Interesting. I will never fault anyone for developing their own rules and boundaries on here. I have my own and they all have good reasons. Let's take a look at yours and how I view them as the female half of a couple.
1."Sending old pics… of you, when you were younger." This one doesn't make a lot of sense. If I send you a pic of me when I am younger, it will be a pic of an actual photo, or I will have to scan it. Cell phones have not been around that long. That makes you sound very young.
2. "No pics or vids in media.". This one isn't a hard limit because most people need some level of discretion, and I am not here to be your free pornstar.
3. "Pursuing (me) someone, then disappear after a day or two with no reason." No reason? I try to be polite but my world doesn't revolve around this site or any other site. I have a life and I don't always need to tell others that I am going to be away with my family and out of contact.
4. "Unaware wives w/ cucks!" This I agree with. Far too often the women don't know and are not involved.
5. "Afraid to exchange numbers!" Agree to a point. I had a guy that I gave my cell number to become a stalker. Now for safety I give out my husband's cell number and if you want to talk to me I will do it on his phone. Don't just randomly call my husband either, that will not go well for you. Arrange a phone call in advance. If you don't like that then fuck off because my safety is more important than your feelings.
6. "Afraid to meet in public (dating), around people!" This is one I don't agree. We are swingers but no one in our town knows. I am not dating you. If you come here for play we will meet you for drinks or dinner. No flirting or messing around in public. We have to be discreet. Never ever cross this boundary.
7. "Afraid to be real with who you are on a site where all kinky, sex freaks hang." To a point. As a woman I can tell you that I get very tired of men that are obvoiusly not looking to meet and are only looking to jerkoff. I am not here to be your free fetish dispenser.
8. "Making irrelevant excuses to why meeting and greeting can’t happen passed this site." We arrange meets all the time with men that travel here to Montana. I always say let me know what times work for you and I will let you know if we are available.
9. "Asking the same question, but in a different way." I am not sure what you mean by this. If I ask a question, I would like it answered.
10. "Letting weeks, months to years go by getting to know someone and not even meet and greet! And constantly saying that you will." This works on both ends.
11. "Underaged cuckolding.: Agreed, and family. Although I have a regular that we have played with for years and last week he said he has grown curious about mom-in-law role plays and is curious if I would do that with him. I am still thinking about that.
As for my red flags. As far as looking for fakes go, I don't talk about that with other people, I am not going to put the information out there for fakes to read and find new tactics. I've put a lot of time in my life into this, you can do the same.
People on BtoW live and swear by verification.
