same logic.

 

[slinky1]

I think this thread misses the key factor. As they say, sex is 80% mental, and cuckolding is 95% mental. So to have this not just as a fantasy or in porn...but to have your wife fully and actively engaging in your wildest fantasy on a regular basis...so you are triggered on a primal level all the time. And since your primary release is not from sex, you have no real vested interest to try and 'save it' or withhold from cumming. Think of it like a sudden finger in your ass, you will likely cum whether you planned to or not. Same logic.

Agree. Premature ejaculation is incredibly frustrating. Most people who don't suffer from it think, its like a 20 minutes fuck that only goes for 3 minutes, a start, a middle with a crescendo, and a climax. For me at least, its nothing like that. Unless i'm masturbating, I have no clue, hint or sense if i'm about to cum until its too late.

So, I can't fuck, stop wait until that feeling subsides and then start again. I can fuck, think i'm at least another minute away, and on the next thrust, start cumming without warning. Its still feels ok, but a lot of the time its like a ruined orgasm while you hurridly reach for your cock and try to wank it the last squirt or two to a somewhat pleasurable outcome.

Or as you say, you may feel in control, then a finger to your asshole, or your nipple sucked and you'll cum uncontrollably. Its really frustrating, because you never, ever achieve the powerful orgasm your hoping for, whereas as with your own hand you have a lot more control over when to cum.

Its definitely mental, we use condoms a 99% of the time for this reason, sometimes cock sleeves, but even if I feel next to nothing, a certain move, word whispered will have me cum without me wanting to.

 

[Myhunger]

Agree. Premature ejaculation is incredibly frustrating. Most people who don't suffer from it think, its like a 20 minutes fuck that only goes for 3 minutes, a start, a middle with a crescendo, and a climax. For me at least, its nothing like that. Unless i'm masturbating, I have no clue, hint or sense if i'm about to cum until its too late.

So, I can't fuck, stop wait until that feeling subsides and then start again. I can fuck, think i'm at least another minute away, and on the next thrust, start cumming without warning. Its still feels ok, but a lot of the time its like a ruined orgasm while you hurridly reach for your cock and try to wank it the last squirt or two to a somewhat pleasurable outcome.

Or as you say, you may feel in control, then a finger to your asshole, or your nipple sucked and you'll cum uncontrollably. Its really frustrating, because you never, ever achieve the powerful orgasm your hoping for, whereas as with your own hand you have a lot more control over when to cum.

Its definitely mental, we use condoms a 99% of the time for this reason, sometimes cock sleeves, but even if I feel next to nothing, a certain move, word whispered will have me cum without me wanting to.

But let's be honest....you have to work at it. You can't just keep doing the same thing thinking different results will happen. Or...embrace it. The REASON you are cumming so fast is because of how excited you are...you know how many men wish that were true? She is going to get hers from her black men, if you are a good partner...so, either take the necessary steps to fix it, or enjoy it.

 

[slinky1]

But let's be honest....you have to work at it. You can't just keep doing the same thing thinking different results will happen. Or...embrace it. The REASON you are cumming so fast is because of how excited you are...you know how many men wish that were true? She is going to get hers from her black men, if you are a good partner...so, either take the necessary steps to fix it, or enjoy it.

For us, its been like that for 13 years, and for me 20 before it. As a 52yo it won't change, but its also part of who I am sexually, you're right, I do get over excited or more overwhelmed by how good it feels. Sometimes i'll cum from just rolling the condom on, as the anticiapation of it all gets too much for me. But for me, I was a virgin until I was 22yo, had no luck with girls, women and only twice 'made out with girls' only for me to cum in her hand as soon as she reached for my cock ( i was very self conscious because of it small size) and another time, my cock out, I sucked this girls nipple and accidentley ejaculated of her expensive dress. Both times I was mortified, embarrased and humilated and disappointed on missing the chace to lose my virginity. So, those two formative experiences in a way damaged me a little. By the time I was having 'regular' sex at 25yo, I was still having it like a mid teen, with no experience and the joy of actually getting my cock into a pussy, any pussy was still too overwhelming for me, it still is to this day.

 

[Myhunger]

For us, its been like that for 13 years, and for me 20 before it. As a 52yo it won't change, but its also part of who I am sexually, you're right, I do get over excited or more overwhelmed by how good it feels. Sometimes i'll cum from just rolling the condom on, as the anticiapation of it all gets too much for me. But for me, I was a virgin until I was 22yo, had no luck with girls, women and only twice 'made out with girls' only for me to cum in her hand as soon as she reached for my cock ( i was very self conscious because of it small size) and another time, my cock out, I sucked this girls nipple and accidentley ejaculated of her expensive dress. Both times I was mortified, embarrased and humilated and disappointed on missing the chace to lose my virginity. So, those two formative experiences in a way damaged me a little. By the time I was having 'regular' sex at 25yo, I was still having it like a mid teen, with no experience and the joy of actually getting my cock into a pussy, any pussy was still too overwhelming for me, it still is to this day.

Well, consider yourself blessed. All you just said and yet still have a ridiculously hot wife willing to fulfill your wildest fantasies. I am extremely jealous.

 

[slinky1]

Well, consider yourself blessed. All you just said and yet still have a ridiculously hot wife willing to fulfill your wildest fantasies. I am extremely jealous.

I do consider my self blessed to have an active hotwife, but its also come from being up front from the start 13 years ago. She admitted she wasn't sexually attracted to me at all, but still fell in love with me as a person, so in a way, she was more than happy for me, as long as I wore a condom to give me the odd 'mercy fuck' as she called it, knowing was over in a minute or so. As much as I tried to make it last longer, its just something I've never had any control over.

 

[Myhunger]

I do consider my self blessed to have an active hotwife, but its also come from being up front from the start 13 years ago. She admitted she wasn't sexually attracted to me at all, but still fell in love with me as a person, so in a way, she was more than happy for me, as long as I wore a condom to give me the odd 'mercy fuck' as she called it, knowing was over in a minute or so. As much as I tried to make it last longer, its just something I've never had any control over.

Me, and thousands of other men...would gladly take what you have if possible.

 

[NWHotwife]

I have never had a problem with sexual stamina until the past 4-5 years. As my cuckolding fetish fantasy has increased over the past few years I have become a rapid premature ejaculator to the point my wife only jerks me now. I can tell she doesn't want to hurt my feelings but She has let it slip on occasion I am a fast cummer. If I imagine her fucking bbc while I get a handjob i cum extremely fast. The premature ejaculation issues have gotten so much worse as I have gotten more into cuckolding. Has anyone noticed this happening the deeper you get into cuckolding?

I've never had that issue. Rarely I can finish in 10-20 minutes. I've always been able to fuck for a long time.

Cuck here btw.

 

[MacNfries]

re: Does cuckolding lead to premature ejaculation?

As my cuckolding fetish fantasy has increased over the past few years I have become a rapid premature ejaculator to the point my wife only jerks me now. I can tell she doesn't want to hurt my feelings but She has let it slip on occasion I am a fast cummer. If I imagine her fucking bbc while I get a handjob i cum extremely fast. The premature ejaculation issues have gotten so much worse as I have gotten more into cuckolding.

If its psychological PE, then YES, but .....
Since you say its gotten worse since you got interested in cuckolding, I'd think this would hint at it being more of a psychological problem. However, you can't rule out medical issues like diabeties, high ******* pressure, etc. I suspect it is more psychological but don't rule anything out just yet.
If you really want to stop PE ejaculations, you'll concentrate on HER orgasm, not yours. Secondly, you'll spend more time on "foreplay" , getting her pussy really sopping wet before sticking your dick in her. You should give her at least 2-3 orgasms before sticking your dick in her. If you feel you're about to cum, squeeze the base of your dick really hard for about 5-6 seconds. That should give you another 3-4 minutes of fucking.

 

[slinky1]

Me, and thousands of other men...would gladly take what you have if possible.

I know, having a small cock, plus PE, plus a constant/ chronic masturbation need, plus being very submissive, plus being bi would put me in the 0.001% of men that would be sexually desirable to women, yet i've got one I love dearly. Not a day goes by, knowing if I were single again and at 52yo, i'd almost never have sex with another woman again unless I paid for it. So no matter how much sex she has with other men, I always make sure she'd always have a more honest, loving, secure future with me than the men who are only seeking to use her for their own needs.

 

[Alexiatvpa]

I have never had a problem with sexual stamina until the past 4-5 years. As my cuckolding fetish fantasy has increased over the past few years I have become a rapid premature ejaculator to the point my wife only jerks me now. I can tell she doesn't want to hurt my feelings but She has let it slip on occasion I am a fast cummer. If I imagine her fucking bbc while I get a handjob i cum extremely fast. The premature ejaculation issues have gotten so much worse as I have gotten more into cuckolding. Has anyone noticed this happening the deeper you get into cuckolding?

We are new in the lifestyle, but this started happened to me once we met a bbc. Ever sinfe that moment, I cant hold it. I used to be a great lover, NOW, I can’t last more than 2 minutes.
good thing is she is really into the lifestyle, and other men can satisfy her.

 

[Cpl4funinfl]

Mine always says the last too long That's why I've been locked up for 27 days she's hoping by denying me that I can come in a couple of minutes and not be so exhausting for her lol