Very Mixed Feelings!

[RJLM]

Overview, I’m still pretty new to this and haven’t shared my girlfriend yet. She is very sexual and sensual, she’s spiritual and loves that element of sex as well. We have awesome sex together but do a long distance relationship (until I move in probably a year) so we only see each other every month or two but when we do it’s amazing, sex and everything else. However the cuckolding talk has come up and I have very mixed feelings!

Like I said she’s a very sexual and spiritual girl, she believes in chakras and energies and sex being a huge part of healing them/opening them etc. She jerks off a lot, but I know she craves the real deal more often than what we can currently do together. We are head over heels in love and she will wait till the end for me to move in with her but I still feel bad about it.

I had a snoop on her technology when I went to visit after a few months of dating (I know I should have done this) and her laptop was clean but her iPad was her porn device and I noticed it wasn’t all BBC porn but the majority of it was, she has a very definite fantasy of a slightly older hung back man for sure (she’s 26 for reference). I don’t blame her at all, BBC porn is hot and I jerk off to it too sometimes but I never mentioned anything.

Fast forward to the last time I visited (3 weeks before I’m writing this) and on a night out we go to a strip club, I’ve been a few times with free but it’s her first time and she loves it! Wants to stay longer than I do and keeps saying how hot the girls are etc. that night in the hotel room she dances and strips for me (she’s an amazing dancer) and we have incredibly hot sex to a role play where she’s a stripper who fucks the clientele. I start to realize that her fucking other men is a really present fantasy for her and the role play is so hot it makes me start to fantasize a little about it!

Since that trip I’ve not been able to get it out of my head and I’ve started masturbating to cuckold porn and it has completely unlocked my favorite fetish I didn’t know I had! It has to be BBC cuckold though, white cuckold just doesn’t do it for me for some reason? Maybe because I see myself as equal to them or something. We continue to do the hot roleplay where she is shared with other men when we have facetime sex, and when I was horny, I was super nervous but I revealed that I’d be really turned on by watching her have sex with black men and she’s very shocked but roles with our horny talk and we make each other cum talking about a cuckolding scenario, literally could not have gone better!

Now here comes the mixed feelings part though, several months ago we both said the other could have one “hall pass” to have sex with whoever they want guilt free if the opportunity arose, we both briefly spoke about celebrities or whatever and I didn’t think too much of it not thinking it would happen. She brings it up again the other day, saying would we ever use it for normal people in life, not just celebrities? I kind of dodged it because I was nervous and didn’t know what to say but I know exactly who she wants.

She works in a restaurant as a server and there is a guy who comes in for breakfast sometimes and occasionally just for a *******, he’s about 6 feet tall, black, she says he’s 41 but he looks younger I think personally, not shredded but in decent shape, very charismatic and charming, all the girls at her work swoon over him, she denies she has a crush on him as well but I’ve seen her and her friends talk on their group chat. This guy hits on her all the time, she says they just joke and rip into each other but it’s so blatant.

I know she wants to fuck him, and In theory I’d absolutely love that for her and would hopefully watch! But in practice I don’t know if I’d like it or if I’d get overtaken with jelousy? I think I worry about the aftermath as well, like if she ended up falling for him or leaving me for him or just to enjoy more guys? We have a deep love and I’m confident in saying sex life is amazing for both of us but she clearly does want to enjoy some BBC and I have strong fantasies of her doing it as well.

I’m 6’2, below average cock, decent looking, good shape but I’m under no illusion that I’m anywhere near a Black Alpha, so yeah I’m just worried after he gives her the sex of her life she won’t be mine anymore, I really don’t know which way to go with this.

Anyone who’s had a similar situation please share!

 

[Welder1994]

Hmm dont do nothing ,when u star living with her than say to her she can do something
So you can see everyting if she talk with him on the pfone and messeges as well

 

[RJLM]

Hmm dont do nothing ,when u star living with her than say to her she can do something
So you can see everyting if she talk with him on the pfone and messeges as well

Thanks man, I said to another guy who DMed me, I’m worried about losing our current sex life which is awesome, I make her cum really good and I worry she will only get that high from bbc after she’s enjoyed a black bull. But if I’m up there and we still have good regular sex it will be less likely for that to happen I imagine?

 

[Welder1994]

Thanks man, I said to another guy who DMed me, I’m worried about losing our current sex life which is awesome, I make her cum really good and I worry she will only get that high from bbc after she’s enjoyed a black bull. But if I’m up there and we still have good regular sex it will be less likely for that to happen I imagine?

If she pushing to see with him then 100% she have some fellings to him
Be carefull

 

[SharonSM]

Take the hall pass off the table, and make it a mutual agreement with what you expect and she expects. Hall pass leads to things out of your control and you don't want that. You should agree on what is acceptable and not. Honesty is a must in these situations or it becomes a splintered relationship. Communication is the best way to go about this.

 

[RJLM]

Take the hall pass off the table, and make it a mutual agreement with what you expect and she expects. Hall pass leads to things out of your control and you don't want that. You should agree on what is acceptable and not. Honesty is a must in these situations or it becomes a splintered relationship. Communication is the best way to go about this.

Yeah I didn’t say yes to the hall pass, I just avoided it because I wasn’t sure but it’s definitely not the way. I think she might be kind of struggling on how to bring up the whole that because the hall pass talk was a jokey conversation ages ago initially. Like someone else mentioned I’d like to be up there living with her first, and then have an in person talk about it, and I’d like to meet the bull (potentially this guy). Nothing against this guy by the way, would be a super hot bull for her but yeah I think I just need to be open and honest and tell her I’m a bit insecure about it but want it to happen.

 

[Rob Johnson]

Yeah I didn’t say yes to the hall pass, I just avoided it because I wasn’t sure but it’s definitely not the way. I think she might be kind of struggling on how to bring up the whole that because the hall pass talk was a jokey conversation ages ago initially. Like someone else mentioned I’d like to be up there living with her first, and then have an in person talk about it, and I’d like to meet the bull (potentially this guy). Nothing against this guy by the way, would be a super hot bull for her but yeah I think I just need to be open and honest and tell her I’m a bit insecure about it but want it to happen.

I personally would suggest you move up first as she will need support before during and after.
I see a bit of a risk if this is done with distance between you.
I’d say “ let’s do this, but when I am about”

 

[RJLM]

I personally would suggest you move up first as she will need support before during and after.
I see a bit of a risk if this is done with distance between you.
I’d say “ let’s do this, but when I am about”

Yeah I think you’re right

 

[SharonSM]

Solid advice from the group. This woman could eventually be your life long partner and you don't want to miss out on an opportunity over something that you both can agree and enjoy! Best of luck.

 

[RJLM]

Thank you so much!

 

[Oldjj69]

Communication is the key. Maybe tell her next time you are out there to see her, you want to talk about the hall pass and the cuck and cuckold. You sound like a stage and her a vixen. See if you can set boundaries both agree on. What to do, not to do. Maybe you can watch, join in. Or hide and watch or get a spy camera and film them. If you don't try this now, you may regret it down the road. If it works, continue, if it doesn't work for both of you, talk it out again. Better to do it now and find out where you both stand. Not 20 years down the road.

 

[Stevens]

Wow, you found a great girl, RJLM! And I'm with Sharon - you are young and single and living in an age when women can express and enjoy their sexuality like never before. And it sounds like your girl is open to or at least will to explore some of your fantasies. Why not let her guide the sex in your relationship? That's the ultimate expression of trust, after all. It does come with risk however. That's part of the agony and ******* of our cuckolded status and in some ways marks a difference between simply sharing/threesomes/hotwifing and so on.

I'm at the other end of the age spectrum and would love to trade places with you! Seriously, being cuckolded can be exciting beyond belief, but to reach the status you seek with your girlfriend you have to be willing to give up a good deal of control in your sex life to your girlfriend or wife. Many guys have a tough time with that, it goes against what we've been taught. It also takes a special type of girl to make it all work, to help you fit it all into the rest of your lives. Once we are in a career and have started a family, there's never enough time! It sounds like you found the right girl.

 

[MacNfries]

Long distance love relationships simply don't work.
Long distance friendships can work, however.
While I was in college I dated a girl who was 8 years younger than me. Probably the most beautiful girl I ever dated to that point in my life. Our physical appearances made us appear a closer age match than our birthdays displayed. Her mom knew the age difference, however, but seemed to avoid interfering, which was good.
Both my roommates were jealous of my dating the girl, and both of their girlfriends didn't think she was old enough to be dating me. I think they were more jealous of their BFs looking at her.
Anyway, in my head I knew that once I graduated that it would be "long distance" but we both denied long distance would affect our relationship. Well, it did affect us and I took it the hardest, I guess. I should have listened to one of my roommates who said "when you graduate, break it off with her and let her fly free" ... I should have listened.

 

[FineLine]

Take the hall pass off the table, and make it a mutual agreement with what you expect and she expects. Hall pass leads to things out of your control and you don't want that. You should agree on what is acceptable and not. Honesty is a must in these situations or it becomes a splintered relationship. Communication is the best way to go about this.

When asked for honesty-what happens when they are called to be silent? And they do-all the way to the grave. Yet told over and over-"Be honest"-and you know if you were doing the right thing-you would knoiw the right thing to do. Yet when the spouse is sworn to secrecy-and though you understand this-I found myself rebelling in the face of secrecy. I was wrong absolutely. Yet what can somebody do about it?

 

[FineLine]

When asked for honesty-what happens when they are called to be silent? And they do-all the way to the grave. Yet told over and over-"Be honest"-and you know if you were doing the right thing-you would knoiw the right thing to do. Yet when the spouse is sworn to secrecy-and though you understand this-I found myself rebelling in the face of secrecy. I was wrong absolutely. Yet what can somebody do about it?

respect it-and him-for he is head of the house. is one correction I do easily find.

 

[DAVIDBRENDON]

Tough decision. She's beautiful. The hard part is she can do it behind your back with that long-distance relationship. I'd make sure she was mine and submissive to me first. Take care of that pussy. You don't need a big dick to do that. Fuck her like a beast. Then if you all explore having another man with you all she will have fun with it but will know you are number one.

 

[Loridan]

Married 25+ years.
Before I was married I did pretty good with the gals. I hooked up with many girls that a boyfriend they loved but fucked me on the side. One was a 20/yo, engaged, preachers *******...no kidding...where my grandma went to church, that's how I met her. She was very attractive, she was on the pill so she could have sex with her fiancee, parents didn't know of course. She stopped by my place after church many times. Week nights, weekend nights if her guy was working. I fucked her over 50 times I'd say. I never spent a dime on a date because we never went out.
Girls with steady boyfriends out of town....several. One gal, her guy was in the national guard, they lived together, one weekend a month she'd stay at my place.
3 different happily married women. Over a year steady with one. Different married, met her at church, many times with her.
If you're OK with her doing this I guarantee she will, probably will if you don't know.