i can do botth!!! with some guys i'm VERY dominant but i never push beyond what excittes them. with otthers i'm somewhat submissive. i'd say VERY submissive but a girl has to have her limits!!! lol i've found submissive guys to be smart, funny and sensitive.
the dominant guys i've had conversatiions with here (w 2 exceptions) don't seem to be able to access that dimension. i don't know why and i wish they could. i really like dominantt guys but i get tturned off when they come charging in over the hill with their dicks waving in the air!!! lol i don't need that!!!
Oooo .... a switch! A lot of ladies are, but most don't realize it.
Most men who identify as dominant, if they are being truthful, will also admit that their "submissive female" actually runs their relationship.
It's become kind of a running joke in the BDSM community that "submissive female" is actually an oxymoron. While she may enjoy submitting in the bedroom, pretty much all women, regardless of how they identify, tend to be the dominant partner in their relationships. Women have an inborn or intuitive ability to work a man emotionally into doing whatever they want, even if she lets him think he's in charge.
That's why even in "patriarchal" societies, it is generally recognized that the true power in the home is the mom. I.E.: The stereotypical Jewish Mom, Italian Mom, Polish Mom, etc.
The only time a man is truly in control is when he absolutely doesn't care about the woman at all and is just using her, but that usually doesn't become any type of lasting relationship. Once he starts liking the pussy, she starts gaining control.