Do you find yourself thinking if you are devaluing or reducing yourself to a second class stautus by engaging in meetings ?
I ask this because when white women hook up with men of other backgrounds nationalities etc, even though it is a sex hookup there usuallly is some preamble or intro to it. It could be hanging out in the park, meeting for drinks, playing a friendly game of ping pong or some other fun flirty activity. It is common knowledge that this sort of buildup makes the sex even better. I mean white women don't hesitate to be seen out with other races and nationalities an even loop their arm through the guys arm as a friendly inviting gesture. We are not talking about dating here or romance, just hanging out briefly before doing getting down to business, as the saying goes.
So it tells you something when they will openly be in the company of other, but for black men this is not an option an they will only hook up with one undercover and unseen on these types sites.
Some may say I just want the sex, but in the examples I cited above the goal is getting laid too, it is just that is done in a more civil social format.
So,do you that that by agreeing to meet on places where people don't want to associate with you openly, that you implicitly reducing yourself to a second-class or lower status individual?
I kind of addressed this on another thread. Though I haven't directly experienced it..in fact often it's the opposite for me. Over the years, most of the white women I've been with wanted to enjoy some form of "courting" from me which included at times publicly before the first time having sex and definitely afterwards. Some of them found it thrilling to be seen with me publicly and to be asked about it later and to be able to play it off. Although, it is harder for the "mature" women to pull off the notion being seen with a younger looking guy of any skin color is just platonic, so in their case it's almost done purposely to say..."yup I may be older but I can still pull them...in fact I pulled a black guy".
But I have heard from some white women about not being willing, able to or interested in any other kinds of interaction of than pure sex and definitely not public interactions.
IMHO, it comes down to a few basic principles...1). What is the desire of the women? Is it purely sexual and nothing else? Or is she willing and/or interested in allowing herself to build the sexual tension in other ways other than straight get the dick hard, fuck me, cum and leave? 2). What is the arrangement with her husband/bf? Often times despite what you may read or see in porn...not a lot of husbands want their wives/gfs forming any kind of bond other than pure sex(i.e.,. no kissing, no long texts, no calls other than to arrange meets, no intimacy). And especially are not interested in having their wives/gf be seen publicly with a black man where any indication of sexual interest or desire on her part is seen by others. It is just about seeing/knowing their wives/gfs FUCK a black guy. Nothing else...period!
Like it or not...looks, style, perceptions, etc matter to MOST people. For soem white folks older than 45, it is NOT as acceptable publicly to display sexual attraction to black men. Younger white women do not have as often the same social pressures because their generation is much more mixed socially. So the notion of seeing high school/college/ young professional age white girls with black guys doesn't draw nearly as much attention as it would the same women perceived to be older. Sure we can have a healthy debate all day long about right or wrong...good or bad. It is what it is.
To further address your question...publicly you see far more white women with men other than white but NOT black. Examples...Asian, South Asian, Latin, Middle Eastern. Men of African descent are not often viewed socially as other men are...we are more likely often associated "sexually" than in other ways.
This is ALSO similar with other non-white women. Very few Asian, South Asian, Middle Eastern, South American women publicly are seen in NON-platonic ways with black men. But the same women OFTEN openly date/flirt/marry men other than themselves, just not black.
Again...like it or hate it. The truth of the matter is if we are all being honest..that observation is generally very true. So the mere presence of a black man with a white woman...for some people automatically carries a social stigma. For some white couples/wives/gfs in certain parts of the country or world...publicly that is a bit much for them. So behaving publicly in ways that can be perceived beyond platonic...can be very uncomfortable and unsettling. It doesn't necessarily mean she does not want to "date/court/or interact publicly" with you in some form or fashion like she potentially would others. Her reality and our reality often is different.
For me, I long ago stopped meeting women that "just" want to fuck and leave. Nothing wrong with it..if that is your thing...PLENTY of men nor matter their skin color that are willing and able. I have found throughout the years, the sex is sooo much better with some kind of sexual tension build up that can only be developed via time spent together. That could mean just phone calls, texts, meet for coffee, after work meet, whatever. Again, there is more than one way to enjoy this lifestyle and the bottom line is the women drive what really happens in these encounters. Afterall women control access to sex...not men. But if allowed men can influence the depth of the sexual experience with women (and potentially the thrill of her husband/bf knowing how enjoyable sex with us is for her publicly or privately).
Just my thoughts...
; a lot of beta-Euro men so my playmates usually ignore them as if they were thin air as the guy stares looking mad/jealous as f*ck. In my experience, in Europe men of color as usually presented as a trophy
