I definitely do enjoy her. Just trying to keep it fresh.
I think you know what you need to do, but for some reason you are "avoiding" it. I have this occur with a lot of husbands, they dont want to face the music, because the issue is them and they dont want to deal with that. Your wife will do what you want, but "do you really want that?"
You have to be careful what you wish for. And I honestly think the fantasy is more "hot" to you than the reality. You have been lucky so far that your wife hasn't said,"ok im into this"
I had a couple in 2019 that the husband "agreed" that his wife could be the slut she wanted to be. She wanted sex daily. The husband could not meet that demand. So she kept begging and begging him. He originally got her into swinging and used to take her to sex clubs, and then that stopped after they had their 1st baby. Her sex drive didnt stop, but his "interest" stopped.
When she met me, the husband became very afraid, he was faced with the reality, "what did I just do?"
It's Pandora's box. If your wife embraces this, she doesnt need you as much, yes your role sexually will be diminished and I dont think you want that. Not really!! Am I right?
The problem you are having right now is that you are "forsing your wife" I know you dont see it because its not overt. Its subtle. You are using your wife to fulfill your "porn" fantasy. your wife has clearly shown you she has zero interest in being a porn star for you. I dont blame her, its not a fun role for women, its completely degrading and negative. If you can't see that, then you need to work on your own issues. If you love your wife, then just talk to her and stop telling her your fantasies, at this point, she knows...she is probably like "OMG, AGAIN!????"
You are acting like a baby. a literal baby. Grow up, treat your wife with some love and respect and let her do her own fantasies. If you have trouble with that, let me know, Like I said, I have helped many couples build better lines of communication, but you are "stuck" in one position and cant seem to get out of it.