You don’t need to waste your time with dildos. Any woman that is making those comments is already open to trying the real thing. This is coming from someone that never even made those kinds of comments prior to becoming a slut for black men.
And we know you're telling the complete transparent truthYou don’t need to waste your time with dildos. Any woman that is making those comments is already open to trying the real thing. This is coming from someone that never even made those kinds of comments prior to becoming a slut for black men. I know exactly
That's so hot and i appreciate your comment. And as much as i'd love to believe you're right (unfortunately) we all have to acknowledge that not every Woman is the same.You don’t need to waste your time with dildos. Any woman that is making those comments is already open to trying the real thing. This is coming from someone that never even made those kinds of comments prior to becoming a slut for black men.
Yea, but we’re all similar enough that if we’re making offhand references to “big black cock” like the OP is saying then there’s no way she is going to be apprehensive about getting the real thing as opposed to needing to “ease her into it” with a dildo. Here’s a newsflash, we don’t prefer dildos over the real thing.That's so hot and i appreciate your comment. And as much as i'd love to believe you're right (unfortunately) we all have to acknowledge that not every Woman is the same.
i'd definitely prefer you being right to you being wrong here, and as a fantasy i tend to believe you are correct. But in real life i am not fully convinced of your statement.Yea, but we’re all similar enough that if we’re making offhand references to “big black cock” like the OP is saying then there’s no way she is going to be apprehensive about getting the real thing as opposed to needing to “ease her into it” with a dildo. Here’s a newsflash, we don’t prefer dildos over the real thing.
Well you went from A to W in a hurry. How about this which you didnt mention. She found out or knows your on this site and has reviewed your browser history and is just trying to play on your obvious fetish to spice it up a bit? Does she know your on here? Does she know about your fetish?Bit of context:
- Male/female couple in our mid-30's been married for 12 years
- Wife is very conservative, never had a relationship with another guy before marriage, let alone sex
- Before marriage she used to listen to a lot of black hip hop artists
- We're sexually active (have sex most nights of the week) and she gets extremely turned on giving me oral and making comments about my huge c*ock (I'm average about 6")
- Have watched porn together in the past, sometimes interracial porn where the male has a huge c*ck
I've noticed recently that almost every time we watch a mainstream hollywood movie together that involves a while female actress falling for / getting into a relationship with a black male actor, my wife will make a comment like "oh she wants that big black dick" or "she's going for the big black cock". She'll make these comments even if there's only hugging/kissing involved in the scene and no explicit sex. In the beginning she'd make these comments infrequently, but now she'll make them almost every time there's an interracial theme in the movie. I can vivdly remember two separate occasions. In these films the while female cheats on her partner with a black male. Again there's no explicit content. But my wife was so fixated on the scene (and visually very turned on) that she got quite sweaty!
For some weird reason I find this a massive turn on to the point I usually get a really hard erection and we have the most intense sex ever! At first I thought her comments about BBC may have something to do with the interracial porn scenes we watched together in the past. But now I'm convinced that she's always had a thing for black guys. I think she won't admit the fact that she's into black guys as it might hurt my feelings, i.e., the whole BBC thing.
How do I get her to come out of her shell and admit that she finds black guys attractive and is turned on by BBC? We're quite adventurous sexually in the sense that we've used sex toys in the past - a vibrator for her and a fleshlight for me. But she's never used a dildo before. I think she'd love to experience a BBC dildo but again is afraid to ask in case it'll hurt my ego. How do I get her to come round to the live out the fantasy?
Surei'd definitely prefer you being right to you being wrong here, and as a fantasy i tend to believe you are correct. But in real life i am not fully convinced of your statement.
i think you underestimate the difference between a single Woman wanting dick and a Woman in a relationship, married or not, wanting dick that is not her partner's. Then think of factors like upbringing, religious background, established societal conventions of her community, etc. There is a lot which has the potential of keeping a Woman from going through with it even if she would like to have that experience. It is called an appedence-aversion conflict and nobody can tell with certainty which of those conflicting emotions - depending on the Woman's attitude, peronality and learned coping mechanisms - will gain the upper hand eventually. But fortunately she may open up to it with her husband's or boyfrined's support, if she isn't jumping on it immediately.
I agree, she sounds like she wants the real thing.You don’t need to waste your time with dildos. Any woman that is making those comments is already open to trying the real thing. This is coming from someone that never even made those kinds of comments prior to becoming a slut for black men.
thanks for ur reply but i know for a fact she doesn't know about my fetish. we have a weird relationship where she is very conservative (at least to the outside world) but at the same time we regularly poke fun at one another with sexual innuendos...Well you went from A to W in a hurry. How about this which you didnt mention. She found out or knows your on this site and has reviewed your browser history and is just trying to play on your obvious fetish to spice it up a bit? Does she know your on here? Does she know about your fetish?
really? she's very conservative so i dont think she'd jump straight into it... i need to find a way of easing her into the idea but dont know how.?You don’t need to waste your time with dildos. Any woman that is making those comments is already open to trying the real thing. This is coming from someone that never even made those kinds of comments prior to becoming a slut for black men.
Ever floated the idea of a swingers club? You go to just "watch" and see where it goes. Worked for us.really? she's very conservative so i dont think she'd jump straight into it... i need to find a way of easing her into the idea but dont know how.?
i know for a fact she'd straight up decline that idea but here's what i had in mind instead which i think will have a better chance of stoking her curiosity...Ever floated the idea of a swingers club? You go to just "watch" and see where it goes. Worked for us.
This is creepy and cringe worthy. Ideally she leaves you instead; assuming there even is a she.i know for a fact she'd straight up decline that idea but here's what i had in mind instead which i think will have a better chance of stoking her curiosity...
basically i want to create an impromptu swingers scenaro as follows (i dont want her to know that this was planned as it will straight up put her off, at least to begin with). i am thinking to hire/rent a shared appartment somewhere (like a lodge or air bnb) where i will invite another MF couple (black male white female if possible) who are into 'the lifestyle' and are looking to do a soft/full swap. only me and the other couple will know that this is planned but will make it appear as though it happened by chance. the other couple will f*ck loudly in their own room but leave their door open... my wife and i will hear the noises and i will ask my wife to go check out whats going on... my wife will go to investigate and see that the other couple have left their door open i.e. they are exhibitionists... she will come back to the room excited and share the details (I know this will turn her on).. from there i will suggest we go visit their room to watch... when the couple see us standing outside their room watching they will invite us in 'to watch'. we'll go in and lay next to them initially only to watch... gradually we'll start to make out etc and start to fuck.
Any thoughts?
how exactly is it creey and cringe worthy??This is creepy and cringe worthy. Ideally she leaves you instead; assuming there even is a she.
How do you not understand that it’s creepy and cringe inducing to propose manipulating your wife that you supposedly care about?how exactly is it creey and cringe worthy??
This. I keep seeing these situations where the husband wants to setup a situation his wife “doesn’t know” about. Like, just ask her if she wants to fuck a black man. If she says no, then end of discussion for now. Try again in the future. This sounds like it’s more about what he wants than what they BOTH want.How do you not understand that it’s creepy and cringe inducing to propose manipulating your wife that you supposedly care about?
I agree on both spectrums. But keep in mind, she may be making those comments and still not necessarily wanting to experience it. Your point about the factors such as religion, or her upbringing are definitely valid. Wanting to do something and acting on it are different. To the OP, and some may disagree, but I'm a cut to the chase type of guy.... most times. Fuck all that beating around the bush, and trying to convince, just ask her. It's either yes or no. Not saying it has to end there, but it can open a path to a discussion that may lead to why or why not. More importantly, you get to express the effect it has on you and you could be surprised, she might say she up for it. Ultimately, the key is transparency. When I met my current lady, I didn't hesitate, asked her if she liked women, she said yes. She took it a step further by expressing her desire for us to find a third so we can live as a throuple. She also loves watching me play with other women. All I'm saying is, save yourself the headache and wondering, just ask.i'd definitely prefer you being right to you being wrong here, and as a fantasy i tend to believe you are correct. But in real life i am not fully convinced of your statement.
i think you underestimate the difference between a single Woman wanting dick and a Woman in a relationship, married or not, wanting dick that is not her partner's. Then think of factors like upbringing, religious background, established societal conventions of her community, etc. There is a lot which has the potential of keeping a Woman from going through with it even if she would like to have that experience. It is called an appedence-aversion conflict and nobody can tell with certainty which of those conflicting emotions - depending on the Woman's attitude, peronality and learned coping mechanisms - will gain the upper hand eventually. But fortunately she may open up to it with her husband's or boyfrined's support, if she isn't jumping on it immediately.
It's worth a try. What is the worst thing that could happen? You know your wife and which buttons to press. Finding that couple is going to be the biggest challenge, unless you already have someone lined up for the task.i know for a fact she'd straight up decline that idea but here's what i had in mind instead which i think will have a better chance of stoking her curiosity...
basically i want to create an impromptu swingers scenaro as follows (i dont want her to know that this was planned as it will straight up put her off, at least to begin with). i am thinking to hire/rent a shared appartment somewhere (like a lodge or air bnb) where i will invite another MF couple (black male white female if possible) who are into 'the lifestyle' and are looking to do a soft/full swap. only me and the other couple will know that this is planned but will make it appear as though it happened by chance. the other couple will f*ck loudly in their own room but leave their door open... my wife and i will hear the noises and i will ask my wife to go check out whats going on... my wife will go to investigate and see that the other couple have left their door open i.e. they are exhibitionists... she will come back to the room excited and share the details (I know this will turn her on).. from there i will suggest we go visit their room to watch... when the couple see us standing outside their room watching they will invite us in 'to watch'. we'll go in and lay next to them initially only to watch... gradually we'll start to make out etc and start to fuck.
Any thoughts?
she's too conservative to take the lead or even admit to me she'd go with a black man. if i create the `right situation` she'd do it. it may only be a soft swap initially but it would open the possibility to go further eventually.This. I keep seeing these situations where the husband wants to setup a situation his wife “doesn’t know” about. Like, just ask her if she wants to fuck a black man. If she says no, then end of discussion for now. Try again in the future. This sounds like it’s more about what he wants than what they BOTH want.