It's all about getting with the right group. Personally, I do not allow my guys to get too aggressive with the women, especially if they are new to this sort of thing. We love it when we get a new women and we pick out the right guy to show her a wonderful time so that she has a memorable first experience. If she has a good time then she is more likely to come back again. I take a forward thinking approach to my parties. We get them new...bring them along...next thing you know they come into their own and are soon taking on a room full of men with no problems at all. It's all about building up their confidence. Again, I can only speak on how I run my own parties. I cannot speak for how others may run theirs.