My wife feels the same way you do Pam. When we were newly engaged, she had her very first black bull in our Boston hotel room. We both asked him to wear a condom. He wore a condom for the first few minutes of stretching her pussy wider and deeper than anything she ever experienced in her entire life. She was in multi-orgasmic heaven.
Suddenly he pulled out and ripped off his condom. He insisted on going bareback or he would leave our hotel room. When I started to object, my Fiance told me to shut up because it was her decision, not mine. She quickly agreed to let her new black bull to go bareback, even though she was not on any form of birth control.
It was my wake up call as a cuckold Fiancé and I grew to love and accept my new role in our relationship.