Ok there are 3 perspectives to your question. 1 if the husband is is a true cuck and not a voyer then he should know his personal feelings really doesn't matter. ( if you need in depth reason on this contact me).2 if aman is trying to hook up with your wife without you,then all parties involved are to blame,because you did not set limits. 3 some husbands who watch,don't know how to just watch without trying to direct the interaction,as for myself those are the husbands who annoy me. As for myself I am a Dom, so when the husband tries to direct I leave,because I am not his Mandingo entertainment. In general to each his own.