There’s a thread called The Ten Commandments of Sucking Dick (
https://www.blacktowhite.net/threads/the-ten-commandments-of-sucking-dick.208459/ ). As
@avaadore intimated, who says there is or should be a 1 size fits all for sucking dick or eating pussy – or for anal sex or
anything involving more than one human?? I wouldn’t dare try, but since eating pussy is in the Top 3 for me, I’ll tell you what the Top 10 things are I adhere to about going down on a woman. I sincerely hope that they fit most of the collective Top 10 things women love about receiving oral (for those who enjoy it, that is…I know, I know – some of you can easily do without it and only tolerate it if the man wants to do it…). I’ve caused a lot of orgasms, gotten lots of compliments and never displeased a women I’ve gone down on (never enough!)
What’s below is not a style guide. It doesn’t reveal or get into
how I eat pussy – but it does show my frame of mind and considerations for doing it. That said, I would be pleased as ******* to find out if I’m missing something you ladies like – or really
don’t like. I love improving myself, particularly since improvement requires practice, practice, practice… If there are any volunteers that want to school me in some ways to eat pussy better, my number is……
- Eating Pussy Prep. Make sure the neck muscles are loose. If you’re eating her pussy for a while, the last thing you want is for your neck to lock up. And I don’t care what position you and she will be in, your neck will not be in its normal position. If you’re going to have her lay on the bed while you’re on the floor, either have knees that can take it or have a towel or some kind of padding for them. I recommend NOT eating anything real strong beforehand, like garlic, heavy spiced foods, etc. You wouldn’t eat garlic chicken just before drinking a $200 bottle of wine, would you? Savor the pussy. Can’t do that if you’re garlicked up.
- Eating Pussy Foreplay. Anticipation is a strong aphrodisiac. Don’t just rip the panties off and start munching. Kissing all over the body, savoring her neck, shoulders, stomach, ass, thighs, toes – whatever. Nothing like licking other places building up the anticipation to where everybody knows you’re going to end up.
- Treat It Like A Lady. Some people like slapping the pussy periodically. Fingers get into it, too. And then there are those teeth. Do whatever you and your lady feels good doing but be mindful that women have different thresholds registering pain from pleasure. (I hate it when she says “bite it! Bite it!” Do you know what’s pleasure and what’s pain biting a clit? Yeah, neither do I and experimenting on the fly is more dangerous than sky diving. Great thrill if you nail it. Holy ******* if you don’t.)
- Use Your Resources. I don’t limit myself to just my mouth when I eat a meal. There’s no difference just because its’ pussy. I’ve never tried knives and forks but there are other things I love to incorporate a lot. (Hmmm…as I think about it now, maybe I should try using a spoon…) There are toys like dildos and vibrators. (I personally like using a finger vibrator). Of course, there are the good ol’ fingers (don’t forget the thumbs!) Some include food – like whipped cream, syrup, etc. If that floats your boats, cool. on the ingesting side, I prefer drinks like champagne (Get high, get bubbly, get an orgasm!) And then there’s lube. No, typically not needed for eating the pussy but eating the pussy is a great time to use an injector (another toy!) or your digits to simultaneously lube the ass for a later treat…(See #8 and #9)
- Make Variety the Spice of Pussy. I’m a greedy motherfuckah and often don’t want to confine myself to just licking, sucking and tonguing the pussy and clit. At times, straying away a little to include the stomach, the inner thigh and of course – the ass – enhances the eating pussy thrill for both of us. Oh, and you absolutely cannot ignore those titties and nipples. Ummmm…
- Take the Time to Do It Right. The impression I get (no, I haven’t taken a formal, statistically-valid poll) is that too often eating the pussy is merely a foreplay box to be checked before getting the dick stroke on. [INSERT almost any professionally produced porn.] A couple of minutes, a few moans from her and bam! Punch the clock, shift’s over, time to fuck! NO! Don’t leave a woman hanging. Even though she wants the stroke and the seed shooting, doesn’t mean she doesn’t appreciate a good licking and sucking. Especially if she cums from oral. I mean, would a guy like it if he was getting a blow job, felt the cum coming on and she stopped? (well, actually…better leave this point alone…) Anyway, the point is to treat eating her pussy as something special that feels good to her. For women who don’t orgasm from penetration, this is the holy grail. Not only would you make her session a success, once her pussy feels that goodness, she’s liable to let you fuck your heart out – and she can still enjoy that, too. Point: Don’t lick it and quit it.
- (But) Give It a Break. #6 aside, be sensitive to the fact that too much of something can be boring, can be physically irritating or a come down from the original high anticipating hot sex. If you’ve been at it for a long time* and she’s not reacting much, or the intensity is waning, it’s probably better to change the activity. Don’t wear out the welcome. Take the hint. Maybe try later, like eating the pussy as a brief coitus interruptus activity. *(Insert what’s “long”. I’d say a good measure is if after 10-15 minutes she’s reading the paper, change the channel.)
- (I Know I’m Eating Pussy, But…) Spread the Love Around. See #5. Also, consider, while still in ‘eating pussy’ mode, taking your dick and rubbing the head slowly around the pussy lips and clit. Maybe even, after you get some of her wetness on it, slide it up to her mouth and have her lick and suck it off. Then go back to eating. And if it’s in your repertoire, a good ass rimming is a great tag team partner to eating pussy.
- The Ass Has Got to Get Some Attention. See #8. This warrants special attention if you plan to take her ass and go anal. As I mentioned, pussy eating time can be a good time to play with her asshole…inserting a thumb, one and then multiple fingers, using your fingers as a “mini-dp”, or using a lube injector (glass bubble recommended) to start easing something up into the ass as well as getting it lubed up.
- Make Her Cum, But… Naturally, every sex activity is aimed to achieve orgasm, enhance the feeling and intensity of orgasm or simply bring on the euphoria of a really nice, intimate sex meet up. I admit I really like making a woman stiffen up like concrete and shake uncontrollably like an automatic mixer in a paint store. But some women aren’t crazy about oral (ahem! -You know who you are in this category…) or even if they like it, don’t cum all the time from it. My point here is not to press the issue. If she doesn’t care for it too much, don’t push it. If she doesn’t cum, you don’t want to spoil the entire session with both of you stressing about whether she hasn’t cum or can’t. And please, PLEASE avoid pushing that button that asks: “did you cum?” – either during or immediately after.
Like I said, this isn’t my playbook or approach necessarily, but it includes all of these elements. Ladies’ commentaries are especially welcome below…
