bound2bmine
Male
Excellent advice.
Wife moved out
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I agree with CVilleJoe on this. If she left you and moved out then it's time to start accepting the reality. She has moved on emotionally, or at least has enough to consider leaving you. Sorry buddy; tough luck.
N2wfsn2bbc
Male
Damn, that really sucks. But it is a possible outcome in the lifestyle. Ex left me for a black man while I was deployed. The thing that really sucked was that I never got to see them together. She had not made the move before I left, but I let her know I was okay with it. She got his dick in her and her words, "never knew sex could be that good." He was her first black cock, and he obviously did things to her I never could. So after about a year of fucking him exclusively, she couldn't go back to my little white dick. She's since moved on from him, but she's pretty much exclusive to black now.
I am sorry for your loss. But we sometimes get more than we bargained for in this life.
Although it is hard to determine what is real and what is fantasy on the Internet and, of course, advice posted on line is worth what you have paid for it...
That being said, we question what kind of a relationship you have with your wife. To us, people in a solid and caring relationship would at a minimum have discussed this step and agreed together on the course of action to take. From what you said your wife unilaterally decided she was going to move out and become a cum slut for a couple of black guys. No discussion, no 'what do you think hubby', nothing. Just "I am moving out and hope you have fun jacking off."
Furthermore, your wife again unilaterally decided that she wanted to communicate only by text. Again, no discussion, no what do you think, no are you OK with that.
So our question is what is your relationship based on other than you being a wimp cuck who takes whatever his wife feels like dishing out?
That being said, we question what kind of a relationship you have with your wife. To us, people in a solid and caring relationship would at a minimum have discussed this step and agreed together on the course of action to take. From what you said your wife unilaterally decided she was going to move out and become a cum slut for a couple of black guys. No discussion, no 'what do you think hubby', nothing. Just "I am moving out and hope you have fun jacking off."
Furthermore, your wife again unilaterally decided that she wanted to communicate only by text. Again, no discussion, no what do you think, no are you OK with that.
So our question is what is your relationship based on other than you being a wimp cuck who takes whatever his wife feels like dishing out?
OH that's so sad to hear, only way you can go about it is to take it in the stride and move ahead with your life. Cut your losses and firm up your finances, in case she comes with a divorce suit.
James Buck
Male
wife is a tramp better off for you
hotcouple2233
Couple
Regardless of fantasy or reality this is a great opportunity for EVERYONE to do a bit of a gut check, including the OP.
My first wife was a disaster. Marriage was vanilla.
I wanted kink to be part of my life & as I took time to digest kink, lifestyle & relationship issues before my current marriage, I kept having Robert Dinero's line from that movie 'Heat' go through my head:
About being ready to drop everything & leave within 30 seconds if you feel the "Heat" around the corner.
I thought that, at the end of the day, such a mindset was ultimately necessary to have in the pursuit of a "kinky" relationship.
That is, if my partner ever stopped making my needs a priority, after all reasonable accomodations, then no matter my love, feelings, legal entanglements or hit to standard of living it would be time to up & go "in 30 seconds" because you get one life & it's short.
At first I thought that is the commitment I would need to make to myself to have a successful "kinky" relationship.
I realized later I was wrong:
That's the commitment you must make to yourself to have ANY successful relationship. Period.
I don't use that to hold my relationship hostage or try to get my way, like some Sword of Damocles. We're adults not insolent teenagers.
But having a marriage where both parties choose to be in it, choose to work at it and work together for all things "kink" & "vanilla" is a very different thing.
If your Wife simply needed a break that is something you two needed to discuss like ADULTS and if agreement is reached it's reached TOGETHER!
Your Wife chose to leave. She will probably regret that later.
But now the choice is yours.
My first wife was a disaster. Marriage was vanilla.
I wanted kink to be part of my life & as I took time to digest kink, lifestyle & relationship issues before my current marriage, I kept having Robert Dinero's line from that movie 'Heat' go through my head:
About being ready to drop everything & leave within 30 seconds if you feel the "Heat" around the corner.
I thought that, at the end of the day, such a mindset was ultimately necessary to have in the pursuit of a "kinky" relationship.
That is, if my partner ever stopped making my needs a priority, after all reasonable accomodations, then no matter my love, feelings, legal entanglements or hit to standard of living it would be time to up & go "in 30 seconds" because you get one life & it's short.
At first I thought that is the commitment I would need to make to myself to have a successful "kinky" relationship.
I realized later I was wrong:
That's the commitment you must make to yourself to have ANY successful relationship. Period.
I don't use that to hold my relationship hostage or try to get my way, like some Sword of Damocles. We're adults not insolent teenagers.
But having a marriage where both parties choose to be in it, choose to work at it and work together for all things "kink" & "vanilla" is a very different thing.
If your Wife simply needed a break that is something you two needed to discuss like ADULTS and if agreement is reached it's reached TOGETHER!
Your Wife chose to leave. She will probably regret that later.
But now the choice is yours.
Before we had *******, my wife had left me three times for other guys. Each one was a fuckbuddy of hers and sex was apparently much better than with me. I did keep supporting her financially and eventually after a few months she came back every time. The longest she was ever gone was about 8 months.
Now that we have *******, she does not do that anymore, but I do make sure that she and her lovers have a good time and I do not mind one bit. I am perfectly fine with my cuckold life, but as they say, YMMV.
Now that we have *******, she does not do that anymore, but I do make sure that she and her lovers have a good time and I do not mind one bit. I am perfectly fine with my cuckold life, but as they say, YMMV.
hotcouple2233
Couple
I'm truly glad that things worked out for you & your wife and I do not want to belittle what you have built but imho that type of behavior is a dangerous example for anyone else to follow.
That is a classic enabling/co-dependent relationship more than one based on mutual respect and love.
There's a huge difference between "submissive" & "co-dependent".
We Humans are complex creatures but if you ever wonder why it seems so many wives in this "lifestyle" say 'they love their husbands but have lost respect for them' look no further.
It's because the Wives learn, through the Husband's actions, they can walk all over him, break any rule they themselves voluntarily agree to, leave & come back (or not) and that they will pay zero consequence for their actions.
You can "love" a person who let's you get away with that ******* but you can't respect them.
hotcouple2233
Couple
Is she your Wife or his Girlfriend l?
She should have brought this to you & it should have been discussed between you and her. Period.
Lay out that all this should have been brought up & discussed between you & her first before anyone else's opinion was heard and no action should have been taken before you two came to an understanding & agreement.
If you are open to such an arrangement in the future fine, but only on terms FIRST defined in the marriage and not unilaterally changed.
I'd finish with if your wife wants to continue as your wife she leaves with you and comes home so you guys can work that ******* out as a couple. If she stays I'd begin the process of divorce.
Its understandable that you feel hurt by the way she has acted but just try to keep calm and discuss things rationally.
Good luck.
hotcouple2233
Couple
"Rational discussion" should have taken place LONG before.
The Wife is in the wrong. She's an adult. No excuses.
As an olive branch I'd tell her & the 3rd that (if there was a chance I'd be open to such an arrangement) that this is not a 'No' BUT that it CANNOT happen like this.
First she needs to come home.
Second we need to work it out between us first.
Only after those conditions are met will we coordinate with "Max" and WE will let HIM know what the arrangement is going to be.
Be. Your. Wife's. Husband.
The Wife is in the wrong. She's an adult. No excuses.
As an olive branch I'd tell her & the 3rd that (if there was a chance I'd be open to such an arrangement) that this is not a 'No' BUT that it CANNOT happen like this.
First she needs to come home.
Second we need to work it out between us first.
Only after those conditions are met will we coordinate with "Max" and WE will let HIM know what the arrangement is going to be.
Be. Your. Wife's. Husband.
hotcouple2233
Couple
Your encouragement doesn't absolve her of her responsibility.
I'm sure you never encouraged her to lie (which she did by not discussing with you first) or exclude you from major decisions which affect you, her and your marriage.
Ask yourself this: What would be HER reaction if you were the one to, unilaterally and with out ANY of her input/consent, decide to completely change the rules of your relationship & arrangement?
What would she do? How would she react?
It's not unreasonable to tell her that things like THIS can't happen without your input & consent.
She needs to come home first and you two need to work this out together.
If you stick to that she will learn she needs to respect her marriage. Her BF will learn HE needs to respect your marriage.
Otherwise what's the point?
hotcouple2233
Couple
Best wishes & Good luck.
(There really is no excuse for this type of *******.)
I hope you are strong, bold & stick up for your marriage.
(There really is no excuse for this type of *******.)
I hope you are strong, bold & stick up for your marriage.
....Max has already proven his point ... he has control of your wife, not you. In a real marriage, any discussions & agreements should be between your wife and you, and Max accepts the terms or disappears. By your meeting him, he's showing YOU that he controls you, too, and he can tell his friends he "OWNS" you guys. Guys like Max, take what they want, when they want, and care little for anyone but themselves. Maybe its a deep seeded hate or reparation against white people, who knows, but he IS taking control of your marriage, what's left of it.
If you're even capable of turning Max down and having your own conversation with your wife, if she should balk, you should walk ... you can talk that rhyme crap to, when you have to, too!
ps ... and don't tell her anything IF you do walk. Pack up your stuff, and THEN file for separation & divorce. She'll get the message when the Sheriff visits her to sign the papers. Otherwise, you'll have to listen to more of Max's
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It's good that you are going. Clearly, it needs to be established that your wife is HIS woman. But it sounds like he is letting you be a partner in the relationship and that is great. Please report back what he has to say.
Clearly, it needs to be established that he needs to ditch the bitch.
So what happened last night?
