I think it depends on the person, but in my observation from friends that have been in the lifestyle and reading posts, most submissives are more dominant in life matters, especially work.
Do cuck wives lose respect?
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I think in some cases yes. From my observation cuckolding somehow comes from connecting feelings of sexual inadequacies, sexual infidelity, and emotional cruelty with feelings of love and pleasure. How else can you explain it? Sexual patterns start in early adolescence and become reinforced. A couple of girlfriends who cheat and you take them back, they make a comment or two about dick size...and boom! a fetish is born and a pattern set. And if that man falls in love with a woman with this same experience, she also connects love with infidelity and emotional cruelty. Like it or not, feeling like ******* apparently is a turn on for some men, and making them feel that way is a turn on for some women.
So why did she continue?
Do chuck or most go gay for their desire for men
She liked it
Yes, but apparently enough to overcome her disrespect for you.
Well, from my journey so far, I came into homoerotic feelings in my early 40s. MANY men do. After a lifetime of hetero sex and females, and the total comfort in handling our own dicks, it just seems often a natural fun outgrowth of sexuality. For me, it’s only about the dick...ive never had the desire to couple or mate or lay with a man. It’s more like masturbation or sport.
My wife had a similar response after her first time. A black guy picked her up at a casino bar. We went up to our hotel room, she fucked him once with a condom, then again bareback, then finished with him in her ass. She went way past any boundary we had previously discussed. I gently suggested that maybe bareback was not something she was ready for as that was happening, and she told me to be quiet, so I did not speak again during the session. After he left, she got angry with me, told me I let things get completely out of control, and then wouldn't even discuss cuckolding as a fantasy for over a month afterward. It took about a year for her to do it again.
I do not know your particular situation, but my advice to new cucks is not overreact to the crazy ******* your wife says during or immediately after fucking. Or in between fucking for that matter. If this lifestyle is an emotional roller coaster for cucks, imagine how it is for wives? Your relationship is going to be very different from 90%+ of other couples if you do this, that is a fact. She will say and do things that will be hurtful, and you just have to accept it as a price for living the unbelievable sexual experience you are going to have.
Cucks can not be judgmental of anything she does or says during sex, and should be very careful in what you say afterward. As a cuck, I accepted early on that I had almost no control of what was happening, nor should I, and that my role was to be 100% supportive of her. In return I would see and participate in sexual activities that most hubs only dream about. And in my case, my wife recognizes that I am one of a very small number of husbands that would let her have this lifestyle and stay married.
To put our relationship in terms whether she respects me or not as a normal wife would do is impossible. I suspect it is for most cuck couples.
ChristyandJake
Couple
Naw we gain more respect. We’re not slut we’re just expert in the field.
submissive dan
Male
It’s funny. I don’t have a cuckold relationship with my wife but am interested in it and find it incredibly sexy from previous relationships. I will say that I think the cuckold does find it erotic for the wife to lose respect for him. What wife wouldn’t lose respect at least to some extent when the husband is submissive, chaste, perhaps into being a sissy? The key is do they have enough love on enough other levels to overcome that loss of “sexual respect”? Does the wife respect him as a person, care about his feelings, know never to go too far and hurt him in a way he doesn’t want? If that’s the case, their marriage will survive. She’ll get what she needs and he’ll get what he needs. Bit from previous experience, I’d say that’s pretty rare.
In my case, not at all! On the contrary, we have become more trusting in each other and our relationship has become much more intimate and much more strong
It changed my wifes perception of me just by convincing her that the best thing for us both was for me to step aside as her sexual provider and us to invite other males who can better please her.
And then after getting over everything that comes with that, she further lost or changed how she saw me as a man and partner after she admitted she wanted me to suck and fluffy her favorite lovers cocks.
She said it was huge to realize she was shocked and turned on that she wanted me to do that but also after she saw me sucking her lovers cock in my mouth she lost any chance or hope of me regaining any sexual desire she once had for me. That she knew once she realized this and then saw me doing it that from that point on she wouldn't ever be sexually attracted to me ever again.. we might make love again someday but that she now knew my role really had changed in our marriage and that so long as everything else remains the same and good in our marriage and we communicate, support and work together as a couple, then she didnt see any reason this had to destroy what we built but might be able to improve our marriage in other areas and make it stronger.
But, i would need to accept how she felt and accept she will be bringing other men into our life to satisfy her needs and im going to have to support her and accept them and accept they will be over and its not going to be easy at first to figure out how this is all going to work and fit into our daily lives but this is the only way forward for her and I from that point.
I was now completed cuckold and the beta in her eyes for that one role. Everything else would stay the same. But for her, she had to let go and change what her perception of me and both of our roles and the accepted norms of a monogamous relationship if she was going to go forward with this and it be a positive in our relationship the way she handles things.
So, from that point forward, she was a bitch and selfish toward me regarding her sexual desires and needs because she had to be. She needed to take control and manage her sexual pleasure and needs because she could no longer depend on her husband as the other 50 percent provider. So she would treat and see me as a beta to support and help her realize successfully attracting and keeping them both satisfied and happy while understanding she wasnt responsible for satisfying my own sexual needs directly either. Now I would get off through experiencing her pleasure and being there to participate and witness and if she needed to jack me off or give me a hand job or blow job, that was now just a task not a sexual desire leading to pleasure for her.
She didnt loose respect for me but it changed her feelings in different ways. It increased her love and trust in me as her husband and confidant and in my commitment to her as my wife and our marriage by showing her how much her happiness and the longevity of our marriage means to me.
But she now no longer sees me as a man who can sexually satisfy her or that she can look too in a satisfaction way. She knows making love will still be making love but her interest and desire to even do that with me has diminished heavily.
Instead she was at a point of preparing to learn to live in a marriage and be in a relationship with someone that isn't able to provide something that was important to us both and helped bring us together and to process and adjust to that being provided by another though better partner that will fill that need but just accepting that need is now not being provided by her husband and instead she will have to enjoy and shift appreciating me in another new role but still playing a part in helping her get the most enjoyment she can get from another alpha male sexually satisfying her and that same role is also going to be central to her husbands sexual satisfaction too.
So it was a lot at first, so yea, she lost some respect for my new submissive role but it also helped her feel ok and enjoy humiliating me and enjoying her alpha lover doing the same to me since its not diminishing my ego in anyway and what was now wrong to do or allow is now encouraged and acceptable to express as a healthy outlet for dealing with all these new feelings and helping her increase her sexual attraction to her new lovers, and a possible way of expressing any anger, confusion, anxiety or stress she may be feeling toward me the cuckold at first, or just as a way to deal with any frustrations she may have with me from time to time for whatever ive done to piss her off, she can now let go of that by humiliating me or by encouraging her bull to do the same..
And then after getting over everything that comes with that, she further lost or changed how she saw me as a man and partner after she admitted she wanted me to suck and fluffy her favorite lovers cocks.
She said it was huge to realize she was shocked and turned on that she wanted me to do that but also after she saw me sucking her lovers cock in my mouth she lost any chance or hope of me regaining any sexual desire she once had for me. That she knew once she realized this and then saw me doing it that from that point on she wouldn't ever be sexually attracted to me ever again.. we might make love again someday but that she now knew my role really had changed in our marriage and that so long as everything else remains the same and good in our marriage and we communicate, support and work together as a couple, then she didnt see any reason this had to destroy what we built but might be able to improve our marriage in other areas and make it stronger.
But, i would need to accept how she felt and accept she will be bringing other men into our life to satisfy her needs and im going to have to support her and accept them and accept they will be over and its not going to be easy at first to figure out how this is all going to work and fit into our daily lives but this is the only way forward for her and I from that point.
I was now completed cuckold and the beta in her eyes for that one role. Everything else would stay the same. But for her, she had to let go and change what her perception of me and both of our roles and the accepted norms of a monogamous relationship if she was going to go forward with this and it be a positive in our relationship the way she handles things.
So, from that point forward, she was a bitch and selfish toward me regarding her sexual desires and needs because she had to be. She needed to take control and manage her sexual pleasure and needs because she could no longer depend on her husband as the other 50 percent provider. So she would treat and see me as a beta to support and help her realize successfully attracting and keeping them both satisfied and happy while understanding she wasnt responsible for satisfying my own sexual needs directly either. Now I would get off through experiencing her pleasure and being there to participate and witness and if she needed to jack me off or give me a hand job or blow job, that was now just a task not a sexual desire leading to pleasure for her.
She didnt loose respect for me but it changed her feelings in different ways. It increased her love and trust in me as her husband and confidant and in my commitment to her as my wife and our marriage by showing her how much her happiness and the longevity of our marriage means to me.
But she now no longer sees me as a man who can sexually satisfy her or that she can look too in a satisfaction way. She knows making love will still be making love but her interest and desire to even do that with me has diminished heavily.
Instead she was at a point of preparing to learn to live in a marriage and be in a relationship with someone that isn't able to provide something that was important to us both and helped bring us together and to process and adjust to that being provided by another though better partner that will fill that need but just accepting that need is now not being provided by her husband and instead she will have to enjoy and shift appreciating me in another new role but still playing a part in helping her get the most enjoyment she can get from another alpha male sexually satisfying her and that same role is also going to be central to her husbands sexual satisfaction too.
So it was a lot at first, so yea, she lost some respect for my new submissive role but it also helped her feel ok and enjoy humiliating me and enjoying her alpha lover doing the same to me since its not diminishing my ego in anyway and what was now wrong to do or allow is now encouraged and acceptable to express as a healthy outlet for dealing with all these new feelings and helping her increase her sexual attraction to her new lovers, and a possible way of expressing any anger, confusion, anxiety or stress she may be feeling toward me the cuckold at first, or just as a way to deal with any frustrations she may have with me from time to time for whatever ive done to piss her off, she can now let go of that by humiliating me or by encouraging her bull to do the same..
Women at the end of the day want to be loved by their partner. If the partner allows her to dwell in her Big Black Cock fantasies and is a good/dependable partner in the private/public life then everything is good. That's always the best scenario.
Maxfield0316
Couple
A lot of run-on sentences that could be stated more concisely. Your high school english teacher would cringe reading this post. Your wife should spank you just for butchering the english language.
My partner and I have not engaged in the lifestyle fully yet but, from what I read on here and what I experience between us, I am confident it will not change anything. She is very accepting and is happy that I am coming out about this fantasy. Us both being 30 and 25, I think helps. She isn't caught up in what a man should be the same way previous generations are. As long as, I'm a caring, supportive and nurturing husband/*******, any sex play is just that. Time will tell but reading about the wives who lost respect I can see they are a different type of woman, as well as, in a less stable, connected relationship.
The Cuckold and Hot Wife lifestyle has made our relationship stronger. The ability to be so open and honest about our sexual needs and desires has increased our love, respect and commitment to each other and our marriage. It would be selfish of me to deny my beautiful and sexy wife the attention and pleasures she receives from this lifestyle we enjoy.
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Never for me. I can easily separate sex from the other aspects of life and I love and respect my husband in every way.
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