for me it's situational, you get a feel for where the cuck is at, and then gently push the limitations, he might like being humiliated but he has to feel safe while it is happening...be can't actually be taken for a fool or a gimp, but he can release control and allow himself to be humiliated as part of the act. Having the hubby know and participate, even as an absent partner, is hot, otherwise its an affair and not a cuck situation. I enjoy the cuck watching, and I enjoy the power of not letting him watch, but importantly its about reading the couple and playing to their darkest taboo's and needs, not about being a bully or arsehole for real..Play act, not not for real...dynamics goes very wrong if the cuck genuinely isnt into it.