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What makes a genuine QoS?
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Yes that is certainly your opinion, but thank you for explaining exactly why the term has changed from the basic preference meaning to something more substantive. Just as the cuck term has taken on new meaning, so has QoS. As I have argued previously in this thread, the fact that the word Queen is used suggests there is some amount of preeminence in regard to the specific lifestyle. Whether that was the original concept for the term is irrelevant. A title such as queen implies status earned through experience and based on merit. The majority of people agree that simply applying a temp tattoo and having sex with one or two black guys does not make a woman a QOS within the most modern context of the term. It’s the job of all of us real Queens to not allow basic snowbunnies to be recognized as something equivalent to a proper QoS. It’s insulting to us Queens. It’d be like calling any woman that puts a cock in her mouth a throat goat. It diminishes the ability and effort of the women that can deep throat huge cocks (and that’s certainly not me, which is why I don’t claim to be one). Also worth considering is that real Queens flaunt their status to the public, so a Queen of Spades should as well. Which is why that aspect of being a QOS seems an important qualifier to me. In the end, it’s better for everyone if the term requires more to qualify because then it means more for those that are, those that are looking to become, or those that worship.Thanks for your response.
Is it legitimate to discuss lifestyle roles and their meanings? Of course it is! But i see a big difference between terms like the "cuckold" and the "QoS".
What people think a cuckold is has developed recently. About 15 to 20 years ago you would find many references in different forums and the greatest consensus would be a man who shares his woman with other men, and a majority would add, and has a voyeuristic inclination of watching his wife or girlfriend with other men. Only a little more than a decade later we find that many people associate the cuckold role with being submissive and/or into humiliation of some sort, perhaps including sissification (which are all actually different flavors), and/or would have a preference for Black men as "third players" and perhaps even gay tendencies. It was the birth of the "Stag" as a term for all of those "former cucks" who didn't see themselves in the role of what the cuckold has become in many people's eyes.
Where i see the difference to the QoS is that cuckolding (as a sexual lifestyle) has been existing for many decades if not centuries without a known definition or source. The QoS on the other hand has been invented about a decade (or a bit more?) ago by three people (Kayla, Greg and Sheryl) who gave a definition of what it's supposed to mean! And the original definition i can remember said "a sign for women with a sexual preference for black men" and it was intended a symbol to show that preference and hence make initial conversation and contact easier between women and men of their preference who also know the meaning of that symbol. It's easy as that. It never said "exclusiveness", nor did it say "slut" or how many men in what period of time would be required for a Woman to be rightfully called a QoS.
Even though i appreciate your idea of what it means in your opinion that may describe yourself best, it definitely does not describe every other Woman well who also wears that title proudly and may have a different opinion or definition of herself. ImO in the most general sense the QoS means what the original inventors defined when it was first made available to a public audience, and not what every individual person else thinks it is in their own personal opinions. - Just my (hopefully valuable) thoughts about the subject matter added.
Thank you again @QOShotwifeDFW for YOUR OPINION on the subject. You have yours and others have their own, perhaps different ones.
The point is it is not yours nor mine to decide for every QoS Woman out there what the "true" meaning of the QoS would be. Those who claim the title for themselves already know what it means to them. There are many Women who decided to be a QoS based on the original definition given by those who invented the symbol and first promoted it. And those who've been part of the lifestyle from the very beginning cannot rightfully be excluded just because one, or maybe a few, QoS has a different idea in mind.
Trying to alter the meaning would only lead to confusion, misunderstandings and probably a movement of Women having their QoS tattoos removed because they do not want to be assigned attributes they initially had not in mind, just like M. V. B. did. (She is perhaps the only celebrity who is not a "porn star" who had a permanent original design QoS tattoo prominent on her right leg.)
The point is it is not yours nor mine to decide for every QoS Woman out there what the "true" meaning of the QoS would be. Those who claim the title for themselves already know what it means to them. There are many Women who decided to be a QoS based on the original definition given by those who invented the symbol and first promoted it. And those who've been part of the lifestyle from the very beginning cannot rightfully be excluded just because one, or maybe a few, QoS has a different idea in mind.
Trying to alter the meaning would only lead to confusion, misunderstandings and probably a movement of Women having their QoS tattoos removed because they do not want to be assigned attributes they initially had not in mind, just like M. V. B. did.
(She is perhaps the only celebrity who is not a "porn star" who had a permanent original design QoS tattoo prominent on her right leg.)
Definitions take on new meaning. Just because you disagree with me doesn’t mean you’re correct and I am wrong. Popular opinion says that I’m right and you’re wrong. Stop defending the posers and weekend warriors. I and the other true Queens own the term now and those that support and serve us create the consensus that we are the true Queens. It’s time to stop trying to mansplain this one. Congratulations on being a QOS historian though.Thank you again @QOShotwifeDFW for YOUR OPINION on the subject. You have yours and others have their own, perhaps different ones.
The point is it is not yours nor mine to decide for every QoS Woman out there what the "true" meaning of the QoS would be. Those who claim the title for themselves already know what it means to them. There are many Women who decided to be a QoS based on the original definition given by those who invented the symbol and first promoted it. And those who've been part of the lifestyle from the very beginning cannot rightfully be excluded just because one, or maybe a few, QoS has a different idea in mind.
Trying to alter the meaning would only lead to confusion, misunderstandings and probably a movement of Women having their QoS tattoos removed because they do not want to be assigned attributes they initially had not in mind, just like M. V. B. did.
Definitions won't take on the meaning that you intend or desire just because you wish for it. Everybody can make up a thread in any forum or website with their idea what a symbol or lifestyle should mean in their opinion. In that manner a term can be deviated into hundreds of different branches, ideas or "meanings" with the effect that they don't mean anyhing at all anymore because they will be lacking consensus which is the opposite of a clear definition.Definitions take on new meaning. Just because you disagree with me doesn’t mean you’re correct and I am wrong. Popular opinion says that I’m right and you’re wrong. Stop defending the posers and weekend warriors. I and the other true Queens own the term now and those that support and serve us create the consensus that we are the true Queens. It’s time to stop trying to mansplain this one. Congratulations on being a QOS historian though.
So before you start messing with a well-defined term better create your own! When you say a "true" QoS would in your opinion be something special you have in mind then why not simply call it "TQoS" for instance ("True" Queen of the Spades suit) instead of reinterpreting the "plain" QoS which is already well-defined and out there for more than a decade?
Your complaining about "mansplaining" is ridiculous. Do you feel like speaking on behalf of every Woman just because you are one? Would you be upset when you find out not too many other Women share your opinion? At the same time you say, "Popular opinion says..." - based on what? The poll you added to this thread? - Ridiculous! We implicitly know that approximately 90% of the voters in that poll are male, white and lost in their sexual kink fantasy or fetish... so much for your "mansplaining" argument.
I’m curious why you’re so butt hurt over the fact that the term has clearly taken on the meaning I and the majority of people subscribe to? And yes, I say the majority because that’s what my polls and my experiences outside of this site have indicated. I do find it hilarious that you accuse me of speaking on behalf of all women and then immediately discount the votes made on my poll because “it’s just a bunch of white guys lost in their fetish”. You are truly ridiculous and not even verified. 
Gee, are you sure you couldn’t come up with just a few more scenarios? My wife has sex with black men every other Tuesday, and alternating Friday’s, even numbered days, excluding leap year.
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What I wear has nothing to do with it. It’s who I have sex with
So ur hubby gets everything in the relationship except sex. That sounds amazing. I'm a wanna be cuck and I'm small anyway. Black Men know how to sexually satisfy women
Amen, that answers the thread question. I personally like the look of the QOS logo and QOS attire but not totally necessary.
I am sure you are very enjoyable. Granted if one does wear the QoS or JoS logo of any form it allows the black men whom know what it is the opportunity to engage. It’s challenging to know exactly if a women/couple is interested at first glance
I was owned by a QOS a few years ago. She would only have sex with BBC. You would only know by her online profile
I’m sorry but merely having a sexual preference for black men does not a QOS make. It seems like younger people tend to have a better idea of what it means. Most of my playmates under 40 are always very excited to experience a QOS since they know that real Queens are exceptionally rare. I’m guessing it has something to do with their use of social media. The consensus remains that a QOS goes out of her way to have sex with lots of black men, which tends to mean advertising that desire with clothing, jewelry, and tattoos. I’m not saying they are required, but as a QOS I know they help achieve the end goal so it certainly increases a Queen’s profile and legitimacy if she is actually hooking up with several black guys each week. It’s funny how many people get hung up on the clothing and tattoos aspect when it’s the actions of a Queen that matter the most.
You don't get to define your own definition of something that is well known and documented. Wiki, Urban Dictionary and every other source simply say "a woman with a sexual preference for black men". Even sex therapists use the same definition.
It’s not just my definition though, as evident in the poll results. Thank you for referencing urban dictionary and Wikipedia together though.
