I can tell you from experience as a real woman that turned into a hotwife and then into a QOS; there are several prerequisite aspects of your relationship with your boyfriend that need to exist in order to determine whether or not you can have a fruitful and lasting relationship with him while also requiring sexual satisfaction from hung black men.
1. You must already enjoy sex with your bf/husband and be able to orgasm from penetration by him. If not then this lifestyle will ruin your relationship with him if any portion of your being together is based on sexual chemistry. The only way it can work otherwise is if he’s a complete beta bitchboi in which case there’s no reason to even be with him unless he is your sugar-boi.
2. He must want it as much or more than you. If you want it more then there’s no way that works unless again, beta bitchboi.
3. Unless he’s a beta and you’re dominating him then there needs to be mutual respect for each other’s willingness to continue in the lifestyle. If my husband asked me today to stop getting fucked by black men then I would (and I would expect him to respect me enough to stop having sex with other women too) just the same as he wouldn’t pressure me to continue to have sex with black men if I said I wanted to stop (but let’s be realistic, neither of those would ever happen
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4. Both of you need to be mature adults and be able to separate sex from love. Sometimes emotionally immature individuals can let lust confuse them into thinking it’s something more than it is. I’ve personally known several couples that went down the non-interracial swinging path that were not emotionally mature enough to not let themselves be fooled and it ruined relationships/marriages for multiple parties.
It’s normally better if one person in the relationship has prior experience with swinging in order to lead the way and show that they’re able to distinguish between lust and genuine intimacy. My husband had had prior experience with swinging and introduced me to it. That established the foundation for him to introduce me to sex with black men and thus my deciding to only ever have extramarital sex with black men from that point on. I actually went black only when it comes to my playmates almost 11 years ago now and have been married for nearly 10. Even after I had been run through by a couple dozen hung black men in my first year we still both knew we loved each other more than ever before and decided to get married since we both knew we’d never find anyone as compatible in every way including sexually. So if you think that’s who your man is and you think that urge isn’t going to go away then I suggest the next time you’re getting frisky you just ask him point blank if he’s like to see you get fucked by another man (a black man of course). Chances are very good that he will like that idea. If not, then you know that piece of information going forward. It’s not something to throw a relationship away over unless it’s actually impacting you mentally/emotionally. Good luck to you either way, if you are even a legit woman.
. Convince your Boyfriend to try to introduce toys in the bedroom. Though with that said, I feel like you can just try the real thing from what you've said about your boyfriend. My current partner is white but he's completely fine with this lifestyle. I have sex with both him and bulls. I've never really understood why men can have fun but not women especially when it's fun for everyone.
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