Advice on how to interact with hotwives and their respectable husbands (40+)

[programmed2plz]

Hi everyone,

I'm pretty new to this lifestyle, started last summer with a couple around my age (20s). However, for a while I always wanted to date older women, which I started to do since last Fall, but I've never interacted with an older couple, especially a hotwife and her husband in this lifestyle.

I am planning on going to my first ever swingers party next month. How do I properly interact with older hotwives and their husbands? I'm assuming I interact with the upmost integrity, fun, and respect just like any other couple. I'm just a bit worried about the generation gap and things to say. However, I am interested in sharing stories and hearing each other's life experiences.

Thank you all!

 

[Maury]

so, they would admit the white wives into the bar, but not the husbands?

damn, i wish i knew what happened there.

There were fights over the big black bouncer refusing admission to white men. Some white guys tried to ******* their way in. There were stories in the news about these confrontations, but they did not give the full details about how the white guys had been denied access. I bet those who watched from the TV in the other lounge got quite a show of the black men with the women.

 

[dickhurtz472]

There were fights over the big black bouncer refusing admission to white men. Some white guys tried to ******* their way in. There were stories in the news about these confrontations, but they did not give the full details about how the white guys had been denied access. I bet those who watched from the TV in the other lounge got quite a show of the black men with the women.

more than likely. did you know anybody that went there?

 

[BBCRDUraleigh]

Welcome to the lifestyle bro! I'm 47 and been been in the lifestyle for at least 13 years. Been to lots of private lifestyle parties over the years.

Be presentable and dress casually smooth looking good and smelling good. Make sure you are well groomed from the hair cut to trimmed man areas. As long as you are visually appealing and attractive that is definitely a huge door opener and cuts your work of getting to know some women in half. Meaning if you are hot looking and hung they're fuckin! Trust me alot can by bypass a potential playmate who's a knucklehead or has an attitude as long as they got the goods, but nothing works better than good old fashion charm and being a well spoken smooth gentleman!

The best thing about parties is the potential for making connections and networking! If you fuck one woman in a room full of people and you drive her crazy and get her off good in front of everyone then every woman in that room is gonna want that same good dick! Most of them will definitely want a turn and some will even get your info so they can hook up with you in private. Most of the parties I have attended I probably banged every woman at the party every time.

Keep in mind people who throw private lifestyle parties tend to fill their guest list with people who are as attractive as they are. At least that has always been my experience here in Southern California.

Always be friendly and smiling and a gentleman. Always ask first especially if you are not sure! For example: you are at a party and you have already played with a few women and you see a woman and she is playing with 3 other guys and she absolutely looks like she is enjoying all the attention. Her hubby is right next to the bed watching and taking pictures. You want to join and give her a 4th cock to play with but you are not sure if it's cool or not? Get hubby's attention and say "may I join"? Nine times out of ten they will be generous and say yes! Most probably wouldn't even object if you joined without asking but as a veteran bull in the game and a gentleman I advise you to always ask!

Also if you like a hotwife that you see and you want to play with her at a later time then ask her for her contacts info. Out of respect if she is clearly married or has a boyfriend always refer to them both and never make her man feel like you are trying to cut him out of the picture. Basically say "hey I would love to hook up with you guys in a more private setting for fun how can I contact you and chat with you"?

As far as performance goes always come with your A game bro! If you come with a limp dick trust me they will be nice but sorely disappointed and every other bull or young stud they meet will hear about is as one of their most disappointing experiences! They love the excitement and the young energy and stamina of young guys. Quick recovery but young guys don't tend to focus enough on making sure everything that they are doing is pleasurable to the woman. Don't just be energetically pounding away trying to get your nut off! Actually make sure you are making her cum as well and you will get that repeat invite.

Ok hope this advice helps. If you have any questions just message me. I always willing to put someone up on game! Have fun!

well said!

 

[Normalwhiteguy]

That's perfect. I certainly hope I didn't imply that I resent people who hope to explore cuckoldry with their partners one day, but haven't made the leap yet. Good on you for being honest about your situation, and on behalf of both Jemma and myself, we wish you and your wife happiness and the very best of luck, regardless of what fantasies the two of you decide to explore together.

When I mentioned "wannabes," I wasn't directing any judgment towards those in the haven't-yet-but-who-knows-what-the-future-holds category. The ones I think are making it difficult for real people to be taken seriously are those who probably aren't in relationships at all, and misinform everyone that will read their ridiculous fantasy posts about what cuckolds are supposedly like. I'm sure you know the posts I'm talking about. The ones who say things like:

"All white men should have their dicks in cages and their wives should keep them pussy-free, all white women should be black bred and have as many black babies (**cough** medically impossible **cough**) as they can, black men should never wear condoms, white husbands will all gradually learn their place and their sex lives will become sucking and getting fucked by black men (as if all black men want to fuck middle-aged, out-of-shape, caged, married white men whose wives won't even touch them), because the Black New World Order is coming!" And so forth.

Anyone is free to have whatever fantasies they enjoy, and more power to any couple who decides to adopt any of those ideas, if that's what works for them and their relationship. But I really wish this wholesale characterization of all cuckolds would stop. We're being painted as deceptive creeps, who don't understand basic and essential lifestyle concepts like consent, who have no self control around black men, no self-worth and no redeeming value to our life partners, and have either been converted to BBC obsessed gay cumdumps, or will be soon.

In real life, cuckolds are extremely loving, generous, supportive partners. They may or may not be into bi situations, but their focus isn't white men becoming obsessed with black cock. It's: "I am so very blessed to have a partner like my amazing, sexy Goddess of a wife! What can I do today that will bring her joy, give her pleasure, make her proud, add to her comfort, or let her know that she is loved and supported?" How that became something seen as gross and creepy, or the source of a perceived problem on sites like this, is a truly sad state of affairs. Obviously, cuckoldry isn't for everyone, but even if you take away the sexual elements, every cuck I know is a model husband that any woman would be lucky to have.

Very nicely said. I've felt the same way about this for a long time.

 

[JohnEE]

Hi everyone,

I'm pretty new to this lifestyle, started last summer with a couple around my age (20s). However, for a while I always wanted to date older women, which I started to do since last Fall, but I've never interacted with an older couple, especially a hotwife and her husband in this lifestyle.

I am planning on going to my first ever swingers party next month. How do I properly interact with older hotwives and their husbands? I'm assuming I interact with the upmost integrity, fun, and respect just like any other couple. I'm just a bit worried about the generation gap and things to say. However, I am interested in sharing stories and hearing each other's life experiences.

Thank you all!

I think you are on the right path with the right attitude .. be clean and respectful, show interest.. in both the wife(s) and husband(s) and everything will work out fine... you , and they, will have a great time!

 

[TheMachinexxx]

Welcome to the lifestyle bro! I'm 47 and been been in the lifestyle for at least 13 years. Been to lots of private lifestyle parties over the years.

Be presentable and dress casually smooth looking good and smelling good. Make sure you are well groomed from the hair cut to trimmed man areas. As long as you are visually appealing and attractive that is definitely a huge door opener and cuts your work of getting to know some women in half. Meaning if you are hot looking and hung they're fuckin! Trust me alot can by bypass a potential playmate who's a knucklehead or has an attitude as long as they got the goods, but nothing works better than good old fashion charm and being a well spoken smooth gentleman!

The best thing about parties is the potential for making connections and networking! If you fuck one woman in a room full of people and you drive her crazy and get her off good in front of everyone then every woman in that room is gonna want that same good dick! Most of them will definitely want a turn and some will even get your info so they can hook up with you in private. Most of the parties I have attended I probably banged every woman at the party every time.

Keep in mind people who throw private lifestyle parties tend to fill their guest list with people who are as attractive as they are. At least that has always been my experience here in Southern California.

Always be friendly and smiling and a gentleman. Always ask first especially if you are not sure! For example: you are at a party and you have already played with a few women and you see a woman and she is playing with 3 other guys and she absolutely looks like she is enjoying all the attention. Her hubby is right next to the bed watching and taking pictures. You want to join and give her a 4th cock to play with but you are not sure if it's cool or not? Get hubby's attention and say "may I join"? Nine times out of ten they will be generous and say yes! Most probably wouldn't even object if you joined without asking but as a veteran bull in the game and a gentleman I advise you to always ask!

Also if you like a hotwife that you see and you want to play with her at a later time then ask her for her contacts info. Out of respect if she is clearly married or has a boyfriend always refer to them both and never make her man feel like you are trying to cut him out of the picture. Basically say "hey I would love to hook up with you guys in a more private setting for fun how can I contact you and chat with you"?

As far as performance goes always come with your A game bro! If you come with a limp dick trust me they will be nice but sorely disappointed and every other bull or young stud they meet will hear about is as one of their most disappointing experiences! They love the excitement and the young energy and stamina of young guys. Quick recovery but young guys don't tend to focus enough on making sure everything that they are doing is pleasurable to the woman. Don't just be energetically pounding away trying to get your nut off! Actually make sure you are making her cum as well and you will get that repeat invite.

Ok hope this advice helps. If you have any questions just message me. I always willing to put someone up on game! Have fun!

This is the answer. Give pleasure and recieve pleasure!! Sex is food.

 

[JohnEE]

Hi everyone,

I'm pretty new to this lifestyle, started last summer with a couple around my age (20s). However, for a while I always wanted to date older women, which I started to do since last Fall, but I've never interacted with an older couple, especially a hotwife and her husband in this lifestyle.

I am planning on going to my first ever swingers party next month. How do I properly interact with older hotwives and their husbands? I'm assuming I interact with the upmost integrity, fun, and respect just like any other couple. I'm just a bit worried about the generation gap and things to say. However, I am interested in sharing stories and hearing each other's life experiences.

Thank you all!

Be respectful! .. show interest in the ladies.. AND their husbands! If you are a genuine nice guys, and look after your body, you should do fine!