6 years ago, I tied my wife up, arms only, blindfolded her and teased her with toys for 2 hours before having a well hung, well built, black man come in and start fucking her (with protection.) He was already in her before we took off the blindfold. She had never met him before in her life, she opened her eyes to being fucked by a complete stranger. He and I had colluded for months before hand getting to know each other and setting up the scene.
She was prepared and knew it was going to happen, just not when or how. Ever since she's been a BBC slut.
Coming up, hopefully soon, she will be tied to a hotel room bed, more restrictive this time, blindfolded, and taken by a dozen STD tested 10" + men from the local mandingo club; fullfilling her fantasy of being taken by a dozen men at once.
Is that 'soft-medium or hard' I dunno, it's what she wants.